fishin09 Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 I've known this girl for about a year and we talked casually but now I got her screen name and it seems like we have all of a sudden hit it off. I already know that she likes me (read it on her online journal) so I am good there but I am starting to have problems about what i should talk to her about. I just started talking to her online on Monday night which was only a day ago but on Monday night we talked for three hours. As soon as i woke up on tuesday(today) i went online and talked to her for another hour. Later that day I went on again...and I talked to her for another three hours. Then I talked to her for another two hours later that night. It seems like we ran out of things to talk about and after a long aqward silence, I lied saying that I was tired and that I was goin to bed. I asked her out to the movies on Friday but I am kind of afriad to talk to her until then because I need things to talk about. I feel like if I don't talk to her at least once a day after this things would get kinda wierd. I am already past most basic parts of conversation, but I need help on conversation starters. Thanks to anyone that can help! Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 Don't talk to her too much. If you do, you will seem insecure and needy. LOL. I sound like alpha! Save up the conversation for when you see her. If you talk her ear off all day online, you'll wear yourself out on her soon. Way too soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fishin09 Posted May 18, 2005 Author Share Posted May 18, 2005 Well I know it sounds like I am coming off needy but its just that whenever I start talking to her we just start having a normal conversation and I cant really help it. I'm not really talking her ear off. Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 it's normal when you like someone to run out of things to talk about. You feel like you need to have non-stop conversation and if you have any dead times then things are in trouble. Guys think the burden of conversation is on them and it puts pressure on the relationship. You could buy a book on funny jokes. You could play the question game. You each get to ask each other any question. Keep things fun and not to serious and conversation should flow. If you are meant to be a little lull will not break you up. Peace... Link to post Share on other sites
scratch Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by fishin09 I asked her out to the movies on Friday but I am kind of afriad to talk to her until then because I need things to talk about. I feel like if I don't talk to her at least once a day after this things would get kinda wierd. I'm new here, but maybe a slightly different perspective will be refreshing. Your angle on this is totally backward. Online communication should be nothing more than a means to convince her to go out with you. You got a date - let the chat thing ride for a few days, both of you will be even more excited when you do get to go out. When you see her, you are going to have to make conversation, however. The same kind of thing works well online as well as offline - 1. Ask open ended questions. She will answer them, and her answers will provide fruit for you to develop follow up question. Generally, the more a woman talks, and the more she gets to talk about herself, the more she will enjoy your company. For the record, this is true for men as well. 2. Be funny. Tell jokes, better yet share observations or stories of yours that other people have found funny. Humor is a great way of demonstrating intelligence and poise. For the time being, however, leave her the hell alone. All she'll think is that you have a life. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by scratch I'm new here, but maybe a slightly different perspective will be refreshing. Your angle on this is totally backward. Online communication should be nothing more than a means to convince her to go out with you. You got a date - let the chat thing ride for a few days, both of you will be even more excited when you do get to go out. When you see her, you are going to have to make conversation, however. The same kind of thing works well online as well as offline - 1. Ask open ended questions. She will answer them, and her answers will provide fruit for you to develop follow up question. Generally, the more a woman talks, and the more she gets to talk about herself, the more she will enjoy your company. For the record, this is true for men as well. 2. Be funny. Tell jokes, better yet share observations or stories of yours that other people have found funny. Humor is a great way of demonstrating intelligence and poise. For the time being, however, leave her the hell alone. All she'll think is that you have a life. ^ THis is EXCELLENT advice! Link to post Share on other sites
noname Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by fishin09 Well I know it sounds like I am coming off needy but its just that whenever I start talking to her we just start having a normal conversation and I cant really help it. I'm not really talking her ear off. sounds to me like you are not really having a problem other than you now feel you have the need to force conversation. you started having natural conversations that ran their course. let it happen naturally. if you have nothing more to say, just stop and go do something else. it is worse to force boring conversation than to just stop and continue later... let her contact you and just wait till friday to hang out. a few days of not talking to someone is not a deal breaker... Link to post Share on other sites
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