Totti90 Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Hello.. This is my first post here, I hope I'm in the right section.. Obviously I'm desperate enough to be posting here right now.. I'll try to make it as short as possible.. I'm almost 25 y/o I've been with my GF for 7 years now.. I met my Best friend 5 years ago.. That is a long time, in both relationships. My best friend started to have feelings for me, and she openly told me that a long time ago... At the time i told her we better just stay friends ( since i was, and still in a relationship ) so i tried my best to block any feelings for her in my head... We kept our friendship and it became even stronger, it kept growing... Recently she told me that she couldn't do that anymore, and that we need to stop talking, because she always hoped that one day we'd take our relationship to the next level, but not anymore, and she's done. That was last month, and since then I just feel sick, I lost focus, can't concentrate on anything, and i keep thinking about her. I miss her so much, she left a HUGE space in my life. when she disappeared just like that from my life, i started to rethink the whole situation, the whole 5 years.. I even read her texts and saw some things I've never paid attention to. If i talk to her again, that has to mean leaving my GF for her. my GF has never let me down and I can't do that to her :/ I've never cheated on her, and she knew about my Bestfriend. whenever i think about it i feel a little pain in my chest which causes me breathlessness... This is the hardest decision I've ever faced in my life... -I must have left out a lot of details, so I'll try to give you some more context if you're not getting the picture. -sorry for the long post.. and for any screw ups in the grammar/language. my English isn't that good. Thanks
salparadise Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Yea, one detail you left out... are you male or female? I don't know how you managed to write the whole post and not give a clue as to your gender, but the fact that you did, plus your feminine-sounding username makes me wonder if this is a lesbian triangle... in love with both but only sexing one. And now you're wondering if it's the right one. Is there a question you intended to ask?
CT98 Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Probably a shock that the best friend has had enough now, but also for the best. It's not really fair on your girlfriend for her to be sticking around.
casey.lives Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Be with the person who brings out your goodness and kindness and beautifulness. Good Luck
purpledooze Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 If you love your girlfriend, stay with her. What you're feeling right now might just be grief manifesting itself in the wake of her loss. Absence makes heart grow fonder as they say. Take some time to process these feelings first - - grieve the loss of your friendship, detach, then make a decision. When you find yourself comparing your experiences with the gf to your experiences with the best friend, stop. Look to your girlfriend for support. She can be your best friend too if you let her. 1
Author Totti90 Posted September 30, 2015 Author Posted September 30, 2015 Yea, one detail you left out... are you male or female? I don't know how you managed to write the whole post and not give a clue as to your gender, but the fact that you did, plus your feminine-sounding username makes me wonder if this is a lesbian triangle... in love with both but only sexing one. And now you're wondering if it's the right one. Is there a question you intended to ask? I'm a male I'm finding myself in love with two women, i still can't choose between them
samantha303 Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 I'm a male I'm finding myself in love with two women, i still can't choose between them Been there. Very simple. You love yourself, you don't love them. Strong feelings are very different from love. I thought I could never like two people at the same time but I did. Then I chose my ex-bf cos I thought I loved him more. Now we dont speak to each other anymore. From an outsider's perspective, your best friend is a bitch, plain and simple. She is blatantly stealing someone's bf now and if she doesn't get punished and learn from it, she'll do it again.
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