insert_name Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 Okay so I need some perspective here. Need to cover the background first so here it is, its a bit on the long side but its important context. A few months back I went to a party and was dancing with some friends and generally minding my own business when this girl who was dancing next to me starts looking at me and smiling, she initiates a conversation with a playful comment and we start chatting about the music and theres a bit of playful teasing going on on both our parts which to me was indicative that we were flirting. When I told her where I was from (about 80 miles from where she lives) she took pains to tell me her ex was from there and she would go and visit him, she then stressed that he was an ex, she was single and open to the prospect of meeting someone. Is that typically the cue to ask a girl out? My lift out of there was not going to be leaving for a few hours and it seemed strange to ask a girl on a date when we both would still be very much in each other's company for a while longer. So I resolved to get to know her in the meantime and ask her when I was about to leave. We had been talking for ages so I decided to take a break and go and speak to my friends for a bit, I was gone for about an hour and when I went back to talk to this girl and pick up where we left off with the flirting and playfulness she was a bit off with me which I couldn't understand. It was like the spark and energy between us had just gone. She then went off to talk to her friends and would occasionally talk to me, but mostly it was me trying to get talking to her but it wasn't the same. When I left with my friends she was nowhere to be seen so I, reluctantly, wrote her off. Fast forward to a week ago and I am at a club night with similar music to the party, so I wondered if I would see her there. I do and its clear that she is now with a guy. I tried to avoid her at this point but she saw me and hugged me and the vibe was like it was when we first met, playful and flirtatious (not in a sexual way). Her boyfriend was hovering so I cut the conversation short and went to hang out with my friends. Later on that night I notice her near me in the crowd and she was on her own. Every time I looked over she was looking at me and smiling, I caved and went to talk to her and it was like before, playful teasing and the merest flicker of a spark between us. There also seemed to be something in the way she was looking at me (although that might be my fanciful imagination….). We agreed that we would both be going to a club night a few weeks later and then to an after party. Her boyfriend then comes over and tries to get her to go and dance with him over the other side of the dance floor but she tells him she is going to stay and talk to me. I felt a bit uncomfortable at that! So we are getting on really well but then she has to leave with her boyfriend and that is that, but I know I will see her again at this upcoming event. It has to be said that I am judging this based purely on my own intuition as I never got the chance to declare my interest verbally. It just seemed judging by the teasing and the general 'vibe' that there was a connection and we were both interested in each other and after having two positive encounters I am now quite keen on her. So I want to ask two things: Does it sound to the females of this board like these are the actions of a girl who is interested? If she is, then where I go from here? I have no intention of splitting them up, but at the same time as selfish as it sounds, I have been single for a verrrry long time and in that time have realised that I won't get anywhere unless I start putting myself first more: i.e. by just telling her flat out when we next meet that I am interested and that if she ever splits up with her boyfriend then to give me a call (provided she is actually interested herself of course!). Is this a good strategy? As a female, what is the best way for a guy to broach this subject? All input gratefully received.
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