Ckme 'Lowodee Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 (edited) In my first serious relationship, been going out with a girl for over two years. She's pretty and cute and funny. We share many interests, including a few key ones that are important to me. I love her and I think our relationship could last a long time, if not for the rest of our lives. Now there's this other girl my gf is very close to. We don't share that much in common, though we do get along pretty well. I'm fairly sure if we actually did get together it wouldn't work out past the infatuation stage. That said I'm extremely attracted to her, to the point where I have trouble getting her out of my head. I know plenty of other women who are arguably more attractive than her and although I'm attracted to them in the physical sense, I have no problem ignoring it and pushing them from my mind. With this girl though my heart practically skips a beat every time she talks to me and if I try to push her from my head it just makes me want her more. The issue does relax over time if I don't see her for a while (she went away for three months over the summer, I was able to stop thinking about her about a week or two before she came back) but it flares right back up the moment I see her again. Pushing her out of my life isn't an option. My gf and her practically live together they're so close and there's no way I could frequently see my gf without also seeing her. I'm worried making an excuse that I can't be around her for various reasons or just telling the truth would make me a barrier between her and my gf, which would tear my gf apart emotionally. I want to stay with my current gf and am happy whenever I can actually get her out of my head but even if we did break up and she shared my feelings it would be impossible to be together because of the impact it would have on the friendship of her and my gf. I just want to ignore these feelings and be happy with my gf but it's becoming hard to be with her when she is stuck in my head. I'm at the point where I can't sleep at night because I'm thinking about her and it's driving me insane! What do I do? Edited September 29, 2015 by Ckme 'Lowodee
thunder777 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 are u getting the grass is greener syndrome? your current girlfriend you are joined at the hip, its been 2 years, you know every little flaw and fault about her, you know her inside out meanwhile a little foxy fox comes along now and again, who you only see when she is parading about. you dont see her flaws and faults in her personal life, you just see the cream of the cake, not the whole thing, hence why its driving you wild meanwhile u compare this, to the whole cake you have with your girlfriend, it probably make you bored, and you just want a taste of this other delicious cake in the window you have something deep & strong with someone, if you lose that you wont know yourself and you will crumble it will destroy you. temptations will always be there but you have more 2 lose than to gain
Author Ckme 'Lowodee Posted September 29, 2015 Author Posted September 29, 2015 I'll be honest, the two are sisters and I've seen her bad side as well as her good side, though I will admit I don't know her nearly as well as my GF. I know it's probably just chemistry and I should ignore it but I'm literally tearing myself apart inside. If I keep going as I am I'm gonna seriously go insane and develop a complex or something, I want to know how I can just stop thinking about her, even if it's just for a few hours a day.
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