marcusdevilliers Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Breaks up are really hard. especially if your a weak person who was all alone and found your first love, then you placed everything on them. that was me. then my ex dumped me, she didnt wanna fight for me or us so she left. as much as i want her back, maybe i still do if she changed and approached me about us and really wanted us to be together again.. but she did go, and she left me when things were bad with me, she met new people and she did change, she didnt wanna really be with me no more she didnt want us. so she abandoned me to be honest, i lost my best friend, my love, me everything. i dream her all the time and i miss her badly. even though i want her back really badly as much as alot of you here want the same thing.. think about things, and learn as much as you can. My gf never talked about working things out, she didnt feel it no more and she just left without trying, after 3 years telling me how much she loved me and would always love me. SO HERES WHAT I LEARNT. dont ever put your happiness on anyone, always be contented with loving your self and being with yourself, when you reach this stage the whole world can turn on you and yet youd be fine because you got yourself.. my best friend is me, me love is me and i live for myself. my girl was my everything but she left me, she walked out on me and i felt devastated i still do..but in time im hoping my feelings will change and it wont hurt as bad. Always check your circumstances and the best thing in a break up is NO CONTACT.. this is where you see how much you mean to someone and how much they care for you and also how much they wanna be with you. dont ever break N.C .. stick to it, its the best cure.. My ex may not know how much i cried for her, how much i missed her and longer for her, how many sleepless nights i faced. how much depression i faced and all the stress ive been through. I know though, and its the worst, so i live for me now. and thats all i need to know. if she truly loves me and wants to be with me, well you guys will be the first to know
Draper Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Yeah, emotionally, breakups are certainly one of the hardest things to go through. My girl up and left after months of talking about how excited she was to live together, how she saw such a future for us, and how she's never loved someone the way she loves me. It turns your world upside-down, really. Especially if, like you said, you invest your happiness pretty much exclusively in this one person, which is the mistake I made. Now my mind is expecting her to be there for the comfort and the security and the love but that isn't what it gets from reality and that causes a lot of pain. She was my best friend and the only person in my life I truly loved. I find myself hoping to god that when I wake up, she'll be beside me. Hoping that she shows up at my door. Hoping she comes back. However, the reality of the fact that she's gone is setting in and it's getting better. We gotta take this time of despair and desperation and turn it into something positive - finding happiness in ourselves without depending entirely on the happiness of another person. We'll be OK
Author marcusdevilliers Posted September 24, 2015 Author Posted September 24, 2015 Yeah, emotionally, breakups are certainly one of the hardest things to go through. My girl up and left after months of talking about how excited she was to live together, how she saw such a future for us, and how she's never loved someone the way she loves me. It turns your world upside-down, really. Especially if, like you said, you invest your happiness pretty much exclusively in this one person, which is the mistake I made. Now my mind is expecting her to be there for the comfort and the security and the love but that isn't what it gets from reality and that causes a lot of pain. She was my best friend and the only person in my life I truly loved. I find myself hoping to god that when I wake up, she'll be beside me. Hoping that she shows up at my door. Hoping she comes back. However, the reality of the fact that she's gone is setting in and it's getting better. We gotta take this time of despair and desperation and turn it into something positive - finding happiness in ourselves without depending entirely on the happiness of another person. We'll be OK Yeah you hit it on the nail there. My ex and I were together pretty much every day for 2 years, we were so close and shared something so special. Its why i find it so hard to believe that she left when all now things wouldve been so great with us because we were gonna share a lot more now, because we had more privacy and stuff. But she didn't want me no more. So what could I do, I tried to keep her but she doesn't want me. So I can't do nothing just accept what is. Things will get better
jonesey0 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Great post OP. Spot on. She was my first love, and i centered all my life and happiness around her. Now shes gone, i feel completely empty and alone. We were together 14 years, and during all that time i never once entertained the ideia of being interested on another woman. I had women hit on me and showing interest, and you know what i did? I told them how awesome my girl was, and how happy we were together. I have come a long way since the breakup (six months ago) and i now do believe no contact really is the best for me. If what we had was as meaningful and important for her as it was for me, she should be suffering as much as i was, and still am. If not, then she was really not worth it and i deserve better.
Author marcusdevilliers Posted September 24, 2015 Author Posted September 24, 2015 Great post OP. Spot on. She was my first love, and i centered all my life and happiness around her. Now shes gone, i feel completely empty and alone. We were together 14 years, and during all that time i never once entertained the ideia of being interested on another woman. I had women hit on me and showing interest, and you know what i did? I told them how awesome my girl was, and how happy we were together. I have come a long way since the breakup (six months ago) and i now do believe no contact really is the best for me. If what we had was as meaningful and important for her as it was for me, she should be suffering as much as i was, and still am. If not, then she was really not worth it and i deserve better. Wow man 14 years.. i know what you mean, i never cheated on my girl or anything, she just changed. thats life i guess, if we mean as much to them as they did to us they would try to get back in our lives. if not then just like you said, they dont deserve men like us and we will find a lot better.
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