Zippy2000 Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 Women do not fall in love the same way as men do. Men are move VISUAL (mostly)! This has happened to me where a hot girl I asked out rejected me but over 4 years when she got to know me she fell in love with me. Guess what? Four years was a long time for me and I moved on but I still spoke to her and was still friends with her. Women tend to get to know you and then know the inner character, the spirit within you. Im speaking in general. Read this though. This is how some women fall in love and its happend to 3 girls I dated who later changed their minds: The Rules Revisited: Men Don't Fall in Love the Same Way Women Do
Author Nemetona Posted September 26, 2015 Author Posted September 26, 2015 Deal breaker for me would be a man who is fat. I'm seriously turned off by that.
CarrieT Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 I am 100% totally turned on by intellect and wit. Anything after that is gravy. 1
Buddhist Posted September 27, 2015 Posted September 27, 2015 If a man is intelligent, interesting and kind and you connect mentally, how important are his looks to you? About as important as my looks are to him. Aka.....imperative, not going to compromise. If always makes me laugh that men somehow expect women to not care about their sexual attractiveness but I've never met a single man who dates any woman he doesn't find sexually attractive. Just so sick of this double standard. If dudes want to judge me based on the perkiness of my breasts and my jean size, I reserve the right to do likewise. Life is too short to bother with any relationship that is a giant compromise one way or the other. Being single is a pretty good alternative to burying a dream by being with someone who's sexually unattractive.
Guyouthere Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 About as important as my looks are to him. Aka.....imperative, not going to compromise. If always makes me laugh that men somehow expect women to not care about their sexual attractiveness but I've never met a single man who dates any woman he doesn't find sexually attractive. Just so sick of this double standard. If dudes want to judge me based on the perkiness of my breasts and my jean size, I reserve the right to do likewise. Life is too short to bother with any relationship that is a giant compromise one way or the other. Being single is a pretty good alternative to burying a dream by being with someone who's sexually unattractive. I married my ex wife, she was ugly inside and out. lol I still think I was funk, even though I don't drink. hehehe
Grumpybutfun Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 This is subjective. Why expect women to do other than men? Men are completely about looks so why are you holding women to other standards? First look is looks...those differentiate. G 1
Els Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 Deal breaker for me would be a man who is fat. I'm seriously turned off by that. So is this guy fat?
Guyouthere Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 This is subjective. Why expect women to do other than men? Men are completely about looks so why are you holding women to other standards? First look is looks...those differentiate. G Not true. My ex wife was truly not that pretty. I went for her personality, that was the mistake. I meet a lot of pretty women, they seem stuck up. For that reason, I really prefer the average. They tend not to walk around with a chip on their shoulder. I know what I am worth, and I know what I want. My weakness is that I was fooled before. I won't be again.
seekingluck Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 There is a guy who I don't find especially physically attractive. But there is something sexy about him as a person. I want him to kiss me so that's a sign I find him attractive. Feel a bit confused I find sex appeal and looks do not go together. It is about aura. There are some great looking people that have no sex appeal. For ,e Ryan Gosling is one of those. Zero appeal what so ever.
anduina Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 If a man is intelligent, interesting and kind and you connect mentally, how important are his looks to you?A certain look is important to me but not what people would expect. I don't usually go for standard good looking guys.
Krieger Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 All as I can say is I am thank full for my looks. I get hit on my woman from time to time.
Guyouthere Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 I'm one of those guys who prefers to stick with the same species
J21 Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 Generally speaking, I don't think you can't be too severely deficient in the looks department and make it up in the others areas. If you're an ugly slob, you're not gonna make it up by being suave and smart. Unless you're rich. Money is like the extra credit to make up for any deficiencies.
Imported Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 (edited) Whether or not at first glance his looks attracted me, chances are real good that if he's rocking it in all those other departments, his looks are gonna *grow* on me. OP, this is smoke up your ass. Or actually, it is smoke up her ass. Self blown. Most people are not saints. Edited September 28, 2015 by Imported
RoseVille Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 Lets be honest here…… The large majority of women out there go for looks first. That's not accurate. The large majority of shallow (and usually immature) women go for looks first. But quality, mature women are not so driven by visual cues. My current guy is probably average if judged strictly based on his looks by strangers. But he's one of the most attractive men I've ever known, and has been since the moment I met him, because his personality and character radiated from him. 1
mrldii Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 OP, this is smoke up your ass. Or actually, it is smoke up her ass. Self blown. Most people are not saints. You're probably correct. I've only known me - and been with myself, pretty much every minute of every day - for the past 55 years. You've known me,what...2.5 months? No doubt YOU know me - and my past and what I go for - virtually, better than I do. 4
Imported Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 (edited) You're probably correct. I've only known me - and been with myself, pretty much every minute of every day - for the past 55 years. You've known me,what...2.5 months? No doubt YOU know me - and my past and what I go for - virtually, better than I do. I don't know you at all. You give yourself too much credit. I am judging you right here, right now. Once again, self blown smoke up your ass. Sometimes I think people just post stuff to get "liked" Edited September 28, 2015 by Imported
RoseVille Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 Epitome of "shallow" right there sweetie,,,, BECAUSE…. come that day when you get older, thats not going to matter as much, and as long as you judge people that way, you will be very lonely in the end. That's not shallow...
mrldii Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 I don't know you at all. You give yourself too much credit. Once again, self blown smoke up your ass. Sometimes I think people just post stuff to get "liked" Oh. You don't know me? Then, I guess I AM the better judge of what I look for in my men, then, huh? *Odd* that out of 5 pages filled with similar responses as mine from other women, you only took exception to MY post... ...almost *like* you had a special bone to pick with me. In any event, my original response to the question OP asked of me (when asking each of us our opinions on the matter), stands. 2
Imported Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 (edited) I am going to bed pretty soon, but I am interested in responding to you. I took exception to your post because it was the #2 post or at least the #1 post that I thought was filled with the usual bull siht. I actually didn't read beyond your first post here and the response to my post. edit: oh, it was the #2post. And I clicked "like". Strangely that is important to some people. You do stuff that women like and they do stuff for you. Open doors? **** yeah I do. Be all nice.....uhmmm....what do I get?...wait, I know what I get....sure, I'll be nice all day. Edited September 28, 2015 by Imported
RoseVille Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 I am going to bed pretty soon, but I am interested in responding to you. I took exception to your post because it was the #2 post or at least the #1 post that I thought was filled with the usual bull siht. I actually didn't read beyond your first post here and the response to my post. edit: oh, it was the #2post. And I clicked "like". Strangely that is important to some people. You do stuff that women like and they do stuff for you. Open doors? **** yeah I do. Be all nice.....uhmmm....what do I get?...wait, I know what I get....sure, I'll be nice all day. Well, there are many, many posts like hers in this thread, including mine, which is shortly above this most recent exchange. It's not the "usual bullsh*t." It's just counter to what you've likely experienced. But that doesn't make it any less true.
ZA Dater Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 This is an interesting debate but one needs to ask is there a universal "hot" look. Looks are probably the most subjective thing in the world, I'd always like to think provided one wasn't totally ugly that through being a good person, engaging the person, really putting in effort that perhaps some of the looks may be negated to an extent. Unfortunately experience has shown me, thats almost never the case.
Author Nemetona Posted September 28, 2015 Author Posted September 28, 2015 So is this guy fat? not at all.
Author Nemetona Posted September 28, 2015 Author Posted September 28, 2015 Not true. My ex wife was truly not that pretty. I went for her personality, that was the mistake. I meet a lot of pretty women, they seem stuck up. For that reason, I really prefer the average. They tend not to walk around with a chip on their shoulder. I know what I am worth, and I know what I want. My weakness is that I was fooled before. I won't be again. Charming. I'm a "pretty woman" and I find people often make weird assumptions, like I'll be stuck up or full of myself. Making such assumptions is ridiculous when you think about it.
Els Posted September 28, 2015 Posted September 28, 2015 OP, this is smoke up your ass. Or actually, it is smoke up her ass. Self blown. Most people are not saints. Sure women who value personality and intellect exist. Whether or not they are attracted to you is a different story. 3
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