Dasfemmemadchen87 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Ok... so, my co-worker is this really cool funny girl, and she's been telling me that I need to get out more, and date guys that are going to treat me better than my last ones... so a few days ago we hung out with one of her friends that she knows from her home town. She thought we should meet because she thought we'd get along. Well turns out they used to date and moved to my state but they didn't work out. It doesn't bother me at all because the way they seem is thay they would be more friends than anything else.. Anyway, so she and I hung out and she tells me that he was coming to hang with us. So it seemed to go really well. He gave me his number, I have him mine. He invited me to see his band and all. At work my friend tells me that he said I was quiet and should open up more. So I went to see his band, and afterwards he and I hung out and talked. I think he's awesome and really handsome. His band is really cool as well. I'm not looking for anything serious, but I wouldn't mind dating him. But I don't know if he feels the same. He says we'll hang out again soon to hang out and play video games, which I love. I think hanging out went well, so now I am not sure what to think or do. I'm terrible with rejection, and I'm very shy and self conscious. I don't know if he'll ever want to hang out again or not, and I don't want to bother my co worker and ask her if he said anything about me. So what do I do in this type of thing....
Jules Dash Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Show him that you can be more extroverted by calling him up and asking him to join you for an activity that would put less pressure on you to continuosly talk since you seem to be shy. Just do it and try not too think about it too much.
Author Dasfemmemadchen87 Posted September 24, 2015 Author Posted September 24, 2015 Thank you for your response... I really do want to do that. But wen? Isn't there like a rule or something? Lol. I just out with him last night.... I don't kmow if I should let him text me first... or text him in a few days... idk. Plus I was looking at his Facebook... and I worry I'm not pretty or cool enough. I'm not a skinny model type... I'm thick and very short.. Idk... my co worker says that I shouldn't worry like that, but like I said I get so embarrassed by rejection
smackie9 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 He may like you. Not everyone gets all crazy over someone when they first meet them. It may or may not turn into anything, but you won't know unless you initiate contact to show interest.
smackie9 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Isn't it all about enjoying his company for now? Just be like friends and chill. Contact him tomorrow and see if he is up to doing something. maybe he is playing somewhere and you can go see him play again.
Jules Dash Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Thank you for your response... I really do want to do that. But wen? Isn't there like a rule or something? Lol. I just out with him last night.... I don't kmow if I should let him text me first... or text him in a few days... idk. Plus I was looking at his Facebook... and I worry I'm not pretty or cool enough. I'm not a skinny model type... I'm thick and very short.. Idk... my co worker says that I shouldn't worry like that, but like I said I get so embarrassed by rejection I can see where this going to go. You are someone concerned with rules and you have access to the internet where there is a wealth of individuals to discuss rules of dating. The most important rule is to do what you want to do and go by your own rules. Call him up and ask him if he wants to go fishing with you or whatever you like to do. Don't think about this so much. That is where people screw up. They look at the time and wonder if it's too late to call or if he should be calling first or if you should call during a full moon. You are already coming in with a not so good attitude with the whole "I don't want to Blow it@ deal. You are already putting a lot of pressure on yourself and putting him up on this golden cloud. So what if you blow it? He is not your master.
Author Dasfemmemadchen87 Posted September 24, 2015 Author Posted September 24, 2015 I hear you. I definitely don't expect it to be fireworks and all that right now.. I am used to meeting people and they SEEM to like me and then I never hear from them like I did something wrong. And maybe it IS the fact that I worry too much. But I will take heed. I really appreciate it
Jules Dash Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 I hear you. I definitely don't expect it to be fireworks and all that right now.. I am used to meeting people and they SEEM to like me and then I never hear from them like I did something wrong. And maybe it IS the fact that I worry too much. But I will take heed. I really appreciate it Guys typically don't like all the effort it takes with shy women. It is just too much work. You are going to have to meet this guy somewhat halfway. He has already said you are too quiet. That is a warning bell.
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