ZA Dater Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Not with Miss Perfect sadly. Decided I felt like seeing if the new better me was better in a dating environment, went onto Zoosk and found someone who seemed ok and started chatting, agreed to meet up that evening (Friday). My goal here was to see if perhaps miss perfect had tainted my vision somewhat and how other people would be if I gave them a chance. This one I fetched from her place, went for dinner at a small nice eatery. With the advice of many echoing in my mind I decided to leave the old me and try a more confident approach and for the most part it worked well, less over thinking on my part made things go a bit better. However, miss perfect she isn't, the conversation soon became dry and there was very little captivating about her, there wasn't any butterflies for me and none for her either based on our honest and frank conversation on the way back to her place. Looks wise she was probably better looking than miss perfect but personality wise I just wasn't left wowed. Positives for me is the confident approach does seem to work well, new style of clothing does seem to add some confidence. The fact I wasn't wowed didn't really surprise me as my objective was to see if what I had been working on had any sort of benefit in a dating situation. I paid for dinner, despite her not wanting me to. At least I can carry just a little more confidence forward from this. 5
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 She'll be 'Miss Perfect-for-someone'. Just not you. And that's ok. If you're not going to dip your toes and take risks, you're never going to know, are you? 3
Author ZA Dater Posted September 27, 2015 Author Posted September 27, 2015 She'll be 'Miss Perfect-for-someone'. Just not you. And that's ok. If you're not going to dip your toes and take risks, you're never going to know, are you? Just saw it as an opportunity it try be more confident with the idea of learning. As lame as that sounds.
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Just saw it as an opportunity it try be more confident with the idea of learning. As lame as that sounds. That's not at all lame. It's eminently sensible. T. A. Edison and his 1000 light-bulbs, and all that.... 2
Siquijor Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 And there was you saying last week that nobody took an interest in you, ZA, and hey bingo, someone is. Good job. Any possibility of seeing her again?
Author ZA Dater Posted September 27, 2015 Author Posted September 27, 2015 And there was you saying last week that nobody took an interest in you, ZA, and hey bingo, someone is. Good job. Any possibility of seeing her again? Not really interested in seeing her again to be honest. There was little common ground and no real intellectual connection. To be honest I think neither of us wanted to sit at home on Friday and a dinner was just a way of avoiding having to do that.
thecrucible Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Not really interested in seeing her again to be honest. There was little common ground and no real intellectual connection. To be honest I think neither of us wanted to sit at home on Friday and a dinner was just a way of avoiding having to do that. Sounds good. Sometimes you can take it for what it is and accept it was a good night out, a distraction and nothing more. It sounds like you're looking for the right thing too - having common ground and an intellectual connection is important.
Qboro90 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 QUOTE- My goal here was to see if perhaps miss perfect had tainted my vision somewhat and how other people would be if I gave them a chance. This one I fetched from her place, went for dinner at a small nice eatery. With the advice of many echoing in my mind I decided to leave the old me and try a more confident approach and for the most part it worked well, less over thinking on my part made things go Positives for me is the confident approach does seem to work well, new style of clothing does seem to add some confidence. The fact I wasn't wowed didn't really surprise me as my objective was to see if what I had been working on had any sort of benefit in a dating situation. I paid for dinner, despite her not wanting me to. At least I can carry just a little more confidence forward from this. Ummmm... So explain to me and all others how you went from this... To "I'm done.... Screw everyone, I'm done with this bs" in a matter of days?
Author ZA Dater Posted September 29, 2015 Author Posted September 29, 2015 QUOTE- My goal here was to see if perhaps miss perfect had tainted my vision somewhat and how other people would be if I gave them a chance. This one I fetched from her place, went for dinner at a small nice eatery. With the advice of many echoing in my mind I decided to leave the old me and try a more confident approach and for the most part it worked well, less over thinking on my part made things go Positives for me is the confident approach does seem to work well, new style of clothing does seem to add some confidence. The fact I wasn't wowed didn't really surprise me as my objective was to see if what I had been working on had any sort of benefit in a dating situation. I paid for dinner, despite her not wanting me to. At least I can carry just a little more confidence forward from this. Ummmm... So explain to me and all others how you went from this... To "I'm done.... Screw everyone, I'm done with this bs" in a matter of days? Very simple really, just more rejection.
Qboro90 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 More rejection? You were never rejected by Miss Perfect. You never even spoke to or saw her in the recent weeks. Where are you seeing the rejection from? We're you expecting her to be waiting patiently for your big revelation and new outlook on life and appearance? You can't honestly think that devoting all your hope and prayers for intimacy on this one woman was the best idea going forward.. There's also a different between being rejected and someone just not feeling a romantic spark with you. There's nothing personal about the latter.... Or either by the way. 99% of the people we date will either reject us or be rejected. After all, the person you marry is the only one who promises not to forever... And even that fails 50% of the time now. You have rejected a large amount of women and potential dates have you not? Every time you decide not to go on a 2nd date it's a rejection. Every time you don't reply to an inbox message from a girl on OLD is a rejection. You're allowed to do it but no one else?
Toodaloo Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 At least I can carry just a little more confidence forward from this. Better! And look at you rejecting women! See everyone get rejected at some point. As for "Miss Perfect" she probably isn't all that perfect for you when you look at it with the rose tinted glasses taken off now is she... Keep going. Women clearly find you attractive or this one would not have gone out with you.
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