ilovemusic3 Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 I'm a 26 yr. old female, and I never date at all because the only place I have to meet guys is through online dating and meetup groups, and nobody likes me at either. I've never had a boyfriend and I only casually dated 1 person, but it wasn't a very good situation. I'm really upset about not being able to date. Am I overreacting, or is this understandable?
Toodaloo Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Why can't you meet men through other channels as well? Do you not go out with friends and family? Do you not have hobbies and sports and fun activities that you get involved with? Do you not do any voluntary work? How approachable are you? Do you talk to people in every day life?
StellaGrace Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Gotta put something out to get something back (as poster above alludes). If you are upset about it, make a change. Do something different than waiting for Prince Charming to knock on your door.
salparadise Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Why do you perceive that nobody likes you at meetups or in online dating? When you say nobody, do you literally mean nobody or just nobody that you're interested in? Could this be more of a perceptual situation? There are men who can't get ANY women, but it's highly unusual for a woman to not be able to develop opportunities with men. What do you believe is the problem? You aren't a Goth are you?
d0nnivain Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 You should be more upset that you perceive yourself to have minimal social skills. Do something to change that. I recommend you take a Dale Carnegie class like How to Win Friends & Influence People. If you can't afford the class, at least read the book in the library. Do you volunteer anywhere? Try that. Learn to work with all sorts of people by giving of yourself.
LilaMarie Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 I agree with what everyone else has suggested, also do you put any effort in your appearance? 10 Ways to Get Men Approaching You
Author ilovemusic3 Posted September 26, 2015 Author Posted September 26, 2015 I do try to look nice when going to meet guys. I volunteer at benefit galas, but there are never any guys to meet there. There are no other hobbies I'm interested in. And its always just been strange and ugly guys that like me from online dating and meetup groups.
sportygirl89 Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 I do try to look nice when going to meet guys. I volunteer at benefit galas, but there are never any guys to meet there. There are no other hobbies I'm interested in. And its always just been strange and ugly guys that like me from online dating and meetup groups. You are just making excuses at this point with the whole I'm not into hobbies. There are thousands of hobbies out there i find it hard you don't like any. There are more than one way to volunteer. But I think you need to fix deeper issues first.
d0nnivain Posted September 26, 2015 Posted September 26, 2015 I do try to look nice when going to meet guys. I volunteer at benefit galas, but there are never any guys to meet there. There are no other hobbies I'm interested in. And its always just been strange and ugly guys that like me from online dating and meetup groups. The only men you are going to find at most of those things are married. Outside of big cities, most straight single guys under 30 do not voluntarily put on a tux for a fun evening out. What groups do those galas benefit? Go to other fundraising events for those charities, where there are more likely men your age. If you are getting interest from "strange and ugly guys" you have some ability to attract men, just not the ones you are interested in. What can you change to change who is showing up in your life?
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