evas0627 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Me and this woman are 29/30. I met her online a bit more than a month back. We texted quite a bit before we met (for 3 weeks and we both were out of town for work). We have similar interests. Our date went fine. We chatted for 3-4 hrs and had a few rounds of drinks. She was laughing etc, over it was a really pleasant “date”/meetup. We tight hugged each other and walked home. We said we would text each other soon. She added me on FB before we met as one of our text conversations brought it up. She doesnt use it much but still. I first thought it was weird but it didnt turn out to be that. I could sense that this could go a long way. She has alot of things I want in a woman. I texted her something that she is interested in. Half a day later she responded to my text and also said that she feels may not be an ideal match. I said was amazing and stay in touch if she feels like. She keeps “liking” some of my FB posts. I really want to ask her out again but should I after she rejected me ? My code says, never ask anyone twice once they say NO ! I move on. But this one feel different. Also this is an online dating environment. So please consider that. I am thinking of texting her in a few days to ask her for coffee to some place and mention “not as a date”. If she doesnt respond, I’ll have my answer. If she does and doesnt want to meet I’ll just politely say “if somehow to change your mind let me know” and I move on ! Her FB likes are on things that she is interested in. So may be she is either being nice or she MAYBE is a tiny bit interested. I just want to know what approach should I take in this case. !!!
Oregon_Dude Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Dude, get some more options. NEVER give a woman a second chance to reject you.
Author evas0627 Posted September 25, 2015 Author Posted September 25, 2015 yaah I know! I am doing that. But like I said she seems like ones you hold on to so was wondering IF I do decide to ask her out again then how should I proceed. I am new to online dating world so I dont know how things work there. Its not like we have common group or something.
Ami1uwant Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Just ask her.... When meeting someone online my rule is.... If things go well on a first meet and there are no red flags/core value disagreements you should always meet a second and/or third time and then decide.
Author evas0627 Posted September 25, 2015 Author Posted September 25, 2015 I mean I did text her when she said "That she feels we are not an ideal match". Are you suggesting that I should just ask her for a casual "meetup" or something else. Also do think her social media behavior is mainly to string me along or just being "nice" to be since she rejected or something else ?
ScienceGal Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 Doesn't sound like you're going to be anything more than friends or friends with benefits. You said she has a lot of qualities that you're looking for in a woman, but if one of those qualities is a committed partner, you better scratch that one off the list and reassess.
xcupid Posted September 25, 2015 Posted September 25, 2015 I'd pass on this one if it were me. She's already decided there's no match (makes you wonder what an "ideal" match is for her though.) Forget the social media stuff - it means nothing. You're overthinking that part. Plenty more good women out there.
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