Karimikui Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Went on 2nd date with guy I really, really, really like. During date he told me that I may think he's crazy and a loser for saying this but he's just never felt this way about anyone before. The thing is I feel the exact same way about him. We finally kissed. Lots of electricity. I did a great job of managing not to bang him. Two more dates with him set up for next week. He got divorced 6 years ago after being married for 11 years. He's single dad to a young-ish child (co-parenting). 1
Celeste.Carol Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 It sounds promising. I would hold off too much excitement and always be prepared for disappointment if it is to occur. Many men are genuine with words and others aren't. Importantly, is he making time for you on the weekend and not just during week?
Popsicle Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Go with it. Keep going and doing what you're doing. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Went on 2nd date with guy I really, really, really like. During date he told me that I may think he's crazy and a loser for saying this but he's just never felt this way about anyone before. The thing is I feel the exact same way about him. Huge red flag. I've read plenty of posts by women in the same exact position - someone too good to be true proclaiming on only the first or second date how he was 'falling' for her. Not ONE of those stories have ended well. I say, proceed with caution. 5
mystikmind2005 Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Huge red flag. I've read plenty of posts by women in the same exact position - someone too good to be true proclaiming on only the first or second date how he was 'falling' for her. Not ONE of those stories have ended well. I say, proceed with caution. Stories that don't end well?... lets see, i think i know the answer to this one,,,, its called real life! lol
LilaMarie Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 I say, proceed with caution. I agree with Lois_Griffin ^
xcupid Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Second date? Wait until you REALLY get to know him. This is just infatuation talking. You don't even know what the guy is like yet.
losangelena Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Well, just keep in mind that "I've never felt this way before," does not always translate to, "I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with you." 3
katiegrl Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 (edited) Well, just keep in mind that "I've never felt this way before," does not always translate to, "I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with you." Hell, it doesn't even mean he will feel that same way tomorrow. OP read these boards. Several threads from women whose guys fell hard and fast, and then poof, it's all over. I'd be very wary of a guy who said this to me on second date. He doesn't even know you for heaven's sake, right now you're essentially a fantasy - he is infatuated. Wait until reality hits him .. And THEN take him seriously. Edited September 25, 2015 by katiegrl 3
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 2 out of 3 guys I last dated have told me this early on. Neither lasted more than 4 months. It's just something guys say in the moment that may change tomorrow.
d0nnivain Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 (edited) I've never felt this way before sounds like a line coming from a player when the speaker is a divorced middle aged man. It's something inexperienced schoolboys say as truth. Grown men use it as a line to bed gullible women. Coupled with the statement that he knows it could be taken wrong, it reads as a well rehearsed line to me. He was previously married. He must have felt something pretty powerful before he walked down the aisle. Be very careful. Do not believe most of what this man says until you spend more time with him & see what his actions say about his character. Your attraction is too strong. All the blood is rushing out of your brain to the nether regions. Sorry to be a wet blanket but please for your own sake, be cautious. better to be pleasantly surprised then hurt. Edited September 25, 2015 by d0nnivain
EricaH329 Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 "I did a great job of managing not to bang him" :laugh: That made me laugh. Good for you girl! I don't want to rain on your parade, I know how you are feeling right now and it's wonderful The best advice I can give you is to go along for the ride, but with an open mind. When/if you feel yourself floating away from reality, try to catch yourself and come back down. It's absolutely the best feeling when you've found someone that trumps the rest! Just keep in mind that it may not end up working out the way you hope. That being said, go have fun!! Enjoy what you're feeling! It's a rare experience, that's for sure!
RightThere Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Huge red flag. I've read plenty of posts by women in the same exact position - someone too good to be true proclaiming on only the first or second date how he was 'falling' for her. Not ONE of those stories have ended well. I say, proceed with caution. Totally agree. I waited until at least the third date before telling my current girlfriend this. And still going strong........
bettermistakes Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Another one piling on to say please proceed with caution. I just went through this with someone. It was a super fun two weeks, and then, yeah, poof! He's gone. Of course I'm sure we're all hoping your situation is an exception! 1
Maggie4 Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 He got divorced 6 years ago after being married for 11 years. He's single dad to a young-ish child (co-parenting). Maybe he hasn't felt anything for a long time.
Oregon_Dude Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Went on 2nd date with guy I really, really, really like. During date he told me that I may think he's crazy and a loser for saying this but he's just never felt this way about anyone before. The thing is I feel the exact same way about him.I don't see a problem here. You both feel the same way; he was just the one to vocalize it. Sure, proceed with "caution", as in all things, but allow yourself to be excited. Connections can be rare and you should be stoked to have possibly found one. Enjoy!! 3
Author Karimikui Posted September 26, 2015 Author Posted September 26, 2015 I've now had unprotected sex with him earlier tonight. He said I could not stay the night and I saw him swiping on Tinder before I left to go home.
Celeste.Carol Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 I've now had unprotected sex with him earlier tonight. He said I could not stay the night and I saw him swiping on Tinder before I left to go home. Are you serious with this post? The man goes from he never felt this way before to he would not let you sleep awhile after shagging?!! Then looking for his next hook up on Tinder while you were still there? 1
katiegrl Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 (edited) I've now had unprotected sex with him earlier tonight. He said I could not stay the night and I saw him swiping on Tinder before I left to go home. Go back and read post no. 9. It is one of two things ..... or combo of both. Either he was full of crap when he said he'd never felt this way before (to get you into bed).....or, after having sex, reality hit and he's not quite as enthralled with you as he originally thought. Lesson learned. Edited September 26, 2015 by katiegrl
d0nnivain Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 I've now had unprotected sex with him earlier tonight. He said I could not stay the night and I saw him swiping on Tinder before I left to go home. Why would you do that? Use Protection until you are exclusive & have both been tested. It's not optional. We're sorry that we were right about this cad. Get an STD test & move on. He's off to find the next victim he's never felt this way about. 1
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