Augustus64 Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 OK, so this lovely girl Ive been seeing for the past three months wont go down on me. she says she "just doesn't feel comfortable with me yet to do that" mind you we've had sex about 20-30 times and yes i go down on her, because well that pleases her and makes the sex better as shes revved up. she doesn't really like to tongue kiss in fact when she does its really not all that great, no fingering as she doesn't like hands near her privates, already said anal is out of the question. Overall i feel like she's just not as passionate sexually as i am. Now this concerns me because this is the new, fresh exciting stage of a relationship where we should be devouring each other, if its like this now i believe it doesn't bode well for the future. thoughts?
central Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 Actions speak loudest. She has sexual reservations, and probably not just with you. This seldom gets better - and if it does, she may only do so temporarily to try to keep you. Basically, the two of you probably aren't sexually compatible, so certainly don't get serious with her unless you can live with all these limitations and restrictions on your sex life. And don't pressure her about any of these things - that won't work and only create resentment which will make things worse. Better to just move on before you get any more attached.
madjac74 Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 I was married to a sexual leper. My ex-wife would only go down when we were in the shower and it would only last 7 seconds. After my divorce I discovered women who felt like it was an absolute honor to have my penis in their mouth. Drop this chick and hit the dating scene!
Qboro90 Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 Yea sorry man it's not looking good. She's probly just one of those girls who isn't into giving head. You can either put up with it And try to bear with it and do your best to teach her or help her open up more or realize that it might just be something she's not into and nothing you can do will change that. Sexual compatibility is something that's essential for a lasting relationship in my mind. Tough part is when the girl is perfect except in that area... Makes it harder to leave.... But think long term... Would you be happy with the sex life 10 years from now with her if it stays the same as it is today? If you can say yes then stay with her... If you know you need more or at least a more open and willing partner then it's best to part ways.
mystikmind2005 Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 Personally i could care less if i was with a woman who did not like that.... i find oral sex utterly boring,,, the only pleasure i get out of it is in pleasing my partner.
Author Augustus64 Posted September 28, 2015 Author Posted September 28, 2015 Yea sorry man it's not looking good. She's probly just one of those girls who isn't into giving head. You can either put up with it And try to bear with it and do your best to teach her or help her open up more or realize that it might just be something she's not into and nothing you can do will change that. Sexual compatibility is something that's essential for a lasting relationship in my mind. Tough part is when the girl is perfect except in that area... Makes it harder to leave.... But think long term... Would you be happy with the sex life 10 years from now with her if it stays the same as it is today? If you can say yes then stay with her... If you know you need more or at least a more open and willing partner then it's best to part ways. Yes! thats exactly it! she's dope everywhere else, sans the sack. Sometimes she's into it, but most times it feels like a chore and she just assumes the posish- since its so new im going to give it a little while longer and see if it gets better if it doesn't then ok, either way i will not settle.
Els Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 Normally I would say people shouldn't do anything they're not comfortable with... but in this case her reason does seem rather odd because she has no problems with YOU giving her oral and yet she won't reciprocate. And the 'no fingers near privates' rule does sound a bit extreme. Unless she's willing to really delve into the reason for the hangups and compromise with you, I'd chalk this up to sexual incompatibility. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 So she's against being fingered because she doesn't like fingers near her vajayjay but your mouth and tongue are fine? Hmmm...interesting Sexual compatibility is pretty important especially early on in a relationship. If you're not happy with your sex life then it's probably best to end things now before it gets any serious. 2
perol Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 It is not going to get any better. When you tell her you're ending the relationship because you're not sexually compatible she may make half an effort to do what you want her to do but she won't be into it and it won't last. You know you can't do without those things so don't waste time with this one.
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