Ex has initiated contact every day for the past week

[Arun1910]

Hi guys!

 

So the past week has been interesting. After 2 months NC my ex (she dumped me) and I are getting along well.

 

I heard she had asked about me a week before and took a gamble and messaged her, she mentioned she stayed up 2 hours more than she should have because of some event she had the next day at school which was nice, showed she wanted to talk.

 

Tuesday - Saturday = She has initiated contact every single day at a minimum of 3 times. This is due to me leaving, or her having to leave etc and she has even sent me a friend request again.

 

The conversations have been fun, every day better than the last. Inside jokes, tiny bits of flirting, huge/fast replies (from her).

 

I think I've improved a lot on how I was before. I was dumped because of a jealously issue I had from some bullying that occurred to me in the past. When we talk and she tells me about going out to gaming events or out with friends I'm really upbeat and just tell her to have fun (Something that now, is natural, which is nice, shows myself I've grown).

 

Her close friends have also said how she has been down the past week a lot and none of them had been able to help, 6 of them couldn't help. But after a day talking to me I lifted her spirits (again, no idea how, we didn't talk about her sadness at all).

 

But my "issue", so to speak is I don't know what to do now. She seems interested in talking to me again for sure and is making jokes and bringing up some old memories. I'm not exactly doing anything and that's kinda my problem.

 

Do I just keep waiting for her to make contact, should I make contact sometimes now? I really don't want to seem needy but I don't want to blow it.

 

Any advice is appreciated

[Redhead14]

Hi guys!

 

So the past week has been interesting. After 2 months NC my ex (she dumped me) and I are getting along well.

 

I heard she had asked about me a week before and took a gamble and messaged her, she mentioned she stayed up 2 hours more than she should have because of some event she had the next day at school which was nice, showed she wanted to talk.

 

Tuesday - Saturday = She has initiated contact every single day at a minimum of 3 times. This is due to me leaving, or her having to leave etc and she has even sent me a friend request again.

 

The conversations have been fun, every day better than the last. Inside jokes, tiny bits of flirting, huge/fast replies (from her).

 

I think I've improved a lot on how I was before. I was dumped because of a jealously issue I had from some bullying that occurred to me in the past. When we talk and she tells me about going out to gaming events or out with friends I'm really upbeat and just tell her to have fun (Something that now, is natural, which is nice, shows myself I've grown).

 

Her close friends have also said how she has been down the past week a lot and none of them had been able to help, 6 of them couldn't help. But after a day talking to me I lifted her spirits (again, no idea how, we didn't talk about her sadness at all).

 

But my "issue", so to speak is I don't know what to do now. She seems interested in talking to me again for sure and is making jokes and bringing up some old memories. I'm not exactly doing anything and that's kinda my problem.

 

Do I just keep waiting for her to make contact, should I make contact sometimes now? I really don't want to seem needy but I don't want to blow it.

 

Any advice is appreciated

 

Treat it as if you are hitting the reset button. If you are still interested in her, you should reach out in a balanced way now. Sending a text or two to initiate a conversation isn't going to be needy. Sending 10 in a row would Call her once in a while too, not all texting.

 

Find out what it is she wants too. Is she just wanting to move forward as a friend or start dating again? If she's looking to date you again, you will need to pace it and get to know her again and let her get to know you again. Don't just pick up where you two left off. She will need to observe whether or not you have put away your previous "issue" once and for all that's for sure.

[Arun1910]

Treat it as if you are hitting the reset button. If you are still interested in her, you should reach out in a balanced way now. Sending a text or two to initiate a conversation isn't going to be needy. Sending 10 in a row would Call her once in a while too, not all texting.

 

Find out what it is she wants too. Is she just wanting to move forward as a friend or start dating again? If she's looking to date you again, you will need to pace it and get to know her again and let her get to know you again. Don't just pick up where you two left off. She will need to observe whether or not you have put away your previous "issue" once and for all that's for sure.

 

 

Finding out what she wants seems a bit hard to do at the moment, although it seems good so far. I figure if it lasts up to Wednesday I will ask if she wants to Skype.

 

For sure we can't pick up where we left off, I understand. However we definitely have a good foundation. She's always been reserved apart from around me. She even complained to me about her ex before me the other day too which I thought was interesting.

 

I will try initiating some contact then over the next few days without seeming needy if I have something to talk about. If there's anything I have to prove to her it's that the jealously has gone. So far I've been good at that and its probably why she is talking to me so much again.