IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 This guy I've been seeing has one of the most serious cases and might i add annoying A.D.D. disorderes i have crossed paths with. I mean he calls me about 15 times a day and If i don't answer he'll call ALL my friends to make sure that I'm OK. He got a new ringer on his phone. With nextel you can hold the side button and play your ringer so all he kept doing it hitting that button and played like the first note of the song about 1 million times. I like him, don't get me wrong, when were together, and not on the phone or what not he's a great guy. Oh WAIT! When we smoke it gets worse.......He'll call everyone & their mother. Ask them a million and one questions and talk stupid. Maybe he has OCD? i don't know. I like him but the things he does are SOOOOOOOOOOOO annoying...I don't want to address it and ask him if he has ADD or not. Very touchy subject. Del with it? I don't want to stop talking to him, he a great guy but sometimes I want to rip my arm off and throw it at him to shut him up!
faux Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 Is it really any of your business, at this point, whether or not this guy has any type of mental disorder or condition? If this is a very big issue for you, perhaps it would be best to ask him about his behavior. There is no easy way to do this, so being blunt might work fine. Often times, the answers we want cannot be found without being very direct. Maybe the guy is just odd. There does not have to be anything 'wrong' with a person for him to act in such ways. Are you qualified to properly and effectively diagnose people with ADD/ADHD or OCD? If not, it would be a good idea to stop it. I cannot phrase this adequately enough without seeming very abrupt and, perhaps, cold. I simply wanted to illustrate that it is not productive to label people, and this behavior can often make situations more complicated. It is safe, I think, to say that this guy sounds very odd, and more than a bit annoying. I do think it is a good idea to ask him about his behavior, but not to judge until you have a direct answer from him. It is up to you to decide if you like this man enough to try to deal with the way he acts. It sounds as though you are quite bothered with it at times. If he does have some form of mental illness, that will not be an excuse for putting up with his antics. I think you must do what you feel most comfortable with. You can disassociate yourself from this man whenever you wish. Whatever you do, I wish you luck. Until you have direct input from this man, please do not try to analyze him.
niko1999 Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 Ok, I wouldnt worry about if he has ADD or not. Id worry about the fact that he calls you a billion times a day, and if you dont answer, calls all your freinds. Obsessive much? That is just what I think though. And you have only been with him a short time, and hes already driving yuou up a wall? Imagine what will happen if you DO stay together for awhile longer. Yar. I dont think so. Dont bother asking him.
miss fortune Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 Yeah I'd say its not ADD but OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder)...the calling and whatnot..very strange. Obviously this is just who he is, can you learn to get used to it OR do u think theres any chance he'll change?
moimeme Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 Don't know why you'd think this is ADD. It could be OCD but it could be any one of a bunch of other disorders. He sounds like a potential stalker is what he sounds like. I'd not continue with him - if you can manage to detach.
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 19, 2005 Author Posted May 19, 2005 Aside from the constant phone calls and annoying "turrets-like" behavior, he's a great guy. Treats me well, guess I'll just have to deal with it. P.S. Note title of thread...I THINK he has A.D.D
prisoner Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 give him four shots of tequila hand him a condom and see if he goes for the phone. if so, you know where the door is. unless you had four shots yourself and then...
blind_otter Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 He might treat you well but those habits would get REAL old, REAL fast. I'm just sayin'. Maybe he's just like that cause he's a stoner. My exhusband changed like 180 degrees when he got sober - before he was all laid back white rasta boy, after he became uptight a**h***. So, ya know. Maybe he just needs to take a break from the pot. I've slowed down a lot. I've started getting weird paranoia when I smoke really good weed.
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 19, 2005 Author Posted May 19, 2005 Well he doesn't smoke that often, Not as much as me. I think he definitly has some screws loose. Its still fresh so i'll give him a few more weeks.
RecordProducer Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 I don't see what his problem of calling you 15 times a day cuz he's afraid that something might have happened to you has to do with attention deficit. Maybe you think he has ADD because of other signs, but this sounds more like OCD or paranoia. I think you have a right to know if a person has a mental disease from day 1 of the relationship. I would be VEEEEEEEERY pissed if a guy who had a mental disease hid it from me for weeks. Mental diseases are congenital just like any other diseases. You might want to meet his family (if possible) and see if they are alone in their heads.
latida Posted May 20, 2005 Posted May 20, 2005 I had a boyfriend who would call my apt and just let the phone ring and ring until I answered. Jerk (i didn't have voice mail etc) I just told him not to do that at all. If I am sleeping, not taking your call, busy or whatever then that is what I was. He stopped. Smart boy! There is a point where someone is just being rude and thinks that they have a right to abuse your phone to their ends. Call me 15 times I will go insane. Just tell him to stop. Period. Tell him that there is an acceptable amount to call and that is (whatever you say) unless there is an actual emergency. (remember the story of the boy who cried wolf?) Tell him what you feel, regardless if you want to chalk it up to some disorder and explain it away. Tell him not to call your family/friends unless there is an emergency, that is way out of bounds IMO. What are you a lost puppy? Lost Cattle? No way. Way to possessive or whatever you want to label it. Label it crap and file it in the trash.
lindya Posted May 20, 2005 Posted May 20, 2005 What I want to know is how you're managing to balance the cop, the restaurant manager and the phone fiend - and STILL have time to post on LS!
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 20, 2005 Author Posted May 20, 2005 Originally posted by lindya What I want to know is how you're managing to balance the cop, the restaurant manager and the phone fiend - and STILL have time to post on LS! I can't balance them.. I always double book my plans. So many men so little time :sigh: But theres always time for LS!
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 24, 2005 Author Posted May 24, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer Do you actually sleep with all of them? No....I'm dating..Only slept with one so far
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