deadelvis Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 My girlfriend loves onesies or jumpers (or whatever they're called). I hate them. I changed my look for her. Now I just wish she would throw out those damn jumpers...
Got it Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 None of that is difficult to understand. I'm saying that connecting the two is meaningless because it's simply untrue. He likes music. His message is "I like this kind of music. Music is important to me." Well okay then. It's an interest. If he was robbed of his shirt, he'd still be himself. It doesn't define him nor do his clothes. It seems to me that I need to detach myself from the situation and not think about it. I didn't say define him but it is a part of him and his personal taste. It just doesn't align with yours and you think yours is better so his is less important/should change. But he is a fully functional adult and it is unreasonable of you to expect him to change. Gah, why do women want to change men? I have never understood that. They are who they are. Either accept it or move on. Your preference for preppy clothing is meaningless. In the scheme of things they are both meaningless except you like yours better.
Author Tearex Posted September 29, 2015 Author Posted September 29, 2015 I didn't say define him but it is a part of him and his personal taste. It just doesn't align with yours and you think yours is better so his is less important/should change. But he is a fully functional adult and it is unreasonable of you to expect him to change. Gah, why do women want to change men? I have never understood that. They are who they are. Either accept it or move on. Your preference for preppy clothing is meaningless. In the scheme of things they are both meaningless except you like yours better. I think you're missing my point, Got it. Also, please scroll up and read my past comments from other posters. I can't stress how many times I said I don't want to change anyone. Did I ever mention the word 'preppy'? I believe not. I do not have a preference for preppy clothing nor is that the type that I wear (or in any way think is better). You assumed as much because I said that I don't like the heavy metal look and you compared it to the extreme opposite. If he dressed at all like me, I'd be very concerned since I wear dresses and skirts. When I used the term meaningless I used it in the way that the statement doesn't mean anything. I meant no negative connotations. It seems you are very biased about it so I have nothing further to say to you. Thanks for your input.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 Hi, SincereOnlineGuy! Sorry, I don't know who Mike Damone is... I Googled the name but I haven't seen the movie this character is in. You wouldn't have needed to have seen the movie. IN brief: had he been a cheerleader, is it the fact that he still dresses like a high school student, or the fact that he looks like a cheerleader that is your real problem/concern? Some people looked very presentable when in high school, and would be doing quite well in the present if still looking like that.
pteromom Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 clothes are not a high priority for me, and I would resent my girlfriend if she tried to change that part of me. Why resent her having an opinion on something that isn't a high priority for you anyway though? Yes trying to change someone is not good. But it is ok to state a preference and let the other person decide whether they want to meet you in the middle on it or not.
Got it Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 I think you're missing my point, Got it. Also, please scroll up and read my past comments from other posters. I can't stress how many times I said I don't want to change anyone. Did I ever mention the word 'preppy'? I believe not. I do not have a preference for preppy clothing nor is that the type that I wear (or in any way think is better). You assumed as much because I said that I don't like the heavy metal look and you compared it to the extreme opposite. If he dressed at all like me, I'd be very concerned since I wear dresses and skirts. When I used the term meaningless I used it in the way that the statement doesn't mean anything. I meant no negative connotations. It seems you are very biased about it so I have nothing further to say to you. Thanks for your input. You said button down shirt, I summed it up as preppy; as it is preppier in comparison. I am not biased. I am annoyed as a woman about other women who have a great guy and find one superficial area to focus on. It ends up throwing the baby out with the bathwater. And I also think it is very disrespectful to want to change him which is exactly what you want to do. You want him to change his style of clothing. You do want to change him but you don't want to admit it.
Frank2thepoint Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 I am annoyed as a woman about other women who have a great guy and find one superficial area to focus on. It ends up throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Some women want perfection and are unwilling to compromise.
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