adrian77 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 First thing is my friends who meet a guy and say "he is a really nice guy with a good heart" after one date. Some say this after thinking this in the past and getting hurt. When I tell them to be careful and make sure they are legit they say I'm cynical (then they usually get hurt again) how can you know someone has a good heart when you don't know them well? It takes a long time to really know a person. There are sociopaths that seemed like good people. Second thing, is I have friends who are not good looking (overweight, bad teeth and hair) and as soon as they meet these men, they can't stop telling them how beautiful they are. Then women I'm friends with are attractive and good people are never told that and have trouble finding men.
Gaeta Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 And my question to you is why are you so absorbed about other people's life? You should be so busy with yours that you don't even notice what is going on next door.
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Why are you so concerned about what "other people" (or if we're honest here, this friend of yours) is doing? How is your dating going? Are you outgoing, and friendly? Do YOU have a 'good heart'...? Are you resentful that everyone else seems to be dating - and you're not?
Author adrian77 Posted September 27, 2015 Author Posted September 27, 2015 I'm married and this has nothing to do with me. Why can't just be curious in human nature geez.
thecrucible Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 I admire people who can say someone has a good heart after not knowing them for long. Personally, having been through the rigmarole of being treated badly, it's very difficult to see potential in someone early on. I'm not sure if cynicism is best or whether it'd be better for me to see the good in people sooner. As for the other point, I don't think how good looking someone is, is always reflected in their dating life. And when you really fall for someone, you will always say they are beautiful even if they aren't to everyone else. There's nothing wrong with someone less good looking to be called beautiful. I think everyone deserves a little sweetness in their life.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 I'm married and this has nothing to do with me. Why can't just be curious in human nature geez. You can. Creating a couple threads in such a short time span about the same friend and the same issue indicates its a problem for you. Just as you're curious about how your friend(s) gets so much attention and sex, we're curious as to why this such a seemingly important question for you. To answer your question, your friends probably have a very open personality that attracts men. Physical beauty is subjective, but a warm personality or an air of availability draws people in. Not sure why this is so difficult to comprehend? 1
Gaeta Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Is it possible you envy your friend? Your marriage boring? You didn't get to experience sex and freedom as much as you would have wished before getting married? 1
Zippy2000 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 It takes time to know someone. A lot of people tend to get the "butterflies" and think this is it but they dont realise. They dont know a dam think about the person they are seeing. The honeymoon period can last from 6 months to 2 years. You can find out about a person by they things they say. Do they mean it and follow it through? In their actions and they do as they say. Also over time you will know if they will fade to grey or ghost. You will never know the person until time. It just takes time.
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