A suicidal break-up.

[Apparition]

This weekend I promised to give myself some time to relax and have a documentary weekend alone ( I love documentaries). I came across a documentary called "The Bridge" on Netflix and a few clips on YT about people who are suicidal after a partner leaves them. The Bridge was essentially just about suicidal people - but one in particular caught my attention - his story was he was going to jump off the bridge after his girlfriend cheated on him, leaving his small child behind. This grasped my attention immediately because I failed to understand how someone can even think of leaving their child behind and so I started to research and became fascinated by people who are suicidal over break-up's.

 

I know it isn't that simple, and there are other things in their lives that probably contribute to such a self-destructive mode. I started reading stories online about people's ex's who committed suicide after the person dumped/divorced them and I wanted to get some opinions/views on this subject. I also thought it was interesting that it was mostly men than women who sought out this particular thought, and of course, they went through with it. "Thought" - I'm sure a lot of us have had the thoughts, but never acted upon it and it seems to me that those who do act upon it are viewed as selfish. So, what do you think of people who are suicidal after a break-up?

 

Q: Have you had experience with this?

Q: How did it make you feel, if you did?

Q: If it was your ex who did it, how would you view them?

 

Anyway, I hope this is the correct thread I put this in.

[Samuel_22]

This weekend I promised to give myself some time to relax and have a documentary weekend alone ( I love documentaries). I came across a documentary called "The Bridge" on Netflix and a few clips on YT about people who are suicidal after a partner leaves them. The Bridge was essentially just about suicidal people - but one in particular caught my attention - his story was he was going to jump off the bridge after his girlfriend cheated on him, leaving his small child behind. This grasped my attention immediately because I failed to understand how someone can even think of leaving their child behind and so I started to research and became fascinated by people who are suicidal over break-up's.

 

I know it isn't that simple, and there are other things in their lives that probably contribute to such a self-destructive mode. I started reading stories online about people's ex's who committed suicide after the person dumped/divorced them and I wanted to get some opinions/views on this subject. I also thought it was interesting that it was mostly men than women who sought out this particular thought, and of course, they went through with it. "Thought" - I'm sure a lot of us have had the thoughts, but never acted upon it and it seems to me that those who do act upon it are viewed as selfish. So, what do you think of people who are suicidal after a break-up?

 

Q: Have you had experience with this?

Q: How did it make you feel, if you did?

Q: If it was your ex who did it, how would you view them?

 

Anyway, I hope this is the correct thread I put this in.

Well there are some reasons that may lead a person to committing suicide... I have never lost a family member or a friend to suicides, but there was a class mate of mine who did it... and well it was devastating for the whole community, I was not that intimate with that girl at school, but it was really hard for me at that age to understand why on earth would someone do that to himself/herself... to be honest I can partly guess what these people go through, and yes there have been moments in my life, I thought of committing suicide, but I always knew I was joking myself, and now (it is a shame I know) I suffer from thanatophobia.... well you don't know me, so I am not afraid of saying it here

But what leads people to committing suicide post break up?

1. They become depressed... The number 1 reason for committing suicide is depression, but what kind of depression are we talking about? Acute depression, these people come to the point that existence becomes intolerable for them...

2. Psychosis... Hearing voices that they should commit suicide for redemption, for getting rid of a guilt, that can be common among dumpees who have cheated their exes or specially among dumpers whose exes have committed suicide due to BU, which is very common, so they want to cleanse themselves, and since they are out of options, suicide makes sense for them

3. This one is interesting I suppose, they want their exes back!!! these people really don't want to die, they have run out of options, they have done everything to stop their partner from leaving them, and since none of the ways have paid off, they want to just scare their exes, to make them stay... these people really don't want to die, and they usually cling onto methods they are pretty sure wont kill them, but surprisingly they do

There are more reasons for sure, other reasons like, financial problems, family, people with whom they live, who always put them under pressure, or mock them which all contribute to category number 1

I have never tried to commit suicide but one of my exes did

I was taken emotional hostage by this girlfriend of mine for almost 2 years, I was held captive to be honest, whenever I spoke about break up, she threatened me to commit suicide, well the first time I though she was bluffing, I said I did not want to continue, mainly due to her abnormal behavior, so she threatened that she would commit suicide, I did not take it seriously, at night I got this text that she had taken a full bottle of aspirin, that was so stressful I took out my phone and called their house it was at 3 am midnight, I am thankful to God I am night owl, they took her to a hospital and they got her stomach pumped soon...so I kept living with her in desperation, I did everything I could to make her hate me, none actually worked, so after two years I took the plunge, I called her mom and told her what the situation is, she made an appointment with me, we discussed things, her mother sympathized with me, she told to leave her, and that she would take care of her, well 2 years have passed, I still see this girl from time to time she has changed a lot... therapy or what, she is another person, a healthy person, with some perspective towards life, she is a doctorate candidate, I am just afraid to approach her, I don want to hurt her again...but if she had been this person that time, I would never have broken up with her to begin with

I hope I helped

[CarrieT]

I've seen The Bridge.

 

It is very hard to watch - not the least of which is, living in San Francisco, I have known people who have jumped.

 

I can't honestly recommend the film although I am a huge documentary fan.

[Apparition]

Great post, Samuel. Your story at the end touched me.

 

Carrie, it seems it is the first thing people resort to when they think of suicide - jumping off that bridge. It's sad and so easy for them to access it.