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(((Lion Heart))) my WH sounds very much like yours! An entitled cake-eating narcissist :laugh:. I probably should be following suit and get a D as well! I've let my WH 'hoover' me one too many times. I know better now.

 

Ladydesigner, gosh there's 2 WHs the same on this planet! Lol. I was hoping they broke the mold. These WHs are extraordinary performers. They do a real good show for OWs, a completely different show for the rest of the world and a bad show for their family. No people on earth could be more disgusted in WHs behaviours than the 7 of us in his immediate family.

 

It's always difficult. Our special breed of WH say they want to stay with us??? This I don't get. For me it's black and white. For them it's a whole other set of ?!?! IDK.

Ofcourse WH wants to stay; open access to the kids, previous kife etc. Also then they can maintain the "persona" of "see I'm a really good husband and father" to the world because would you believe what WH said only a few DAYS ago. Not 3 weeks since my multiple affairs for 5 years +?? He said "You're LUCKY Lion Heart, NO OTHER man would put up with this. They would have left." Lucky? Really? Are you sane? Ummmmm jury's out. I said "Yes! They should have left BEFORE screwing their wife and children over! Please leave!!" Ok. So I'm so lucky. Wow. He's CERTAINLY not lucky that he met me when I owned 2 houses, nor that I gave him gorgeous twin boys and a gorgeous girl too (some men and women would chew their OWN arm off to have these kids), not lucky that I earnt 20-50x more than him whilst being a SAHM for near 10 years and working full time for eons, not lucky I paid for his training and supported his FIVE changes of career, nor that he even KNOWS WHAT WE LOOK LIKE after the negligence, financial abuse and ignorance we've endured.

 

I wouldn't describe us "lucky" he didn't leave. He's been very lucky up till now.

 

Our GP said that WH is struggling now, not because of deep grief or remorse, but because WH has been EXPOSED. If I'd kept all this secret etc etc then he'd never have known the general abhorrence of his behaviours (his family completely excused his behaviours, blamed me and mollycoddled him. He is certainly a product of his upbringing). The reaction from me, his children and THIS much different community is opposite of what he expected. WH mother would always just take her WH shirt off to the laundry in tears when it had OWs lipstick on it. Come back drying her tears saying "there will be NO more mention of this again". RUG SWEEPING for near on 50 years? Not this little brown duck.

 

Just a few insights Ladydesigner.

Hopefully peace will be with you soon

Lion Heart.

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Ladydesigner, gosh there's 2 WHs the same on this planet! Lol. I was hoping they broke the mold. These WHs are extraordinary performers. They do a real good show for OWs, a completely different show for the rest of the world and a bad show for their family. No people on earth could be more disgusted in WHs behaviours than the 7 of us in his immediate family.

 

It's always difficult. Our special breed of WH say they want to stay with us??? This I don't get. For me it's black and white. For them it's a whole other set of ?!?! IDK. Right!?! What is this all about :laugh: I must be one of the lucky one's too!

Ofcourse WH wants to stay; open access to the kids, previous kife etc. Also then they can maintain the "persona" of "see I'm a really good husband and father" to the world because would you believe what WH said only a few DAYS ago. Not 3 weeks since my multiple affairs for 5 years +?? He said "You're LUCKY Lion Heart, NO OTHER man would put up with this.

Yup mine said similar if you can believe it. He says, "Do you think any man would stay and put up with this treatment?" well you know because I was overreacting to his A.:lmao:

They would have left." Lucky? Really? Are you sane? Ummmmm jury's out. I said "Yes! They should have left BEFORE screwing their wife and children over! Please leave!!" Ok. So I'm so lucky. Wow. He's CERTAINLY not lucky that he met me when I owned 2 houses, nor that I gave him gorgeous twin boys and a gorgeous girl too (some men and women would chew their OWN arm off to have these kids), not lucky that I earnt 20-50x more than him whilst being a SAHM for near 10 years and working full time for eons, not lucky I paid for his training and supported his FIVE changes of career, nor that he even KNOWS WHAT WE LOOK LIKE after the negligence, financial abuse and ignorance we've endured.

 

I wouldn't describe us "lucky" he didn't leave. He's been very lucky up till now.

 

Our GP said that WH is struggling now, not because of deep grief or remorse, but because WH has been EXPOSED. B ****ing BINGO! This is it! I know it. It is the only thing that makes sense to me. If I'd kept all this secret etc etc then he'd never have known the general abhorrence of his behaviours (his family completely excused his behaviours, blamed me and mollycoddled him. He is certainly a product of his upbringing). The reaction from me, his children and THIS much different community is opposite of what he expected. Poor widdle WS should have thought of this beforehand. Yeah my WH is exposed and he doesn't like it one bit. WH mother would always just take her WH shirt off to the laundry in tears when it had OWs lipstick on it. Come back drying her tears saying "there will be NO more mention of this again". RUG SWEEPING for near on 50 years? Not this little brown duck. Not this one either lol

 

Just a few insights Ladydesigner.

Hopefully peace will be with you soon

Lion Heart.

 

Lion Heart you are my hero! What a fabulous post! Thank you for your insight!:bunny:

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