cp112 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Long story short, my gf and I are having problems. About a month ago, I broke it off with her because I felt she had lost interest/wasn't trying, which was hurting me deeply. About a week later after discussing what happened and what we could do to prevent this from happening again, we got back together. However I feel like things haven't changed a bit since we've been together again. Before the break-up our kisses were bland, but active and now she's not comfortable with doing it at all. Nowadays she still doesn't even seem excited to see me when I enter her presence and I've gone back to feeling hurt about all of this emptiness once again. I truly love my girlfriend and don't wanna have another break-up episode, but I need things to get better. Any tips on what I should do in this situation? P.S. I'm not sure how relevant this is, but my girlfriend and I are two grades apart. She's a sophomore and I'm a senior, some I'm not sure if that's a factor in this or not
ExpatInItaly Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 If you've already talked about what you both need and it's not getting better, than it's probably not going to get better. How did she respond when you broke up with her before? She might indeed have lost interest.
d0nnivain Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Your grade may have something to do with it if it was Spring & you were on the eave of leaving for college but in the fall, it's not a factor. Sometimes relationships just run their course. You already broke up once. In high school the break up make up cycle is less damaging then IRL post college but it's a problem. The time to resolve relationship issues is when you are together before it comes to the point when you have to break up because there is no more use trying. I'd talk to her one more time but ask more Qs then you make statements. Ask how she felt about you & the relationship before the break up? While you were apart & now? Ask if anything feels wrong from her side. Ask what she wants & how she thinks she can work to achieve that. If you don't like the answers, end this because it is not going to get better.
Maggie4 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Nowadays she still doesn't even seem excited to see me when I enter her presence I find this statement very strange. You are expecting something too specific from a person's behavior, you can't do that, even if your gf has done what you liked before. It will always lead to disappointment.
EricaH329 Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 How long have the 2 of you been together? Every person has a different idea of what should or shouldn't happen in a relationship. Some will find it necessary to constantly be affectionate, others won't. Perhaps you should ask her what she expects from the relationship, and after hearing her out, explain what you expect. All the while keeping in mind that compromise is a HUGE key to a functioning relationship. If you aren't happy, but still want to be with her, communication is your only savior at this point. Talk it out with her. If you come to find that she refuses to compromise with you, or that she is on a different page, then i'd reconsider where your relationship is heading.
Author cp112 Posted September 28, 2015 Author Posted September 28, 2015 She cried when I broke up with her. I felt bad and we agreed to get back together a week later with the intention of fixing things
Author cp112 Posted September 28, 2015 Author Posted September 28, 2015 We've been together 8 months now (disregarding the one week breakup)
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