my03 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 (edited) Three months ago I broke up with my gf of 1.5 years. I broke up with her because she was immature, always ran away from arguments and "didn't want to talk about them", she had bad temper and got annoyed at certain little things easily, had no drive and gave up easily on everything in life, she didn't want kids at all, I was open to having them. She also didn't have a career or education and didn't work but was currently studying to get into child care. The sex also died completely because she said she is going through a stage where she doesn't feel like it. Besides that, we were good most of the time. Having said that I did love her and gave it my all but ultimately ended it because I didn't want to risk any more of my life betting on things to work. She was 28 and I was 30. When we broke up, she still contacted me occasionally, when she had problems with her family and was upset, or she would randomly give me updates. I made the mistake of being there for her hoping we could continue being friends. During the last three months I still had feelings for her and cared for her. The complicated thing is she is the older sister of my good friend who just married her younger sister. Last week I went to a music festival and she messaged me saying she hated me for going because last year she wanted to go but I didn't, and now we broke up I went. After that I didn't speak, and the wedding was last night. I was a groomsmen and she was main of honour. During the reception we got drunk and she was flirting with the best man. I got pissed off and found myself trying to talk to her all night. At the end she got in a cab with 5 of the boys and I was afraid she was drunk and going to get taken advantage of, so I went to the hotel they were staying at and asked the boys if I could have a word with her. Downstairs I was drunk and we were just talking crap, about why we broke up and that I still cared for her and I didn't want her to go up there wit the guys. In the end, the groom called the boys and talked to them, he said the boys were his best friends and would be respectful. Anyway, I left and she went up. This morning, I deleted all her photos from my phone, defended her on Facebook, and deleted all text and chat history. I sent her a text saying Im sorry for being protective and I'll never bother her and she won't hear from me again. Honestly Im hungover and depressed about the whole situation, I don't even know why I'm posting here, I just wanted to let you guys know and get an opinion. Can you please help me get over her. I wasn't completely happy in the relationship but why am I so cut up? Help please greatly appreciated Edited September 27, 2015 by my03
Meli22 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Even the most unhappy relationships take time to get over. I was on eggshells in my last relationship and wasn't totally happy but six months on I'm still not completely over it. These things take time. You said yourself you still love(d) her and care for her so it's natural to feel this way, plus 3 months is no time at all. If you really want to get over her then cut all contact.
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