poly0329 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Background: Been with Fiance for almost 2 years, engaged for 10 months. Moved in at the 6 month mark, when his room mate moved out so I could move in. Found out room mate wasn't just a room mate, but that my fiance was bi and that was actually his boyfriend. Worked through it, decided to see what a polyamorous relationship would be like for us. Actually made me feel a lot better, since he didn't have to feel like he had to be sneaky, made him feel better because he was in love with two people and finally felt like this was how his life was supposed to be. Boyfriend has now been gone at boot camp so they haven't been able to talk except for letters.... Current: Life has taken a total 180 since he has left. My fiance who couldn't wait to be with me and be married, is second guessing everything in his life. He has health issues that aren't getting resolved, and lately his attitude towards his health is that he isn't going to get better, so how can he give me a family and take care of me when he can't even take care of himself. He has a history of depression in his family, and on Friday he seemed to have an episode that freaked me out. We got home from work and he just laid on the couch, in the dark. Slept for some of it, but just laid there for most of it. I asked him to eat dinner with me, he didn't want to. He didn't care when or what I made for dinner. He was like this all night. And when I asked him about it the next day he said it was nothing and that he was fine. He has no desire in life anymore. ON our way to work (we work together), he just has this dead vacant look in his eyes. He has no other friends, he won't talk to his family, he won't go back to the dr, even though he says he is concerned about his health....I want to help him so bad, but I just don't know what I can do, if anything.... Do I keep going on about life normally around him? Making his lunch? Dinner? Or do I give him space? Hang out in my woman cave? I love him so much, and I'm afraid that he's just slipping away from me...
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