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virgo83 New Member

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I've been using this forum (without an account) to heal myself for the past 9 months and I'm really grateful to everyone who has shared their experiences here because it has really helped me so much.

 

I'll summarize my story.

 

GF of 8 years broke up with me last Dec. She tried to hide the fact that she was with someone else when we broke up but the truth eventually came out. Initially I tried everything to hold on to the relationship but I eventually gave up as she seemed to have made up her mind.

 

There's two problems I have to deal with because of this breakup.

1) We run a company together

2) My mom adores her and she works in the same company

 

So it's been almost a year and I haven't told my parents (my brother knows) because I didn't want our work to get affected.

 

I've tried reading the forum to see if anyone was in any similar situation like this but couldn't find any.

 

It took me about 3 months to recover as I told her not to go to the office because I didn't want to see her while I recovered. She started working again in May because of some problem that happened in the company but now we're working closely and all the bad feelings have started to come back again.

 

I did the dumbest thing and asked her if she still missed me. She told me she wouldn't answer unless I unblocked her on facebook. Just a couple of days back, I reflected on the past relationship and told her that I was sorry that I made her feel unloved and that it wasn't only her fault but I also had a part to play in it. She replied saying that she should have also tried harder to fix the rs at that time.

 

Ok back to the problems. What do you guys think I should do about my mom? As for my ex, I know it's a slippery road where I'm heading and I'm planning not to talk to her about anything else in the future except work related topics.

 

Thanks in advance!

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When you say you run a company together do you own it ? who's company is it ?

 

Is she still with the guy ?

and your Mom may already know something is up... maybe it's time to tell her..

 

If it were me (I own my own company) and found myself in your position I would ask her to leave and if she refused I would fired her..

I have always felt that a family business is a tight knit group where you count on each other to watch each other's backs.. if she cheated on you she wasn't watching your back in regard to the company or in regard to the family unit that is required to operate a family business.

 

As far as what to do now.. talk with your Mom.. bring her up to date and go from there.. your ex however has shown you she doesn't mind upsetting the family unit so you will need to make your decisions based on that.

 

Good Luck...

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virgo83 New Member

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Hi,

 

It's both our companies. We have no problems working together as we actually make a good team in business.

 

My mom guessed and kept asking me at one point of time but now she seems to have moved past it. Probably because she's always seeing us at work together.

 

Forgot to mention that we're not married and also her parents are working in the company too. Her parents know about the breakup so it's an open secret. Everybody knows except my mom but I just don't want to hurt her as she's already very emotional because of some other problem. I just didn't want to pile on the misery. I know that if I tell her, it'll be a huge relief for me but I just don't have it in me to break my mom's heart.

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