Shock148 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Dude, she's going to regret that for a long time. Future boyfriends are going to want to know about her past and she's going to have to keep a straight face, it will eat her up inside. I had a girlfriend in high school who was kinda unstable and I was clueless and never stood up for myself. I tempered things before I went away to college but kept in friendly touch a little bit. My sophomore year winter break I was finally about to go back home and see her and a week before I was reading LiveJournal (it's still a thing in Russia), and see a long post from her. It was a graphic account of how she picked a random guy to deflower her (didn't go well and she told her friends it was rape). I came back, saw her mostly because I was worried about her wellbeing and she wanted to see me. She clearly regretted what she did, I said my goodbye and didn't see her for 5 years. I eventually came back and we saw each other a few times before it was too much for her, I think in hindsight realized what she had done wasn't very smart. She's better now and with someone who makes her happy. I'm finally getting there too. Hope my story helps. Forget her, she's no friend of yours. Try to find a nice girl who you could never see being in some frat house with five douchebag bros. Honestly though you can't tell him your experience because it is two different things. His ex girlfriend doesn't respect him and doesn't care about him whatsoever. I doubt she would ever contact him again which is hard for him to read but with this whole entire situation why would she? Best thing he can do is drop that hoe from his thoughts (sorry but she is a hoe from her actions and a lot of men wouldn't respect her just look at her for an easy ****) and move on with no hope of ever getting with her again. Once again why would he want to anyway? I wouldn't want to be with a bitch like that.
Jacob_Duluoz Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 I wasn't suggesting they were identical stories. Obviously she didn't respect or care about me to do that and then expect me to be the shoulder to cry on. People can change, but don't wait for them to do so. Given that it's a small world, he should make his piece that she's a very confused young woman and he was just trying to do the right thing. If I saw something like that I would probably react similarly, I mean she could have been being assaulted. It's not like we don't have a problem with campus sexual assaults in this country. These are learning experiences, we all have them.
endlessabyss Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Wow, this thread is pretty red pill. This will change your life completely. It amazes me what females are capable of, when it comes to sexual power. Good luck. 1
Terry8889 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Why would you want such a slut as your girlfriend? Are you're standards that low? By the way she behaves, in a few years she will be the typical broke single mother. Who doesn't even know who the child's father is. She will have to hot bottom before she realizes how bad her behavior is towards the people who care about her. You mean nothing to her, she doesn't like, she doesn't love you, she doesn't care about you're existence. You have to rise your standards and find a nice and sweet girl just like you who will treat you well, love you and respect you. Forget about that bitch
Zapbasket Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Why would you want such a slut as your girlfriend? Are you're standards that low? By the way she behaves, in a few years she will be the typical broke single mother. Who doesn't even know who the child's father is. She will have to hot bottom before she realizes how bad her behavior is towards the people who care about her. You mean nothing to her, she doesn't like, she doesn't love you, she doesn't care about you're existence. You have to rise your standards and find a nice and sweet girl just like you who will treat you well, love you and respect you. Forget about that bitch Let's not call a girl things like "slut" when she's young and experimenting sexually, just like guys do--and they're not called "sluts" for it, nor condemned to a lifetime of failure because of sexual indiscretion earlier in life. She's young; she's in college; she's exploring her sexual powers; that's HER business and says NOTHING about her character given her young age. What's important here is that she wasn't nice to YOU. Indeed, that does reflect on her character. She was cruel and sh*tty and you need to take the hint and unburden her of ever having to deal with you again. When someone tells you to get lost, do exactly that. And, OP, I want to underscore to you that I understand just how hurtful it is. After all, you once shared a romance and once were close. It doesn't have to be this way after a love relationship ends and I want you to understand that. SHE made it this way, which is why you will forevermore remove yourself from her vicinity, physically, emotionally, in every way. I'm really sorry you went through this. I can't emphasize enough how important it would be for you to talk about this with a counselor, so the experience doesn't unnecessarily embitter you or bring you down. It's big stuff to unpack, and doing so is as important a part of your overall education as the content of your college courses.
Shock148 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Let's not call a girl things like "slut" when she's young and experimenting sexually, just like guys do--and they're not called "sluts" for it, nor condemned to a lifetime of failure because of sexual indiscretion earlier in life. She's young; she's in college; she's exploring her sexual powers; that's HER business and says NOTHING about her character given her young age. What's important here is that she wasn't nice to YOU. Indeed, that does reflect on her character. She was cruel and sh*tty and you need to take the hint and unburden her of ever having to deal with you again. When someone tells you to get lost, do exactly that. And, OP, I want to underscore to you that I understand just how hurtful it is. After all, you once shared a romance and once were close. It doesn't have to be this way after a love relationship ends and I want you to understand that. SHE made it this way, which is why you will forevermore remove yourself from her vicinity, physically, emotionally, in every way. I'm really sorry you went through this. I can't emphasize enough how important it would be for you to talk about this with a counselor, so the experience doesn't unnecessarily embitter you or bring you down. It's big stuff to unpack, and doing so is as important a part of your overall education as the content of your college courses. Sorry but she is a slut. Giving bj and effin 5 guys at the same time is a slutty move. But yes OP why would you even want a slut as your girlfriend? You just saw her with 5 other men at the same time and you still want to be with her? Makes no sense. If she doesn't respect you, then respect yourself and find a better woman (which by the way your ex is acting, almost any other college girl is better.) 1
drallafi Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Sounds like the worst night of your life. Did this happen at ASU by chance?
Author NeverHurtSoMuch Posted September 29, 2015 Author Posted September 29, 2015 No, a much smaller school that has only a few parties a weekend. And yeah, it was far and away the worst night of my life. For the record guys, I don't know if she did anything sexual with the 5 guys, in fact she probably didn't. I just know that she did with the one guy, and she knew that I was standing outside the door, and she knew that I was in the frat. I know this is the type of thing that should make me fall out of love with her. And why that isn't happening is totally beyond me. For some reason, I still love her, and I still get weak in the knees when I see her. Maybe because it's a first love, maybe because we dated for such a long time. As hard as I'm trying, I can't seem to just switch to indifference. I don't show it on the outside to friends, but really I am still extremely shocked, upset and saddened by the whole thing. I just hope she feels at least kind of bad about it, even though I know it's doubtful that she does.
dumbass2 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 So let me ask you this hypothetically. You go to a party this coming weekend and lo and behold there she is again. She's with her friends and not in a room messing around with some other guys. She is just standing there with friends, drinking and laughing, having a good old time. You're with your buddy. What are you going to do?
LoveIsMyReligion Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Time to put on your big boy pants and become a man. You need to stop talking about this girl, period. Who gives a **** if she slept with all 5 or 100 guys at once. What matters is you are done with her. No self respecting man would have anything to do with that girl. You can either let this moment ruin your life or shape you into something amazing. I wouldn't shed one more tear on someone like her. Rocky said it best.
Qboro90 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 No, a much smaller school that has only a few parties a weekend. And yeah, it was far and away the worst night of my life. For the record guys, I don't know if she did anything sexual with the 5 guys, in fact she probably didn't. I just know that she did with the one guy, and she knew that I was standing outside the door, and she knew that I was in the frat. I know this is the type of thing that should make me fall out of love with her. And why that isn't happening is totally beyond me. For some reason, I still love her, and I still get weak in the knees when I see her. Maybe because it's a first love, maybe because we dated for such a long time. As hard as I'm trying, I can't seem to just switch to indifference. I don't show it on the outside to friends, but really I am still extremely shocked, upset and saddened by the whole thing. I just hope she feels at least kind of bad about it, even though I know it's doubtful that she does. You're in college and could be using this time to meet and socialize with countless other girls yet you're self sabotaging yourself and wasting your own time and experiences. Your behavior and failure to demand any respect for yourself around this girl is mind blowing. Normally when someone sees their ex going down on someone the first instinct is to exhale and thank God that you guys broke up when you did so that you wouldn't have to deal with such a skanky broad. Sorry dude but the 15/16 year old girl you knew when you started dating her doesn't exist anymore. No girl is going to want to go out with a guy who lets himself get walked all over and embarrassed publicly like you do. And 18 months is not as long as you're making it out to be. Did you really think you were going to marry the first girlfriend you ever had? Delete this girl from your life unless you want to go through college being that creepy stalker who can't take a hint.
WomenWubber Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 No, a much smaller school that has only a few parties a weekend. And yeah, it was far and away the worst night of my life. For the record guys, I don't know if she did anything sexual with the 5 guys, in fact she probably didn't. I just know that she did with the one guy, and she knew that I was standing outside the door, and she knew that I was in the frat. I know this is the type of thing that should make me fall out of love with her. And why that isn't happening is totally beyond me. For some reason, I still love her, and I still get weak in the knees when I see her. Maybe because it's a first love, maybe because we dated for such a long time. As hard as I'm trying, I can't seem to just switch to indifference. I don't show it on the outside to friends, but really I am still extremely shocked, upset and saddened by the whole thing. I just hope she feels at least kind of bad about it, even though I know it's doubtful that she does. Apparently she wasn't cruel enough. 1
Shock148 Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 No, a much smaller school that has only a few parties a weekend. And yeah, it was far and away the worst night of my life. For the record guys, I don't know if she did anything sexual with the 5 guys, in fact she probably didn't. I just know that she did with the one guy, and she knew that I was standing outside the door, and she knew that I was in the frat. I know this is the type of thing that should make me fall out of love with her. And why that isn't happening is totally beyond me. For some reason, I still love her, and I still get weak in the knees when I see her. Maybe because it's a first love, maybe because we dated for such a long time. As hard as I'm trying, I can't seem to just switch to indifference. I don't show it on the outside to friends, but really I am still extremely shocked, upset and saddened by the whole thing. I just hope she feels at least kind of bad about it, even though I know it's doubtful that she does. Honestly does it matter that for the record you dont know that she did anything sexual with 5 guys? It makes you feel better knowing she coldly stared at you and told you to get out while other men were also dragging you out while she proceeded to have sex with 1 person instead of 5? She does not feel bad about it and is probably getting a kick out of it. I wouldn't be surprised if the next party your college is having she makes sure to find out that you will be there only so that she can go and make out with someone and probably have some guy suck her titties or suck his penis in front of you just so she can make you feel pain again. NC her, cry alone, and move on. She is a horrible person and you need to grow a set of balls and ignore her.
reddragon588 Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 She sounds like quite the party girl. Clearly not the kind of girl looking for a committed relationship at this point.
Marc878 Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 Look you're young. When someone dumps don't go back for more. The best thing to do is detach and move on. Begging and being needy are huge turn offs to women. You've learned a valuable lesson. 1
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