Author Lovelorn00 Posted October 1, 2015 Author Posted October 1, 2015 Good points. I would word it much like you have but change the last word: she's gotta put up some effort into EXPRESSING. And that you said the phrase "muted sense of you" perfectly expresses what I was trying to say the other night about this. OP, if you dial yourself down so much he doesn't see your character--that's usually what stable people fall in love with. BTW, OP so glad you are going to see. I wasn't even sure why the outlook on your relationship before that text exchange took a turn for doom and gloom. Even if he had other plans this weekend and didn't ask you out, nothing prior had indicated he wasn't interested in you. Only your own anxiety about it was making you worry that without him having done x,y,z meant he wasn't interest. He sounds interested to me. Actually I know a lot of your thread has been about anxiety etc. A lot of the people that start other threads are so anxious i can feel it through the screen. Other than you telling us you are anxious. I think you are better at concealing it than you give yourself credit for. Obviously, it still affects you in the way that you perceive where you are in the relationship and the impending doom off an action that you took that actually went well. Keep working on your stuff. I don't think you are as bad off as you think you are (about your anxiety) although it takes over at certain instances. Don't worry about your guy. Enjoy it. that will bring out the best in you and will be your best chance. You can't control the rest anyway (his side) so it's pointless to worry about it. have fun saturday. Thanks, Versacehottie! I’m at the place in my life now where I’m starting to become very aware of my emotions and where they’re coming from (thanks, maturity!). Each time this happens, it gives me a little bit of insight into what’s going wrong. I really do think that the fear and anxiety causes my personality and behavior to change so drastically, that it’s noticeable to the men I’m dating. I’m not putting all the blame on myself, but it’s got to play a part. The beginning of my thread was definitely all gloom and doom, and I appreciate all of you who talked me off the ledge. After I sent a text to my guy telling him that I wanted to see him this weekend, he’s since invited me to both of the events he mentioned to me earlier. We’re basically spending the entire weekend together now, so it ended up working out. Now, this weekend, I need to make sure I stay true to myself. I can’t let the anxiety start to bubble up when I’m around him. I can’t let fear turn me into an unattractive weirdo. 2
kpl Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 Thanks, Versacehottie! I’m at the place in my life now where I’m starting to become very aware of my emotions and where they’re coming from (thanks, maturity!). Each time this happens, it gives me a little bit of insight into what’s going wrong. I really do think that the fear and anxiety causes my personality and behavior to change so drastically, that it’s noticeable to the men I’m dating. I’m not putting all the blame on myself, but it’s got to play a part. The beginning of my thread was definitely all gloom and doom, and I appreciate all of you who talked me off the ledge. After I sent a text to my guy telling him that I wanted to see him this weekend, he’s since invited me to both of the events he mentioned to me earlier. We’re basically spending the entire weekend together now, so it ended up working out. Now, this weekend, I need to make sure I stay true to myself. I can’t let the anxiety start to bubble up when I’m around him. I can’t let fear turn me into an unattractive weirdo. have fun!!
StocksnBlondes Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 Way to take the initiative and glad it worked out! Have fun and let us know how it all went!
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