ZA Dater Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 Sure women who value personality and intellect exist. Whether or not they are attracted to you is a different story. They do but lets be honest here looks are important to devalue them is to simply attempt to delude oneself.
MrNate 2.0 Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 (edited) Remember: When a woman is checking you out, she's also think about how her babies would look. Stay sharp, fellas. Edited September 28, 2015 by MrNate 2.0 1
TunaCat Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Remember: When a woman is checking you out, she's also think about how her babies would look. Not all women. Sure a lot of women will be thinking about this, but not all. As a woman who does not want kids, the thought about how our babies would look would never even enter my mind.
edgygirl Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 As long as I feel some sort of attraction and imagine myself kissing him, I'm good. Therefore looks are unimportant. Said from a woman who only dated hot guys in her 20s. Stupid me. So glad I grew up and understood what matters. To me, brain and sense of humor matter. 1
Krieger Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Remember: When a woman is checking you out, she's also think about how her babies would look. Stay sharp, fellas. Don't worry I check out a girls mom to see what her daughter is going to look like down the road. Also look to see if the mom has cankles or elephant feet. 1
guest569 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 As long as I feel some sort of attraction and imagine myself kissing him, I'm good. Therefore looks are unimportant. Said from a woman who only dated hot guys in her 20s. Stupid me. So glad I grew up and understood what matters. To me, brain and sense of humor matter. Uh, so he looks hideous but is smart and funny which makes you want to kiss him in spite of his tooth decay and terrible dandruff 2
kilgore Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Uh, so he looks hideous but is smart and funny which makes you want to kiss him in spite of his tooth decay and terrible dandruff Smiley...she said she had to be attracted. Just doesn't have to be an objective hunk
guest569 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Smiley...she said she had to be attracted. Just doesn't have to be an objective hunk She said that looks are unimportant so I was just testing the theory 1
kilgore Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 She said that looks are unimportant so I was just testing the theory But she said attraction was important
edgygirl Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 What I meant was I don't care about what people see as traditionally attractive, aka hot or good looking. I.e. I used to go for hot guys when I was younger. Guys that most society would see as good looking. That was my first filter - if I didn't find the guy traditionally good looking, I wouldn't date him. (Ugh, hate how stupid I was! I didn't know I was passing many amazing guys) Today if I look at a guy who society might not see as hot, but I see as slightly cute, and if he's smart and witty, for me he can become the most attractive guy on Earth. It was the case with the last guy I fell for. In the beginning I was not even sure I was attracted to him but I knew I wanted to kiss him. I followed my gut instincts and kept seeing him and ended up falling hard. Yes I do have to have some attraction but him being good looking is unimportant. Not sure if I explained myself well lol. She said that looks are unimportant so I was just testing the theory 1
kilgore Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 What I meant was I don't care about what people see as traditionally attractive, aka hot or good looking. I.e. I used to go for hot guys when I was younger. Guys that most society would see as good looking. That was my first filter - if I didn't find the guy traditionally good looking, I wouldn't date him. (Ugh, hate how stupid I was! I didn't know I was passing many amazing guys) Today if I look at a guy who society might not see as hot, but I see as slightly cute, and if he's smart and witty, for me he becomes the most attractive guy on Earth. It was the case with the last guy I fell for. In the beginning I was not even sure I was attracted to him but I knew I wanted to kiss him. I followed my gut instincts and kept seeing him and ended up falling hard. Yes I do have to have some attraction but him being good looking is unimportant. Not sure if I explained myself well lol. Well said. You probably made all the single guys here happy. Fwiw, when I was single that was my attitude. I had to be attracted but never went for the traditionally beautiful women
edgygirl Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Yeah the only problem is a lot of younger women still go for "hot guys". I think it takes time to really know yourself and understand what's important for us. So a lot of younger people (including me back then) go with what the strong physical attraction / butterflies in the stomach is telling them, as it can feel like the real thing. Well said. You probably made all the single guys here happy. Fwiw, when I was single that was my attitude. I had to be attracted but never went for the traditionally beautiful women 1
kilgore Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Yeah the only problem is a lot of younger women still go for "hot guys". I think it takes time to really know yourself and understand what's important for us. So a lot of younger people (including me back then) go with what the strong physical attraction / butterflies in the stomach is telling them, as it can feel like the real thing. A shame that wisdoms takes so much time to acquire, huh?
ZA Dater Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Looks are the be all and end all The end.
kilgore Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Looks are the be all and end all The end. For real? Seriously??
guest569 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 "Traditional good looks" don't enter my mind, i like what i like. AND of course looks are not the be all and end all!! 1
Author Nemetona Posted September 29, 2015 Author Posted September 29, 2015 Would you date somebody whose teeth looked like this?http://www.40daydetox.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/10/yellow_teeth.jpg
kilgore Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 In and of itself that is not a deal breaker
Guyouthere Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Not all women. Sure a lot of women will be thinking about this, but not all. As a woman who does not want kids, the thought about how our babies would look would never even enter my mind. A lady having my baby would have a bay that looked like a chimera. Ok, line up now…. I'm taking resumes
ZA Dater Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 For real? Seriously?? If people were honest they would admit that. Intellect and intelligence counts for absolutely nothing, oh and if you have lots of money then maybe you can overcome looking like a donkey.
seekingluck Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 If people were honest they would admit that. Intellect and intelligence counts for absolutely nothing, oh and if you have lots of money then maybe you can overcome looking like a donkey. You are wrong! You can't have a conversation with a door knob. 1
autumnnight Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 I agree that attractive and "good looking" are not necessarily the same thing. There are things I find attractive and things I find unattractive. Confidence, kindness, humor, intelligence...those are all attractive. Bitterness, whinyness, proporting to know me better than I do or proporting as a male to know women better than women do? Unattractive (and kind of sad, actually). 2
GorillaTheater Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Looks are the be all and end all The end. Not in my experience, thank God. I was in pretty good shape as a young guy, but I've never been very pretty. Thankfully, some women appreciate a sense of humor. 2
crosswordfiend Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Looks are the be all and end all The end. Hate to break it to you, but looks are just the beginning. Once you've passed the initial filter, then you'll be evaluated on your personality. 1
theredpill Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 Agreed, you only have to move the attraction needle and both men and woman make up their minds on this in seconds, if you move the needle you can fall in love. Oh and btw if money was a real factor millionaires would never have break ups
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