daterhater Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 i have a list of guys i want to be involved with. and i'm not talking sexually. just emotionally and romanticaly. i can't settle down with a guy because i don't want him to ruin my chances with other boys i have crushes on. the thing is, the boys i have crushes on are all either unattainable or unavaible. boy one is in a popular band that tours nonstop. when he was in town for a month, we hung out every night. it went really well. he was my ideal guy. we didn't get in a relationship because he didn't want his touring to hold me back. if he's back in town, i'd drop any guy i'm with to be with him, yet i wouldn't want the other guys to know because then when he leaves, i wouldn't have anyone. boy two is my ex-teacher. he's SINGLE and older and extremely hot (but evidently only me because all my friends thing him and his huge mustache are ugly... i think it's quirky and hot). he works for a record label and teaches an art class. i'm totally amazed by him. i think he likes me because i'll run into him at concerts and not to toot my own horn, but i see him check me out and have been told by my friend that he was checking out (though who knows, maybe i had something on my face or he simply thought 'oh, there's an ex-student). when he was my teacher and had our one-on-one meeting, he blushed and stammered and it was super cute. another reason i can't get involved with anyone is because of this guy and the fact that i think somewhere down the line, i'll meet up with him at a concert and we'll be able to uh... hit it off and at least try dating. i wouldn't want a boy to get in the way of this dream. ha. there are other boys too. it's like i have all these guys i want to obtain, but don't want to be held down by any of them in case i would be better off with another guy. okay, SO I'M ****ING BOY CRAZY. the weird thing is i'm 22 and was way more mature about relationships when i was 20. when i was 20, i had my first longterm, real realtionship AND GOT DUMPED. i've been afraid to settle down since.
XNemesisX Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by daterhater the weird thing is i'm 22 and was way more mature about relationships when i was 20. when i was 20, i had my first longterm, real realtionship AND GOT DUMPED. i've been afraid to settle down since. Right there is your answer! I'm in somewhat the same position as you. I'm 22, had a really long relationship at 20 (the one in which I was engaged) that ended 7 months ago. I was dumped, and now --- I can't even seem to get the desire to commit! I was burned badly, and now I just don't feel very enthused to date exclusively again. I see nothing wrong in how you are behaving/thinking. It's called dating! That's how I see it! You go out with as many people as you like, don't commit to any of them...it's how you figure out what sort of man you are looking for. I think the most unwise decision would be to commit to the first guy to come along and pique your interest. I'm sure as hell not going to do that! Not after this last hell of a relationship I was in! Date as many people as you want and enjoy yourself! That's what it's all about! In the process, if you meet someone you REALLY REALLY like then you will have no problems committing and forgetting all the rest. Until then, you may just not like any of these guys *enough* to stop dating the others. And after a crappy breakup that may leave you scarred, I think it's pretty understandable to be hesitant about being exclusive again. I feel ya on that, girl.
Author daterhater Posted May 18, 2005 Author Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by XNemesisX Right there is your answer! I'm in somewhat the same position as you. I'm 22, had a really long relationship at 20 (the one in which I was engaged) that ended 7 months ago. I was dumped, and now --- I can't even seem to get the desire to commit! I was burned badly, and now I just don't feel very enthused to date exclusively again. I see nothing wrong in how you are behaving/thinking. It's called dating! That's how I see it! You go out with as many people as you like, don't commit to any of them...it's how you figure out what sort of man you are looking for. I think the most unwise decision would be to commit to the first guy to come along and pique your interest. I'm sure as hell not going to do that! Not after this last hell of a relationship I was in! Date as many people as you want and enjoy yourself! That's what it's all about! In the process, if you meet someone you REALLY REALLY like then you will have no problems committing and forgetting all the rest. Until then, you may just not like any of these guys *enough* to stop dating the others. And after a crappy breakup that may leave you scarred, I think it's pretty understandable to be hesitant about being exclusive again. I feel ya on that, girl. ahh! i can't tell you how happy it makes me to see someone else is in the same boat AND understands the need. Okay, I don't feel so bad about this anymore. haha. Thanks!
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