dazed343 Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 Im always getting in crap for saying the wrong thing. Actually most of the time she gets upset just because of the tone in which I was saying it. We usually don't argur or fight at all but in the past week ****, all I have to do is say something with the wrong tone or word it wrong and Im in the dog house. I could write a book but Im gonna try and keep it short lol. Nagging? Oh yes..I'll get into that. She is on her period but the last time she wasn't as cranky. For the first few months everything was going swell but now it seems like things are going downhill. Well.. its either that or Im paranoid. I feel like shes trying to move away though and I see it in everything. At night we don't talk really no more, showing of affection is down a ton, and sex.. well its been a week and although some of you might think I should stfu in the first 2 months I was seeing her Mar/Apr it was like once a night if not 2 or more. I can't figure things out, are mind games going on here or control games? What I fcking hate (and this only just started at the beginning of may) she'll say if you don't change this or if I see you doing that its 1 week without. So jokingly I'll say if I see you do this your going one week without aswell and her response will be "Well you can't take it away because you don't know where Im getting it." Like **** I know or hope your only kidding but fck show me some respect. No other girl I've dated has said that crap. The nagging.... yes... going to bed at night is the worst. Oh and I'll just top this off with one more thing, my buddy and his gf who we live with will his gf and my gf know this guy (both use to date). Anyhows...yeh he needed a place to stay so he's been told he can stay at our place on the couch for how ever long he needs until hes up on his feet again. (I apparently had no say...because of couse I have to be fine with it)
tiki Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 If you're just dating her...and you're not happy....common sense would tell me to run like diarrhea.
observer Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 Have you talked to her about all of this? Have you sat her down and told her that no matter what you say it seems to come across wrong in her eyes? Have you told her that the affection and sex has gone down? When she made that comment did you tell her to show you some respect? How about you start there and see what happens?
Marshbear Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 Your feelings are immaterial. You say you want respect. You have to stand up for it and demand respect. If people think you will do whatever they want then you will not even be asked. Why are you still with her? Do you love the abuse and the disrespect? I think she may even have another guy so run. I wouldn't ask her anything other than say bye...
RecordProducer Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by dazed343 So jokingly I'll say if I see you do this your going one week without aswell and her response will be "Well you can't take it away because you don't know where Im getting it." What an awful thing to say even in a joke. I mean if it's a complete joke then okay. But she sounds like she IS getting it some place else overall. You act spineless in this relationship. Things should be good or worked out. This head game she's playing is hostile and antagonistic and doesn't lead to anything good. She probably isn't the love of your life. So show her that she can't play with you. Next time when she tries to punish you with abstinence for one week tell her that you will not accept the one-week ultimatum; it's going to be much longer than that. Say "goodbye" and slam the door and never turn around again. She will probably be on her knees begging you for forgiveness. If I were you, I wouldn't stay with her, but it's up to you. If you don't show your attitude now, she will never have any respect for you. It's sad that you have to fight for her respect. We should be respected by our partners by default.
Author dazed343 Posted May 18, 2005 Author Posted May 18, 2005 Yeh, when she said that too me "You can't take away something when you don't know where Im getting it." Even if your joking why would you say that. I wouldn't ever say that to my S/O. To me I just felt like I had been slapped in the face. I feel like her taking it away for a week or whatever is being used as an excuse or big control.
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