menyou Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Not a question but instead a statement of truth. Your gut is ALWAYS right. Listen to yourself. You may come here for validation of your thoughts, but in the end you know all the answers. 3
Redhead14 Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Not a question but instead a statement of truth. Your gut is ALWAYS right. Listen to yourself. You may come here for validation of your thoughts, but in the end you know all the answers. A great number of men and women do not have the depth of self-awareness that allows them to be able to tap into or trust their guts and/or simply deny their "gut" because it's telling them things they don't really want to hear or accept . . . 2
J21 Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Love (or the thought of being in love) can make you blind. What can ya do? :laugh: 2
Frank2thepoint Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Not a question but instead a statement of truth. Your gut is ALWAYS right. Listen to yourself. You may come here for validation of your thoughts, but in the end you know all the answers. A great number of men and women do not have the depth of self-awareness that allows them to be able to tap into or trust their guts and/or simply deny their "gut" because it's telling them things they don't really want to hear or accept . . . Very good statement, but I agree with Redhead14. Not many people are willing to listen to their gut/instincts/intuition. Many believe perseverance, patience, or just doing more will improve their romantic problems. Letting go is a scary endeavor for some. It means they will have to go back to being single. 1
scooby-philly Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 I agree. It's a very good statement. It's like "if you have to ask how expensive it is..." But in terms of our love & relationships, our hesitations, doubt, extended attempts to make things work that really won't - it's our fear & experience holding us back. Maybe we're afraid of the stigma of being alone or being seen as "undatable". Maybe we were told we would never find someone by our last ex Maybe our parents never encouraged us to be free and find happiness The list goes on and on But yes - our gut is always right. I've paid the price for it twice - with women who didn't really respect or love me like I did them. Cuase I was afraid i wouldn't find the woman of my dreams 1
casey.lives Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 The thing that scared me about my ex was.. his aggressiveness. It wasn't my "gut intuition" it was his forcefulness.. his indiscriminate brutishness :(
katiegrl Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Very good statement, but I agree with Redhead14. Not many people are willing to listen to their gut/instincts/intuition. Many believe perseverance, patience, or just doing more will improve their romantic problems. Letting go is a scary endeavor for some. It means they will have to go back to being single. I also think projection plays a big role. In that we often project how WE feel onto the other person and assume he/she feels the same. When in fact they don't, those are our own feelings, being projected on to them.... So whatever our gut is telling us when we are projecting is often half-ass backwards. Like how many women have posted how the guy she's dating is pulling back, and her gut is telling her - maybe he thinks I don't like him! Based on her projecting her own feelings on to him. Like she just can mentally and emotionally process that he's just not into her.... because SHE is just so into him -- again HER feelings, not his.
Author menyou Posted September 25, 2015 Author Posted September 25, 2015 I also think projection plays a big role. In that we often project how WE feel onto the other person and assume he/she feels the same. When in fact they don't, those are our own feelings, being projected on to them.... So whatever our gut is telling us when we are projecting is often half-ass backwards. Like how many women have posted how the guy she's dating is pulling back, and her gut is telling her - maybe he thinks I don't like him! Based on her projecting her own feelings on to him. Like she just can mentally and emotionally process that he's just not into her.... because SHE is just so into him -- again HER feelings, not his. I think the last part can go the other way, too. People self sabotage when their feelings are strong and they just misinterpret what the person the are dating means by their words/actions or lack their of. I made that initial statement not always to mean negative but positive as well.
Gaeta Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 By the time my instinct kicks in the damage has already been done so no I cannot trust that instinct you're talking about.
Author menyou Posted September 25, 2015 Author Posted September 25, 2015 By the time my instinct kicks in the damage has already been done so no I cannot trust that instinct you're talking about. Instinct isn't thought based. It comes from things that you have learned. ( my last BF did the same thing to me that my new boyfriend does, so this relationship will wind up the same) So essentially you are making decisions based on past experiences. Intuition is when you don't really know the potential outcome just have a feeling about something, good or bad. Does this make sense? I have a headache and am tired so I am not sure it does lol sorry!
katiegrl Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 (edited) Instinct isn't thought based. It comes from things that you have learned. ( my last BF did the same thing to me that my new boyfriend does, so this relationship will wind up the same) So essentially you are making decisions based on past experiences. Intuition is when you don't really know the potential outcome just have a feeling about something, good or bad. Does this make sense? I have a headache and am tired so I am not sure it does lol sorry! �� Hell yeah it makes sense! I have always had strong instincts.... going back to when I was wee high... and I know they are genuine and not from past bad experiences, because I have NOT had a lot of bad experiences.....thanks to my strong intuition! I exit situations based on that strong intuition.... I trust it, I rely on it to guide me....and I follow it. I believe my instincts have saved me from quite a few potential heartbreaks... had I not listened. While they have also led me to some wondering experiences, as well. Edited September 26, 2015 by katiegrl
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