Author jefermelesyeux Posted September 29, 2015 Author Posted September 29, 2015 OP, what are you hoping to get out of this thread? Several people have shared their insight into the situation and you seem quite resistant to any interpretation that speaks to anything but a rosy outcome. Now, I fully understand the desire for a happy ending but if you are so convinced that will be the case, what are you hoping to establish in this thread? I'm quite stubborn, and you're right. I really do appreciate everyone who's responded and offered advice and/or insight. I originally posted this thread hoping to hear from someone who's been in a similar situation who would tell me everything was going to be OK. LOL. Why won't anyone lie to me??! I'm kidding. If anyone's felt slighted, I really apologize. I'm honestly used to things not working out in my favor in the dating department, so my defense mechanism when I hear something I don't like is to counter it. It's something I'm working on. I'm also trying to learn to be less cynical and weary of people's intentions and be more trusting, though I'm realizing it's hard to find a balance. Sorry.
Author jefermelesyeux Posted September 29, 2015 Author Posted September 29, 2015 First, Hi! I'm in Buffalo too. I live in Allentown Not much to add, except that it's only Tuesday and this all went down Saturday. If you don't have more clear responses/communication from him by this weekend, I'd be concerned. It's also early in the relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for a year so we talk all the time now, but in the beginning it wasn't quite like that. I wouldn't love that he was irresponsible enough to get his phone shut off, but, it's not like that's a deal breaker especially because phone bills can be outrageous sometimes. For someone who's not super connected to technology, I don't think this is too fishy. I have friends who truly aren't constantly connected to a phone/device (I envy that, really). But then others who would immediately find some way to be online/texting/connected even if their phone was shut off. So it depends. Hi! Nice to meet a fellow Buffalonian. I'm in Kenmore myself. I did hear from him yesterday, and that made things so much easier. As I said earlier, hopefully I'll be able to talk some more with him today. I think I'm still learning the differences between our respective levels of connection. Half the time when I'm with him, he doesn't even know where his phone is. And when he's in the company of someone, typically he doesn't pay much attention to it because he doesn't want to be rude. I envy that, too. I'm making an effort to be less connected when I'm with other people so that I don't miss out on anything and can enjoy myself more. It's slightly difficult but liberating. But I digress. Thanks Melissa! (Saw that in your signature.) Maybe I'll see you around.
MissBee Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Here's my reply to your comment and a general response/update: A little more insight into the situation: on Thursday we'd talked about the possibility of his phone being suspended on Saturday if he didn't pay a certain amount. Friday was a busy day for both of us though we still talked throughout, and to be honest by the end of the day I had forgotten about the next day being the potential cutoff day for his service. I actually woke up in the middle of Friday night because I suddenly realized that I'd forgotten about his phone situation without having established another sound mode of communication. And then on Saturday when I tried to get ahold of him, I was unable. So I think it was just poor planning on both our parts. But I absolutely agree that we should have multiple ways to keep in touch, and going forward I'll make sure to establish that. A general update: I texted him right before work today suggesting that if he received the message, to connect to wifi and text back. And about an hour later he responded saying that his provider is letting his message in "off and on." We talked for a bit. I found out he got the flu over the weekend and isn't feeling the best. I told him to get some rest and left it at that. Here's hoping I can get ahold of him tomorrow. What does he mean by his provider is letting his messages in off and on? What provider? The phone company or his Internet provider? This is a little bizarre. Again, not trying to be a Debbie Downer but I immediately thought this was a strange explanation....just convenient enough to where he does get your msg when you initiate again but it's on and off so that if he doesn't answer that's why. The next message you should send should be telling him to download Whatsapp and so should you. This is one of the most popular texting apps that only require wifi. OP, does your boyfriend have a computer and WiFi at his home?
Omei Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 (edited) Yes, we've met. Yes, I've been to his place several times. He lives alone. Therefore yes, I've seen him in person. I tested the key when he gave it to me and it works like a charm. :-) If this is true then drive up, it shouldn't be a issue men dont give keys to their apartments unless they're okay with you showing up. Watch his reaction either he will be happily surprised or defensive about you entering which would be stupid since he gave you the keys. Edited September 29, 2015 by Omei 1
HereNorThere Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 I've dated a few attorneys in my lifetime and law clerks are definitely busy people. That's literally one of the worst jobs in the world. It's more like "paying your dues" than it is an actual job. However, his phone thing is sooooo suspect. Plus, any law clerk is going to be on a computer 24/7, so it would be silly to think they couldn't communicate. Sorry, but his phone/tech situation just sounds really suspect. I may be a bad example because I do technology for a living, but I would think most people would figure out alternate means of communication or at the very least, have a plausible explanation. Your wireless carrier just doesn't randomly let some text through when your plan is turned off. 2
Author jefermelesyeux Posted September 30, 2015 Author Posted September 30, 2015 What does he mean by his provider is letting his messages in off and on? What provider? The phone company or his Internet provider? This is a little bizarre. Again, not trying to be a Debbie Downer but I immediately thought this was a strange explanation....just convenient enough to where he does get your msg when you initiate again but it's on and off so that if he doesn't answer that's why. The next message you should send should be telling him to download Whatsapp and so should you. This is one of the most popular texting apps that only require wifi. OP, does your boyfriend have a computer and WiFi at his home? I think he might mean whenever he's connected to wifi, his messages come in. But I could be wrong...I don't know. I know it all seems strange, but I don't understand why he would fade on me suddenly. I know he doesn't need a reason and that's kind of how it works, but it just doesn't add up. I would be freaking out even more if I didn't know it was coming and he'd just stopped talking to me one day. It wasn't a total shock. But it still sucks. Yes, he has wifi at home and honestly, I'm not sure about a computer. But I'm guessing he does have one. Who doesn't these days, right?
HereNorThere Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 If he has Wifi, he can iMessage. Wifi calling is only available on 5s and above, but you can still get your iMessages on the older phones via wifi. Plus, there's a million VoIP apps like Skype he could make phone calls on. Sorry, but he's not making sense on that part and you can feel it in your gut. Something just isn't right about the technology issue.
HereNorThere Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 The iphone 5 is just one step below the latest model. The iPhone 5 is 3 years old and there have been 3 (really 5) new iPhones since then. 5 and 5c (same internals, different back) 5s - new internals same form factor - 6 new everything 6s - new internals same form factor You cannot make or receive calls with your number/Apple ID on anything below 5s without jail breaking or using an app and a different number because Apple sucks.
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