MissBee Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 (edited) When I'm in a bind and don't know what to do, I seek the advice of others such as co-workers, colleagues, friends and relatives, depending on the nature of my woes. However, my parents, particularly my father, are the ones I turn to for the ultimate word. That said, love and matters of the heart have always been the exception. Romance, sex, and dating have always been awkward, taboo topics in my family. So, simple questions this time: 1. As an adult, do you seek the advice of your parents on your love life? 2. Do you openly talk to them about your love life? 3. And if so, how open? I would love to hear from you. No, I don't personally. I mean, if I'm seeing someone, like with my last bf I was having some issues and was wanting to break up, I mentioned it to my mom, I was explaining to her why I couldn't do it anymore, I don't think I asked for advice per se....I just shared that I was probably going to break up with him. I would NEVER have that kind of conversation with my dad though. Simply because our relationship isn't like that, plus my dad is a serial cheater and frankly I don't want his advice on relationships because as far as I'm concerned he doesn't know even the first thing about them . That also goes for my mom....I mean I might share with her a bit more but I don't ask for advice. She may have good advice or words of warning, as often we can give advice and not take it ourselves, but she's not generally the person I go to with my relationship problems. However, if you can with your parents, that's nice! I definitely would want to have that kind of relationship with my adult kids. I wouldn't force it and if they chose to leave me out I wouldn't feel bad, but I'd like for them to see me as someone they can turn to in those matters if they need to. Edited September 29, 2015 by MissBee
SpiralOut Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 No I don't. My mother gives terrible advice and isn't especially empathetic (she doesn't even listen), and my father isn't someone I talk to about feelings. Besides, I know how to handle whatever issues come up for me.
TunaCat Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 1. Yes. I talk to my mom about everything. We've been through a lot together and there's not much we don't talk about. 2. Again, yes. I talk to my mom about the troubles I'm having with dating. She was a huge support when my ex dumped me. 3. With my mom, I'm extremely open. With my super conservative Catholic grandmother, hell no. She still sees me as a child. The only time I asked my grandmother anything was when I was questioning the relationship with my now ex. I am such a stubborn, opinionated woman and my now ex was exactly the opposite. *My bio father and my ex step dad are not in my life at all, so of course I don't talk to them about this stuff.
Author icebreaker1 Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 Thanks everyone for your responses. This is overwhelming!
lilacparkle Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I only do when things get really confusing and I don't have anyone else to confide in about it. My parents just want me to be happy and with someone who treats me really well so when I tell them about something wrong they automatically get mad at my boyfriend and try to tell me he isn't good enough for me. It's nice to have that support, but sometimes I need more than that. I think really good friends can often have a better perspective on things than parents.
Grumpybutfun Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 My Mum, (Bless her) sadly dispenses the worst advice ever when it comes to matters of the heart. So no. This is probably what our kids say about us, Haydn. G 1
Haydn Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 This is probably what our kids say about us, Haydn. G 100% Grumps.... (Who can blame them:D) 1
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