May Need to Break Up, Feel Bad

[lakerman34]

Hi everyone,

 

So, I've been seeing this girl since June. We both thought it was going to be a situation of "f-buddy" and that's it, but it has grown into much, much more. We tell each other that we are the only people that we can tolerate, that we sometimes have this weird mental connection. We say things at the exact same time in the exact same manner, we have the same thoughts, we have very similar points of view on a lot of things.

 

Anyways, she had a surgery a few years back that has caused her to have severe bodily pain and uterine pain. Always nauseous. I feel REALLY bad for her, but lately, I find it annoying.

 

Also, she has been taking my playfulness as annoying and sometimes even offensive. She has gotten REALLY mean to me, and when I tell her that, she says I make her that way.

 

Infidelity is out of the question, but I've been checking out other girls. I think she is in love with me, but I don't feel the same way about her. However, I know myself well enough that if I were to dump her, I'd feel REALLY bad about it and would miss the hell out of her.

 

When we have our good days, they are VERY good days. Heck, most days are good days. But when I'm with her sometimes, I am always thinking, "when/how should I dump her? Is it time?"

 

She includes me in her plans, which is cool. It doesn't feel as if she has any plans to get rid of me.

 

Also, she has an uncomfortable amount of guy friends. She'll also say things that are off-putting to me (sometimes, she'll apologize for it, but not always) like "fine, if you don't f*%$ me, I'll make a few phone calls and get someone else to."

 

I'm not that into the sex anymore. It's fine when we're doing it, but I don't really desire it. This could ALL be because we live stressful lifestyles (work is hard), but I don't know.

 

She has a big dog. Cutest dog in the world. But, she has a full-sized bed, and the dog sleeps in the bed. I NEVER sleep comfortable at her house, and it is WORK to get the blanket from under the dog when it gets cold. Last night was the last straw, I packed up my stuff in the middle of the night and left. She texted me about an hour later saying she couldn't believe I just got up and left w/o her knowing, but I need restful sleep. Have yet to hear from her.

 

She can be very sweet, incredibly caring, someone I can lean on. BUT some days, I just can't stand her and she is REALLY mean to me, doesn't even want to listen to me, and comes across as even a bit needy.

 

Thoughts?

Edited September 27, 2015 by lakerman34

[NoLeafClover]

Hi everyone,

 

So, I've been seeing this girl since June. We both thought it was going to be a situation of "f-buddy" and that's it, but it has grown into much, much more. We tell each other that we are the only people that we can tolerate, that we sometimes have this weird mental connection. We say things at the exact same time in the exact same manner, we have the same thoughts, we have very similar points of view on a lot of things.

 

Anyways, she had a surgery a few years back that has caused her to have severe bodily pain and uterine pain. Always nauseous. I feel REALLY bad for her, but lately, I find it annoying.

 

Also, she has been taking my playfulness as annoying and sometimes even offensive. She has gotten REALLY mean to me, and when I tell her that, she says I make her that way.

 

Infidelity is out of the question, but I've been checking out other girls. I think she is in love with me, but I don't feel the same way about her. However, I know myself well enough that if I were to dump her, I'd feel REALLY bad about it and would miss the hell out of her.

 

When we have our good days, they are VERY good days. Heck, most days are good days. But when I'm with her sometimes, I am always thinking, "when/how should I dump her? Is it time?"

 

She includes me in her plans, which is cool. It doesn't feel as if she has any plans to get rid of me.

 

Also, she has an uncomfortable amount of guy friends. She'll also say things that are off-putting to me (sometimes, she'll apologize for it, but not always) like "fine, if you don't f*%$ me, I'll make a few phone calls and get someone else to."

 

I'm not that into the sex anymore. It's fine when we're doing it, but I don't really desire it. This could ALL be because we live stressful lifestyles (work is hard), but I don't know.

 

She has a big dog. Cutest dog in the world. But, she has a full-sized bed, and the dog sleeps in the bed. I NEVER sleep comfortable at her house, and it is WORK to get the blanket from under the dog when it gets cold. Last night was the last straw, I packed up my stuff in the middle of the night and left. She texted me about an hour later saying she couldn't believe I just got up and left w/o her knowing, but I need restful sleep. Have yet to hear from her.

 

She can be very sweet, incredibly caring, someone I can lean on. BUT some days, I just can't stand her and she is REALLY mean to me, doesn't even want to listen to me, and comes across as even a bit needy.

 

Thoughts?

 

You are making a lot of dumb excuses like sissy girl. Are u twisting your nipples while you were typing this as well? Leave her disability, the dog and the sleeping uncomfortness out of your excuses to dump your girlfriend. Dump her and leave her alone. She needs another guy who will take care of her and won't feel annoyed with the way she is.

[lakerman34]

You are making a lot of dumb excuses like sissy girl. Are u twisting your nipples while you were typing this as well? Leave her disability, the dog and the sleeping uncomfortness out of your excuses to dump your girlfriend. Dump her and leave her alone. She needs another guy who will take care of her and won't feel annoyed with the way she is.

 

You clearly missed, well, everything.

 

It's the fact that I've always got her back and she won't let me be me in the relationship. I don't even have a voice.

 

As for the sleeping discomfort, I don't care about that in regards to the relationship -- it's how she reacts to me leaving that I don't understand.

 

I do my best with her disability, but I never get a "thank you" for it or kind words. Hell, she calls ME mean.

 

Can someone who actually can read & understand please respond? I appreciate those who are real, but if you have questions, I'll be happy to answer them. Don't assume like the above poster, please.

[sandylee1]

You are no longer happy enough in the relationship and it's time to call it quits. You find her pain annoying, you're getting irritated with the dog and this is not who you'll end up with - so end it before you get to the point of hating each other.

 

I'm not sure how old you are, but you sound quite young from your post.

[lakerman34]

You are no longer happy enough in the relationship and it's time to call it quits. You find her pain annoying, you're getting irritated with the dog and this is not who you'll end up with - so end it before you get to the point of hating each other.

 

I'm not sure how old you are, but you sound quite young from your post.

 

Define "young."

 

I'm relatively young, I guess.

 

But if you think high school or even college young, you are mistaken.

 

Mind you, I typed up that post at 2AM in about 3 minutes. Just really needed to get my thoughts out there, but didn't want to make a novel nor spend too much time on it.