hudolla Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 So very recently, incredibly out of the blue, the guy i literally thought could be the one ended it with me ( as cliche as that sounds i know). Right now i literally feel so depressed and cannot stop thinking about him, which literally brings me to tears each time. I was wondering if anybody had suggestions of ow to get over this. Quickly. I think the main points that keep dragging me down are the following: I don't think I've ever connected with anybody else that deeply before, so i literally feel like i will never be able to find somebody else that even comes close to replacing him I'm incredibly introverted so also the thought of moving on now, finding new friends, and/ or a partner feels horrifying to me. I have very few friends at the moment (I'm english, living in belgium, so all my friends and family are back home). I just can't get over thinking about him, good or bad. i just feel like i still constantly want to check his Facebook, etc. etc. and just everything seems to remind me of him, or just when i start to think of something new, he will come back into mind. The more i try to avoid this compulsive thinking,t he more it seems to haunt me. i just want to get on track now, better myself, and develop myself into a better person than i ever was with him. Please help. 2
singme2sleep Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Girl our stories sound pretty indentical. My guy left me this past Wednesday and I'm devastated. Like you, I thought he was the one and I never had such a deep connection with anyone else. It's almost crippling. I think about him all day and when night comes it's very hard to sleep. Then I wake up and it all comes rushing back to me like a tidal wave. I understand how much pain you're in. Why did he end it? Did you get a reason? 1
man03999 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Read my thread. I had 6 years with what I thought love of my life. She just got up and left me. Its been 3 weeks now and I have kept NC with her. Best you can do right now is focus on yourself (I know its easy to say) work out, overall just keep yourself busy and move on.
singme2sleep Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Read my thread. I had 6 years with what I thought love of my life. She just got up and left me. Its been 3 weeks now and I have kept NC with her. Best you can do right now is focus on yourself (I know its easy to say) work out, overall just keep yourself busy and move on. Moving on isn't easy. Just the thought of never being with him again makes it hard to breathe.
man03999 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Moving on isn't easy. Just the thought of never being with him again makes it hard to breathe. I'm going through the same right now. I know it's not easy but what else can we do atm?
Samuel_22 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 So very recently, incredibly out of the blue, the guy i literally thought could be the one ended it with me ( as cliche as that sounds i know). Right now i literally feel so depressed and cannot stop thinking about him, which literally brings me to tears each time. I was wondering if anybody had suggestions of ow to get over this. Quickly. I think the main points that keep dragging me down are the following: I don't think I've ever connected with anybody else that deeply before, so i literally feel like i will never be able to find somebody else that even comes close to replacing him I'm incredibly introverted so also the thought of moving on now, finding new friends, and/ or a partner feels horrifying to me. I have very few friends at the moment (I'm english, living in belgium, so all my friends and family are back home). I just can't get over thinking about him, good or bad. i just feel like i still constantly want to check his Facebook, etc. etc. and just everything seems to remind me of him, or just when i start to think of something new, he will come back into mind. The more i try to avoid this compulsive thinking,t he more it seems to haunt me. i just want to get on track now, better myself, and develop myself into a better person than i ever was with him. Please help. I am really sorry for what you are going through...unfortunately there is nothing that can be done, I know you wish he had not broken up with you, but...but we have no alternatives, we have to accept what has happened here, don't push yourself to move on either, don't even think about it now, after 46 days of NC, I acknowledge that I am not ready to move on either, you will move on when you are ready to move on, for the time being the only thing you have to do is to implement NC, stay away from the guy, grieve for suppressing tears, will prolong healing, it is gonna be hard for a while, don't expect things to get better any time soon, it will take months, I have not fully healed, and I keep thinking about what went by, thinking of her, I have mixed feelings for her, mostly hatred, sometimes love, sometimes indifference, but at least, I can make a fake laugh, make people laugh, and it is a progress...feel your pain, it's a process of healing, let the thoughts dance back and forth, one day thoughts themselves will murder thoughts, you have to be patient and strong... Good luck
singme2sleep Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 I'm going through the same right now. I know it's not easy but what else can we do atm? How long ago was your breakup? What was the reason?
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