Author Oregon_Dude Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 40 year old hot yoga chick canceled on me for Sunday. She "met someone". Down to two for the week! Keep the cancellations coming!
Itspointless Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 You guys are too funny. I'm 2 months out of a 3.5 month relationship. Not a huge commitment there. It is fine for me to date now. Me breaking hearts? These chicks don't like ME. Whatever though, these are, as mentioned, standard LS responses. Thanks for your input. I also appreciate the condescension. If you were indeed over your ex you would not be so denigrating about LS advice. Good luck, and I seriously mean that.
StBreton Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 (edited) 40 year old hot yoga chick canceled on me for Sunday. She "met someone". Down to two for the week! Keep the cancellations coming! Good to be comfortable in being single again ...However ...Seems like you'd be ready for a relationship if the right one came along ...I'm ok being single now ...but I know I'm better being part of a couple. I truly enjoy everything about it. Many feel that way ... even if you find someone you click with you could just take it slowly ...I don't think you're going to break anyone's heart. Let those cancelations roll off your back like Teflon man ...keeps you open for the someone who's available. Edited October 14, 2015 by StBreton 1
Author Oregon_Dude Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 If you were indeed over your ex you would not be so denigrating about LS advice. Good luck, and I seriously mean that.Do you mean that I would have to agree with everything that was said to me itt, in order to be over her? That's a tad circular. Look, only I know how I feel, and I've been honest with myself. I was torn up about her for quite a while. Now days pass where I barely think of her. For others to say that I am "using" dates in order to get over her or rebounding, this is just incorrect. I'm meeting new people. Nothing wrong with that. I AM emotionally available. My r/s was comparatively short to others. What irked me was others making huge assumptions about me, saying "we've all been there" in a condescending way, and being reductive and dismissive. Not everyone dating after a b/u is "rebounding". Anyway, some of this is similar to a person attacking someone, and then when the person defends themselves, he is called "defensive". You can't win. I will continue to entertain LS by posting stories of my dating failures.
Itspointless Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Do you mean that I would have to agree with everything that was said to me itt, in order to be over her? That's a tad circular. Look, only I know how I feel, and I've been honest with myself. I was torn up about her for quite a while. Now days pass where I barely think of her. For others to say that I am "using" dates in order to get over her or rebounding, this is just incorrect. I'm meeting new people. Nothing wrong with that. I AM emotionally available. My r/s was comparatively short to others. What irked me was others making huge assumptions about me, saying "we've all been there" in a condescending way, and being reductive and dismissive. Not everyone dating after a b/u is "rebounding". Anyway, some of this is similar to a person attacking someone, and then when the person defends themselves, he is called "defensive". You can't win. I will continue to entertain LS by posting stories of my dating failures. I haven't read the whole thread, so I won't be saying that you should agree with everything that is said. But on the previous page I have read a couple of sane posts I think you are of-course in the end the best judge of yourself. But it all does seem a bit quick to me if you have been so sad before. Perhaps that is normal to you, I don't know, I am the opposite. What I do know though is that many people who post here - including some friends of mine are often deluding themselves thinking they have moved on. So I would recommended you to take small steps.
Author Oregon_Dude Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 What I do know though is that many people who post here - including some friends of mine are often deluding themselves thinking they have moved on. So I would recommended you to take small steps.Thank you. Believe it or not, I appreciate the advice. I'm moving on, slowly. Bought an electric guitar and a drumset, got a second job. Going on dates and not getting depressed when I get rejected. As the saying goes, you can be the best cup of tea in the world, but there's always going to be someone who doesn't like tea. I love women and I cannot help myself. Only thing is, I don't make six figures, am not a male model and am under six feet tall. Sad face
StBreton Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Thank you. Believe it or not, I appreciate the advice. I'm moving on, slowly. Bought an electric guitar and a drumset, got a second job. Going on dates and not getting depressed when I get rejected. As the saying goes, you can be the best cup of tea in the world, but there's always going to be someone who doesn't like tea. I love women and I cannot help myself. Only thing is, I don't make six figures, am not a male model and am under six feet tall. Sad face I was at the beach a few months ago ...out to breakfast at table next to ours was a table of 4 couples. All the girls were 30s and cute cute. All the guys? Average ...short and I mean no taller than 5'9" (I know height as son is 5'9") ...don't know about income but don't discount yourself. Really most girls don't care about height ...just want you 3 inches taller for the heal factor. Keep going for it OD!!
Author Oregon_Dude Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 Really most girls don't care about height ...just want you 3 inches taller for the heal factor. Keep going for it OD!!Thanks brohan. I'm 5'8" ish and have a date with a 5'10" chick this Saturday.. if she doesn't cancel. At this point in OLD I wouldn't be surprised if she did.
StBreton Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Thanks brohan. I'm 5'8" ish and have a date with a 5'10" chick this Saturday.. if she doesn't cancel. At this point in OLD I wouldn't be surprised if she did. If it's a fail make sure you have a back up plan even it's learning a new song on your guitar ... Or take some time to find others to "jam" with. Your height is fine ...do you work out /muscular? Girls do like that more than height.
losangelena Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I was at the beach a few months ago ...out to breakfast at table next to ours was a table of 4 couples. All the girls were 30s and cute cute. All the guys? Average ...short and I mean no taller than 5'9" (I know height as son is 5'9") ...don't know about income but don't discount yourself. Really most girls don't care about height ...just want you 3 inches taller for the heal factor. Keep going for it OD!! Would say the same thing. Height, looks and income are hardly the most important factors in finding a good match. Don't believe that hype. Crock of sh*t in my opinion.
Author Oregon_Dude Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 If it's a fail make sure you have a back up plan even it's learning a new song on your guitar ... Or take some time to find others to "jam" with. Your height is fine ...do you work out /muscular? Girls do like that more than height.Thanks for the tip. I'm there, holmes. Got a weekly jam with my friend and plenty of original songs to work with. I do work out, mostly cardio. Do you even lift, bro? I'm in good shape, but definitely not muscular. I've been meaning to get on the pushups, but the mere thought of it leaves me drained. LA, thanks for the input. I get DQ'd on OLD because of those things, but IRL, they're A-OK.
Miss Peach Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 (edited) I love women and I cannot help myself. Only thing is, I don't make six figures, am not a male model and am under six feet tall. Sad face There are a lot of good women who don't care about these things. The last guy I went out with prior to my BF was about to be laid off (and since has), was 5'6", a bit plump with a beer belly, and balding. I wouldn't have minded any of that as long as long as he eventually job another job and we had more chemistry. He kept himself busy with volunteering and had prepared for it so I respected that and didn't think he would have a problem returning to work at some point. I make good money and don't really care what a guy does as long as he enjoys it and doesn't rely on me for money. I have an ex that mooched off my for years so it does both me if a guy has no aspirations or job or any sort. The last relationship I was in the guy was my height, short, heavy/thick, glasses, balding. Think George Castanza from Seinfield. But he made me comfortable and made me laugh. That's how he got a date. Personally speaking I'm looking a lot at at values and character which take time to tell. Yes, I need attraction and chemistry but but I'm open to the package that comes in. It doesn't need to come from a model. I just need to feel I would enjoying kissing him and possibly being naughty at some point if we get there. Edited October 14, 2015 by Miss Peach 2
Author Oregon_Dude Posted October 14, 2015 Author Posted October 14, 2015 I'm looking a lot at at values and character which take time to tell. Yes, I need attraction and chemistry but but I'm open to the package that comes in. It doesn't need to come from a model. I just need to feel I would enjoying kissing him and possibly being naughty at some point if we get there. Thanks for this. I was being somewhat facetious about women only wanting the tall, rich male model - although especially on OLD, many of them seem to be holding out for exactly that. I'm a good man of character and talent. It's going to take time for me to meet someone like you in this big world, i.e., non-game-playing women who know what they want and when they see it. I'm also pretty good in bed, so I've been told, and dove pretty deeply into the world of kink in my last r/s. A little domination never hurt anyone 2
Miss Peach Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Thanks for this. I was being somewhat facetious about women only wanting the tall, rich male model - although especially on OLD, many of them seem to be holding out for exactly that. I'm a good man of character and talent. It's going to take time for me to meet someone like you in this big world, i.e., non-game-playing women who know what they want and when they see it. I'm also pretty good in bed, so I've been told, and dove pretty deeply into the world of kink in my last r/s. A little domination never hurt anyone All those things are good IMO. Especially a little willingness to go a bit kink. A lot of the good guys can be vanilla there and vanilla is a good one for some things but I like other spices/flavors too. A guy who wants to please his woman and is open to trying things is a great thing. I look at it like a jigsaw puzzle. You find pieces that don't fit whatsoever. You find ones that are close and there is something off. Eventually you'll find one that fits pretty well. But you may have to look through a lot of pieces first. You might find it on the first one or the 1000th one. You never know. 2
Author Oregon_Dude Posted October 16, 2015 Author Posted October 16, 2015 Tonight's date: met up at a coffee shop; knew immediately I wasn't that attracted to her. (She could have likely felt the same way.) Sometimes pics don't tell the whole story, and though I knew from her pics she wasn't gorgeous, I wanted to see what she looked like and who she was in person. Decent conversation, enough to fill a date. I knew in my mind I didn't want to see her again though, because I just wasn't attracted to her enough. We parted ways at the end without even pretending we would go out again - which is best. This was a nothing date, no disappointment or sparks either. I'm not bummed about it. Hoping Saturday's is better. Will report then!
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