notsurewhy Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 I asked in a previous post about my specific situation and trying to understand exactly what happened. I got several good replies. My next question is why do I or us as a whole continue to hold on and hold out hope? In my current situation the relationship only was a few months long. I've had other breakups in the past, mutual, dumper and dumpee after a short relationship and I moved on reasonably quickly. What would make this breakup so different? I'll even go as far as to ask is there some spiritual forces at work here? I was asked just last night by a friend why I was still holding on if the relationship was so short. It really made me stop and think. So I pose the same question to everyone here. All feedback is appreciated.
Shock148 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 It really doesnt matter if the relationship is a short couple of months thing or a long couple of years thing because once you have a deep connection with anyone, it usually happens right away. I dated a girl a couple of years ago and right off the bat, the first day we had a deep connection. We only dated for a couple of months before she ended things and I would always hold out hope for her to return to me because of that connection. It is rare to find a person that you can talk to about almost anything, spend your entire day with, etc. so when it is gone you hold onto hope because you miss that. I did have a spiritual connection with the person as well. It is rare to find an emotional and spiritual connection with anyone. Even to this day, that girl has a new boyfriend and I have moved on but there are times where I text her just to see how she is doing and she always tells me "Every time I think about you, you always text me either the same day or a day later." 2
theredpill Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Most of us hold on because we feel like we may not find better, that is the lie your heart tell you. Moving on and growing with it is the absolute best thing you can do, it's harder in the beginning because you can see no bad side to your ex, easier when they become human after the infatuation disappears. If you're younger or not had much relationship experience, it can feel almost impossible, but it's not hard at all to find someone new. But find yourself first 3
David87 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 All I know is that it doesn't worth it, as soon as you move on the better it is for you. Find yourself again, remember how you used to be before this relationship:) 1
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