Gloria25 Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 If, after a dating haitus (a 2 year one in my case), did you ever have problems getting back into dating? Like cold feet, being ultra picky? Over 2 years ago I had cold feet but "pushed" myself to go meet my FWB and I'm glad I did. But since then, I've chatted with some guys and just can't bring myself to make it to a first meet. Not sure if it's cuz I'm hung up on some dude or I'm simply having trouble jumping back into the game. Part of me just thinks I should "just do it" and ignore how I feel...if the date sucks, oh well, if it didn't then good. Any experiences, advice, opinions?
scooby-philly Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 I'd say, just do what works for you. That includes listening to how you feel. You won't meet the right person if you don't try. Think of it this way - it's like going to the gym. No one wants to do it - but when it pays off, you feel great. Meet people, use it as an excuse to see new things or go new places. Nights, weeks, or even a month wehn you don't feel like it - just let it go. I feel you. I used OLD three times now. First time I stopped after I met an ex-fiancee - after that ended went back on - stopped after meeting most recent ex - neither of whom I met online, and honestly, neither of whom I'm missing. Actually happy it didn't work out. That said, I'm more experienced & learned now and know what I'm looking for. 1
Ami1uwant Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 I what happens why you are about yo meet? Why do you say no?
DivorcedDad123 Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Life is for living. Doesnt sound like you're doing much living in the dating world. Go out. Have fun. No regrets!
Author Gloria25 Posted September 25, 2015 Author Posted September 25, 2015 I what happens why you are about yo meet? Why do you say no? I just either get more "busy" and/or simply start feeling upset and/or pressured. Then I just feel like I'm wasting my time. That I'm gonna get all dolled up, and spend a few hrs just dying to go back home and trying to pretend I'm actually interested in what some idiot is trying to sell me. I mean, in a way the last few that I turned down - I believe there was things about them that eh, were red flags. I guess with age/experience you sorta are able to weed out people sooner rather than later and don't have the patience to give them a chance to see what they're about.
Author Gloria25 Posted September 25, 2015 Author Posted September 25, 2015 Life is for living. Doesnt sound like you're doing much living in the dating world. Go out. Have fun. No regrets! I hear ya, but it's like having fun goes hand in hand with whether or not I feel "something", a "connection", etc with that person. Sometimes beforehand you can just tell that you're gonna be wanting to run home - even if he takes you to the Taj Majal I mean, there's someone right now that I just would like to have a sit down with - nothing grand or fancy. I would just love to sit across from a table from him and enjoy a beverage...
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