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I do miss having someone to grab dinner with when everyone bails. It does get a bit lonely sometimes. I've been single for almost 3 years. I hate it I'm always there for other people but I feel like sometimes they aren't there for me. I have enjoyed the freedom and of being single but it does have its cons as well.

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3 years? does that also mean 3 years since having sex? :eek:

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3 years? does that also mean 3 years since having sex? :eek:

 

Its been over a year for me. But I started going back to church. I'm dating with a purpose. Not unmindful dating like everyone seems to do.

 

Also in an intense medical profession program.

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well i like the idea of women out there who can wait long times for mr right to come along, instead of the jump from one bed into another girls. good work thats admirable

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I am honestly just fed up with being burned by guys. My Mr. Big just ghosted on me for the 50th time in our 10 year "friendship". I think of it more I know what I want in a guy after being turned off what I don't want.

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well i like the idea of women out there who can wait long times for mr right to come along, instead of the jump from one bed into another girls. good work thats admirable

 

I have a friend that is a single mom. She does the whole jumping guy to guy. I get she wants to get a father figure. But my issue is she brings those guys each in front of her kid. Which I don't think she realizes how much it will hurt the kid :/.

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Being single can suck, but in the long run it will be worth it. Better to be frustrated now than waste years of your life in a bad relationship. And the time you have spent working on your own thing will make you a better partner, and more likely to attract the kind of guy that you want. Don't give up! He's out there somewhere.

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If it helps, I feel the same. Like you, I made a self-conscious decision to date with purpose. It's been four years for me. I'm 26 soon and freaking out a bit. I've enjoyed being single but feel like I want to find a man. I've been feeling romantic recently but I've got no guy I can unleash the romance on :p

 

I don't think it's a bad thing to recognise the cons of being single either. I can't pretend I'm Carrie Bradshaw every day.

 

I know what you mean as well. I often go by myself to things, because my attached friends are usually busy. I think there's nothing me stopping from enjoying myself. But things are better sometimes when you have a partner to share this with.

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I can definitely understand, been single can be great and all but been with someone to spend time with its really nice too. I miss having that special someone in your life that gives you the butterflies and all, but don't think about it too much, just take life as it comes, if it comes it comes, you'll find someone.

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Boyfriends can ditch you for dinner too. FYI.

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Enjoy it - make dates with yourself only.

 

When I was single I was doing just that: e.g. go to the station, get a random train, and have a day trip with myself :) Also splurging "secretly" on performances that I was going to see myself. Random flights to neighboring countries when I was in Europe... It was not so bad.

 

Single-hood gets bad at night in my opinion. No one to cuddle with, staying in an empty apartment...

 

But again, enjoy then fun sides now, when you can, since you will not be single forever. Or just start dating, and the loneliness (plus some freedom;) will be gone ;)

 

I do miss having someone to grab dinner with when everyone bails. It does get a bit lonely sometimes. I've been single for almost 3 years. I hate it I'm always there for other people but I feel like sometimes they aren't there for me. I have enjoyed the freedom and of being single but it does have its cons as well.
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Enjoy it - make dates with yourself only.

 

When I was single I was doing just that: e.g. go to the station, get a random train, and have a day trip with myself :) Also splurging "secretly" on performances that I was going to see myself. Random flights to neighboring countries when I was in Europe... It was not so bad.

 

Single-hood gets bad at night in my opinion. No one to cuddle with, staying in an empty apartment...

 

But again, enjoy then fun sides now, when you can, since you will not be single forever. Or just start dating, and the loneliness (plus some freedom;) will be gone ;)

 

I have a dog and two cats. Still not the same as human interaction though.

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But it makes a difference, don't you think?

 

When one of my roommates got a cat, I was taking care for her while my roommate was gone... And never felt alone in our condo:)

 

This poor cat died unfortunately, but inspired me to get one myself- and I'm happy with my boy - although he's still growing up and scratching all around.

 

I have a dog and two cats. Still not the same as human interaction though.
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I do miss having someone to grab dinner with when everyone bails. It does get a bit lonely sometimes. I've been single for almost 3 years. I hate it I'm always there for other people but I feel like sometimes they aren't there for me. I have enjoyed the freedom and of being single but it does have its cons as well.

 

Oh yes I can very much relate. After my last relationship ended well over three years ago, I miss having both a dinner companion and just a companion in general. You are not alone!

 

Have you been able to at least make some new friends to call when the lonely times strike?

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Single-hood gets bad at night in my opinion. No one to cuddle with, staying in an empty apartment...

 

That's the best part. You can get a decent nights sleep. Oh and the blissfull peace in the morning. Priceless!

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Haha, it shouldn't be the case:) I sleep better when someone else is in the bed IF considerate AND having similar schedule as mine. As a matter of fact, this is a major part of compatibility - my exes were not letting me sleep properly, which made everything deteriorate..

 

That's the best part. You can get a decent nights sleep. Oh and the blissfull peace in the morning. Priceless!
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Thunder777 . I have gone without sex for aprox 30 years with a 9 month long girlfriend within those years .

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I do miss having someone to grab dinner with when everyone bails. It does get a bit lonely sometimes. I've been single for almost 3 years. I hate it I'm always there for other people but I feel like sometimes they aren't there for me. I have enjoyed the freedom and of being single but it does have its cons as well.

 

Right there with you. I'm incredibly introverted but I'd like someone to be introverted with!! If that makes sense, lol. Someone to watch Netflix with or go for a walk with. Best friend who you hold at night and kiss. Yeah but you know someday we'll get this again. It's been about 3 years for me as well. I like to think I'm waiting for someone who is going to stick around for a long time!

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You couldn't pay me a billion dollars to be single again.

 

After 27 long years of it I wouldn't ever want to return to it.

 

I was never one to sleep around or be a 24/7 partier so there's nothing I can't do now partnered up, that I did before when I was single.

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You couldn't pay me a billion dollars to be single again.

 

After 27 long years of it I wouldn't ever want to return to it.

 

I was never one to sleep around or be a 24/7 partier so there's nothing I can't do now partnered up, that I did before when I was single.

 

Wow, 27 years is a really long time, I guess after that long I might be the same.

 

For me it's the opposite- since adult life, I've been in LTRS for 20 years total, with just a few months and a year or so here and there 'off'.

 

I'm purposely going to avoid any LTRs for the next couple of years and maybe longer, but probably not 27. Though who knows...!

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