Flozfzx Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 (An 8 year relationship) Its been a year since we broke up the first half of the years she was single we try to work things out but she change her mind and didnt so i let her be. She jumped into a relationship i was **** and blew up her phone how can she just jump without trying to resolve what we had but i just let her be. During May she texted me and said she wanted to try and see where it goes but she was still in the relationship i agree but i changed my mind because i felt she just wanted her cake and eat it too. She got **** and we left it like that. I blew up her phone explaining how wrong is this. June - we met once for coffee she told me she was very unhappy wheres shes at and wants to break it off but she said its hard too. She said she'll need to do it soon. July - she texted me again saying that she got into a huge argument with him and is gonna break it up to give her a few days to get things straight she never did. I blew up her phone again telling her she cant keep doing this either you do or dont. I didnt talk to her for a few weeks and then she texts me again that its done with him. I ignored her. August - we met for coffee in the morning before work i told her that i care for her and wanted to try again. She told me she wants to try again too because her heart is with me but she said this guy treats her like a queen and gives her everything i answer her back and told her if shes happy and he treats you well stay there im happy that your happy and ill be ok. She says to me that she doesnt want him and wants her old life back. Last week of august - i gave her an ultimatum that if she doesnt break it off with this guy by the end of august it means you want to stay with him and ill not contact you no more and leave it because this is unhealthy staying in contact with you. September - i stop all contact with her its been a month now but she does things to grab my attention like changing her profile pic on facebook with him and the guy knowing it'll **** me off and expecting me too text her but i didnt. Then she changes back the pic to her sons pic. I decided to block her from instagram so she blocks me. Then she calls the insurance company and pays my insurance which i called back the company and cancel and i payed it. Then she unblocks me from instagram for a week expecting for me to unblock mine. A week later she blocks hers and changes her icon to her dog. These are immature acts to get attention? Im sticking to what i said in person to her about the ultimatum im not gonna waffle at the sametime it helps heal.
Author Flozfzx Posted September 27, 2015 Author Posted September 27, 2015 Bump anyone i know its long.
Zorrloft Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Gently, you're doing it to yourself. Go no contact. She isn't coming back, but she loves the attention. Forget the ultimatums. The her not to contact you unless she is serious about discussing a potential relationship with you. Then ignore her and stop following her on social media. It's only going to keep causing more pain. If she texts you nonsense, just ignore it. Stop blowing up her phone. Until you feel you get a message with deep meaning and a sincere apology, don't respond. Even then... From a outside perspective, she seems to have issues. You can do better. Hang in there and be strong.
Author Flozfzx Posted September 27, 2015 Author Posted September 27, 2015 37 and a professional but acts immature. Lack of communication
Author Flozfzx Posted September 27, 2015 Author Posted September 27, 2015 Gently, you're doing it to yourself. Go no contact. She isn't coming back, but she loves the attention. Forget the ultimatums. The her not to contact you unless she is serious about discussing a potential relationship with you. Then ignore her and stop following her on social media. It's only going to keep causing more pain. If she texts you nonsense, just ignore it. Stop blowing up her phone. Until you feel you get a message with deep meaning and a sincere apology, don't respond. Even then... From a outside perspective, she seems to have issues. You can do better. Hang in there and be strong.[/quote Thank you for such a great reply. We broke up because i took her for granted and i wasnt advance in the relationship as in marriage or moving in with her when we had 8 years :/ i really f'd up but we could have worked things out but i guess she decided not too. And i have to face reality and accepted the facts and faults but the thing that pisses me off is the stringing along but yes im doing it to myself.
Author Flozfzx Posted September 27, 2015 Author Posted September 27, 2015 Gently, you're doing it to yourself. Go no contact. She isn't coming back, but she loves the attention. Forget the ultimatums. The her not to contact you unless she is serious about discussing a potential relationship with you. Then ignore her and stop following her on social media. It's only going to keep causing more pain. If she texts you nonsense, just ignore it. Stop blowing up her phone. Until you feel you get a message with deep meaning and a sincere apology, don't respond. Even then... From a outside perspective, she seems to have issues. You can do better. Hang in there and be strong. I did in face i told her when shes sincere and single and want to try again to contact me but im not pausing my life to wait for you to break up with your current boyfriend. Ill move on in life. She said well let it be if its meant to be then it will i didnt respond back.
mightycpa Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Sugar daddy is very addictive to some women. You don't want her to break up with him after a horrible argument. You want her to dump the guy when things are going great between them. I don't think she's serious about you. You probably need to make it next to impossible to contact you, and move on.
Author Flozfzx Posted September 27, 2015 Author Posted September 27, 2015 Sugar daddy is very addictive to some women. You don't want her to break up with him after a horrible argument. You want her to dump the guy when things are going great between them. I don't think she's serious about you. You probably need to make it next to impossible to contact you, and move on. Ya i understand. (Sugar daddy) i spoke to her in person and told her if shes wants to remain with the new guy just to tell me ill be happy for her if shes happy. Shes a good girl she told me she doesnt want to hurt this guy feelings because shes not that type of person (im like but you rather go behind his back with me and not tell him the truth)
mightycpa Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Sounds like she's found a whole new way to **** him, and he has no idea. It sounds like you truly care more about him than she does.
NoLeafClover Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 ..you guys are in your 30s doing these things? When I read this I could swear it sounded like two kids dating in highschool. When you find yourself a proper woman I hope you get to come back to your post here and reread this....chances are you will hit yourself in the face for wasting so much time, then you will laugh for how silly you acted with all of her immaturity ways...then you will probably feel sad after realizing the time you wasted on her , is not replaceable.
Zorrloft Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 Forget the sugar daddy and the immature games. This is about you. It's time to move on man. You need to do this for yourself. So, you made some mistakes... Learn from them and apply the changes in future relationships. Become a better man. Soon enough you will meet another amazing woman and you'll be thankful for the personal growth you have made. We've all been there, and right now it's like ripping off a bandaid. But you need to do it for yourself. These past X number of months of stringing you along has only prevented you from meeting your next potential true love. It's harsh truth, and it's even harder to execute. But do it, begin to heal, and in a few months time you'll be ready for new opportunities.
Author Flozfzx Posted September 27, 2015 Author Posted September 27, 2015 ..you guys are in your 30s doing these things? When I read this I could swear it sounded like two kids dating in highschool. When you find yourself a proper woman I hope you get to come back to your post here and reread this....chances are you will hit yourself in the face for wasting so much time, then you will laugh for how silly you acted with all of her immaturity ways...then you will probably feel sad after realizing the time you wasted on her , is not replaceable. Ya shes acting very immature she just change her icon on instagram again to a picture when we broke up. Then she called me a random number on mute i know it was her.
Author Flozfzx Posted September 27, 2015 Author Posted September 27, 2015 Forget the sugar daddy and the immature games. This is about you. It's time to move on man. You need to do this for yourself. So, you made some mistakes... Learn from them and apply the changes in future relationships. Become a better man. Soon enough you will meet another amazing woman and you'll be thankful for the personal growth you have made. We've all been there, and right now it's like ripping off a bandaid. But you need to do it for yourself. These past X number of months of stringing you along has only prevented you from meeting your next potential true love. It's harsh truth, and it's even harder to execute. But do it, begin to heal, and in a few months time you'll be ready for new opportunities. Yes your right ive been working on myself mentally and physicially i learn a lot from this relationship and will defiently apply it onto the next great love. Life too short for immature games.
qubist Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 you are wasting your energy being a "nice guy". you mistakenly thinks by being understanding she would feel for you and come back, in fact unless you do a complete 180 with strict NC she would go on in her adventure. rip off the band aid. whether you want her back or not you have to go strict NC which include facebook, instagram, phone email 1
Author Flozfzx Posted September 27, 2015 Author Posted September 27, 2015 you are wasting your energy being a "nice guy". you mistakenly thinks by being understanding she would feel for you and come back, in fact unless you do a complete 180 with strict NC she would go on in her adventure. rip off the band aid. whether you want her back or not you have to go strict NC which include facebook, instagram, phone email I went nc its been a month she tries to get my attention but i dont waffle. Each day seems like im gaining my strenght. She did it today she called me with another number and didnt answer.
qubist Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 I went nc its been a month she tries to get my attention but i dont waffle. Each day seems like im gaining my strenght. She did it today she called me with another number and didnt answer. trust me I know exaclty what you mean I've seen it in many similar stories. have consider dating somebody else or maybe just seeing somebody else
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