SeelBubble Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Hi everyone, So recently my bf and I have gone through a bit of a rough patch (partly due to being in a *relatively* LDR, partly for other reasons) I've recently moved back into his area (for uni) and I've decided to give the relationship one more go now that there's no distance between us. The problem is now that I'm back near him he's acting as though nothing went wrong between us but I personally want to take things a little slower than we had been. He's taking me out soon for my birthday which is lovely of him and he's arranged to pick me up but then he suddenly sends me a text inviting himself over to my place to stay the night and sneak out the next morning (I live in a student house with a pretty strict landlord hence the sneaking) My issue is that it all seems a little too familiar for me - yes, we've been dating a while but honestly over the summer it reached a low and I came so close to calling the whole thing off - I was initially looking forward to going out for a meal and some drinks with him but now he's (in my opinion) pushing it a bit too far. What's the best way for me to reject his invite (to my place which I think is a little 'charming' to say the least) without putting a dampener on my birthday and the plans we'd made? Thanks!
GemmaUK Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 I think you're better off being straight up that things have recently been at a low and you both need to take it slow. If that scuppers him doing nice things for your birthday then so be it. If you are still not all that sure about things then you wouldn't want him spending a whole chunk of money on you for your birthday anyway - it'd be unfair on him for one thing. Maybe delay any big b/day celebrations between you both until you are both on the same page again.
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