alphamale Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 Somewhat inspired by the other thread. Men, when you are "courting" a woman, do you open all the doors and let her go first? Personally I prefer and notice this behavior. Particularly when I see extra effort (like jumping ahead to grab the door or hanging back so I can be first). Love chivalry! open doors lead to open legs 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 I try to do it to everyone that follows me into a door, Sometimes I forget, but most of the time it's scored, I remember one time, guy was like 75+ feet away, Verbally accosted me for not taking the extra minute(s) out of my day. 7 feet would be polite 17 is not quite right But 75? It's almost spite... as we force the other into flight they run their brief but awkward race then shamble contritely through the space while we hold the door - tight smile on face applauding ourselves for our manners and grace http://img.memecdn.com/Holding-the-Door_o_114975.jpg 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 A great scene from an even greater movie... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qyj2VNVB8qk TFY THANK YOU^^!!! It "is" freakin' big deal. Ever hear people say to watch how someone your dating treats a waiter? Those small things are just like dude said in the Bronx Tale - it's the tip of the ice berg of how that person thinks and acts. If a guy isn't opening a door for me, he's probably gonna be a jerk and/or lack being a gentleman in other areas. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 When entering a restaurant, I always open the first door, but 99.99% of the time she continues to walk forward and begins to open the second door before I can get there. I will then open it the rest of the way for her, unless it is blatantly obvious that she is standing to the side and holding it open for me. Personally though, I think too many women put too much weight on this. Think of how many men open the door, and turn out to be total trash later on, or how many men dont open the door and end up being the best guy she ever met. Many women seem to absolutely love to nitpick these minor little details though, thinking its a huge sign that determines the guys worth. Yes, there's guys who schmooze you and open doors and all that and deep down inside just wanna get into your pants. But, same way you gotta watch the overall actions of someone to make a complete eval of them. So, because there are a few manipulative people out there doesn't detract from the need for men to be gentlemen. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 The only thing is, if they have a new car, all the doors unlock with the remote. Or if it is like my car? There is no lock on the door. This was a good test maybe 15-20 years ago when automatic door locks were really premium. These days? It doesn't work. So what, I'll still be looking to see if they try and reach for the door...if it doesn't unlock, at least I see they tried. Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 open doors lead to open legs Someone is going to take this literally and try it for a week. When it fails miserably, he's going to post a thread about it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Stage5Clinger Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 I open doors for girls I'm courting. Eff what she thinks its manly. Inversely I do not let anyone open doors for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted October 5, 2015 Share Posted October 5, 2015 I open doors for women, both romantic interests and friends. It's a habit I got into when I was young. I also tend to let women on and off elevators or escalators first. But I can tell you with complete confidence, it means nothing to most women. Most women don't even say a "thank you", a small amount even scoffed at the gesture. Yes, they scoffed. It's wonderful living in a big city. I've noticed a lot of men do this. I always say thank you. I think it's a nice thing. I'm sad it's going away more and more. I also open doors for people with lots of things in their hands or will hold the door open if I go through it first. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 5, 2015 Share Posted October 5, 2015 Someone is going to take this literally and try it for a week. When it fails miserably, he's going to post a thread about it. :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted October 6, 2015 Share Posted October 6, 2015 Id hold the door for anyone who its close behind me. If im reaching a door at a similar time as a women then i may let her walk through first. I'd defo let a kid, someone elderly or disabled walk through first. Tend i'll hold the door for my missus but I wouldn't let her wlak through first to save myself a mouthful of 'i can open doors thanks' and best, or 'oppression in the form of manners etc etc' at worst. I might next time we go for a drive open rush round to open her door! Just for the jokes! She'd know i was joking but im still pretty sure she'd slap me! :lmao: I guess there is some manners in it but maybe its through spending so much time with my wife that kinda see treating a girl like that as a bit old fashioned. And i sure don't think im a jerk - I've never treated a woman bad, I've never chased a ons and I've never been anything but faithful! Obviously i have kids now and i totally want my sons to know how to treat a women and I don't want my daughter to settle for anything less than a guy who treats her like a princess but a princess that can slay dragons, change a car tyre and build a wall! Link to post Share on other sites
chapter44 Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 Always have, always will. Good manners never go out of style! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Trane Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 I open doors for women, men and children. Not surprisingly though, more guys and young children will say thank-you. A lot of women will walk through the door and say nothing as if it was expected. A rude reality if I can say. Link to post Share on other sites
kilgore Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Somewhat inspired by the other thread. Men, when you are "courting" a woman, do you open all the doors and let her go first? Personally I prefer and notice this behavior. Particularly when I see extra effort (like jumping ahead to grab the door or hanging back so I can be first). Love chivalry! What about the coat over the rain puddle? Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 What about the coat over the rain puddle? Only if I'm wearing a pair of Louboutins:) Link to post Share on other sites
firemanq Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 To me, it is a sign of respect when I open the door for a lady. I have had dates where she seemed to run and open the door herself. Those relationships did not seem to last long. Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 (edited) When I was in my early to mid 20s ...I didn't want a guy to open my doors ...I was really asserting my independence. Since that time ... I find this door opening gesture quite appeals to my delicate sensibilities ...makes me feel all feminine and sexy I appreciate these gestures by always saying thank you with a smile If a guy doesn't feel these gentlemanly gestures are necessary ... The idea of a relationship with him goes out the door ... Edited October 25, 2015 by StBreton Link to post Share on other sites
Wewon Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 I open doors, that being said, I understand guys that have said "screw it" and don't bother. I suspect that there are two reasons for this attitude: 1) Most people, including men, don't know how to talk to men and explain a custom without manipulation or carrot and stick. When it fails, the incentive is no longer there and they are even less motivated to do it. 2) A lot of women walk through like the door was opened by an electric eye. Its a custom that requires a response. Treat someone like a fool then don't be surprised when the custom dies. I see it the same way as not writing a 'thankyou' letter, a polite response to a courteous act. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 What about the coat over the rain puddle? I do our laundry, so that's a definite no!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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