xenith2004 Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 I'm a teenager and I've always been really awkward and shy around girls, I've never had a girlfriend because of this problem. At school I will talk to girls occassionally but never really have a conversation and when my friends are talking to girls I will stand nearby quietly just because I am shy and dont really know what to say or what to do in order to interact with girls. I guess I'm making this post for some advice as this problem really makes me depressed.
CaGirl1980 Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 I'm not really sure what to say as far as interacting with girls at school, but I know that my husband used to be the same way. We actually met on the internet. Do you have a hard time talking to people on the internet? Maybe go to some local chatrooms and try to make friends with girls that way. I would definitely just try to be friends with a girl first. I think it makes it a little less threatening. Then once you have a few friends that are girls you might feel more comfy around other girls so that you can ask them out. I also think it got a lot easier for me to talk to guys after highschool. I don't know why and if that's true for everyone, but I know it was a lot better for me. Good luck!
Merin Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 When your in the company of Girls while there may be some things you would (and for real should) ONLY do when you're with your Guy Friends there isn't any reason to believe that a Girl isn't down for having a conversation with you or that she doesn't share some common interest with you. Don't go at this with the idea of finding a date/girlfriend start with making some female friends.. the more time you spend in thier company (female friends) the more comfortable you'll feel in talking to other Girls you may have a romantic interest in. Good Luck
johan Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 The reason you are shy is because you pre-judge the things you would do or say as being bad. Sooner or later you'll realize some things that will make it easier: 1) being bottled up all the time gets old, 2) the things you have to say are just as interesting as anything anyone else has to say, 3) interacting with people you don't know is awkward whether you like it or not, so don't expect perfection. Don't compare yourself to other guys who seem less shy, because they are probably more insecure than you are. Don't worry about it, because sooner or later you'll figure it out whether you try or not. The first best step is to just be with people you like and do the things that interest you. The girls will be easier to deal with over time. Some day you'll meet a nice girl like Merin and talking to her will be automatic.
Merin Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by johan 1) being bottled up all the time gets old, 2) the things you have to say are just as interesting as anything anyone else has to say, 3) interacting with people you don't know is awkward whether you like it or not, so don't expect perfection. Some day you'll meet a nice girl like Merin and talking to her will be automatic. Very good advice AND right back attcha Johan
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