LookAtThisPOst Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 You know, the last two women I dated, had no internet and their only means of getting online was via lunch break at work. Would you say there's something a big off putting about that? One of them didn't even believe in air conditioning in the summer time and the house was at 90 something degrees at times. In this day and age, would this be like dating someone without running water? Link to post Share on other sites
casey.lives Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I would love to date someone without the internet. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Karimikui Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 How do you know they weren't lying? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 set aside the internet and not running the air conditioning, those are examples of cost savings.. maybe they can't afford to live in the lifestyle they exist in and have to cut costs to survive.. As far as not having those items.. do they have a smart phone? if not at least porn won't be an issue ... I don't see a problem with it other than staying connected to them might be a hassle.. the air is not a big deal.. take some clothes off or wear lighter clothes.. The staying connected to me might be a an issue.. but if they are good at staying in touch when they do have access then at least they would be trying. Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I'd rather deal with someone who has no internet than someone who doesn't "believe" in A/C. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 On the computer all day at work not having it at home would be odd but not a deal breaker. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 surprisingly, i work with quite a few people (mainly women) who have no internet access at all except work. some have a smartphone, but don't use the internet on it either. personally, i believe it's cost (so they might not be set financially), socially awkward in some way and not in-touch with their peers, or they will have a lifestyle at home that is going to be a bit old-school/backward and perhaps not compatible with me. that's how i'd see it. i wouldn't avoid someone as a date who was internet-free, but i'd start to wonder why and likely see some red flags about them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 24, 2015 Author Share Posted September 24, 2015 surprisingly, i work with quite a few people (mainly women) who have no internet access at all except work. some have a smartphone, but don't use the internet on it either. personally, i believe it's cost (so they might not be set financially), socially awkward in some way and not in-touch with their peers, or they will have a lifestyle at home that is going to be a bit old-school/backward and perhaps not compatible with me. that's how i'd see it. i wouldn't avoid someone as a date who was internet-free, but i'd start to wonder why and likely see some red flags about them. Both women I have met, that didn't have internet at home. One was rather reclusive, the other also reclusive, not much for leaving the house on the weekends, even if she got an invite from friends. Both seemed relatively socially awkward. I would think not being part of this rather common technology may tie into certain personality traits? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Both women I have met, that didn't have internet at home. One was rather reclusive, the other also reclusive, not much for leaving the house on the weekends, even if she got an invite from friends. Both seemed relatively socially awkward. I would think not being part of this rather common technology may tie into certain personality traits? i agree w/that. and the women at my job who don't have internet are really introverted and yes, reclusive. i think it does correspond - to some degree - with some personality traits that not everyone will be ok with. i wouldn't discount someone b/c of it, but... would look closely at their lifestyle in other areas too Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Why does some one have to have the internet to date? Is it a deal breaker if someone doesn't have the net or something? Why? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 It is better than somebody addicted to social media. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
GunslingerRoland Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 As someone who works in IT and has the internet for over 20 years, I'd be pretty freaked out by it to be honest. I do everything on my smart phone, I'd feel very backwards. Things like planning a trip, looking up information, doing banking that have gotten so much easier over the last 20 years for most of the population... would be stuck in the 80's/90's for them. That is just strange to me. I mean I have family that doesn't have the internet, but we're talking 80,90 year old seniors. Also it's such a small percentage of the population who aren't homeless and aren't senior citizens that don't have the internet it would literally be dating someone who doesn't conform to social norms. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JustGettingBy Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 As someone who works in IT and has the internet for over 20 years, I'd be pretty freaked out by it to be honest. I do everything on my smart phone, I'd feel very backwards. Things like planning a trip, looking up information, doing banking that have gotten so much easier over the last 20 years for most of the population... would be stuck in the 80's/90's for them. That is just strange to me. I mean I have family that doesn't have the internet, but we're talking 80,90 year old seniors. Also it's such a small percentage of the population who aren't homeless and aren't senior citizens that don't have the internet it would literally be dating someone who doesn't conform to social norms. Conforming to social norms: the price of first world freedom. Wait, what? Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 (edited) I dunno, maybe someone goes to their local coffee shop for their internet? There is, at the very least, a Starbucks in most zip codes where the wifi is pretty good, so that could be why someone doesn't have a connection of their own at home. It seems perfectly reasonable to me. It just seems like such an irrelevant criterion anyway. I mean, it is weird to be asking someone you just made contact w about their internet connection in the first place (even more of a red flag than the person not having internet after all!). And if someone truly is "off" you will be able to detect that without knowing their download speed, so to speak. Edited September 25, 2015 by Imajerk17 2 Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 If it meant they wouldn't be on social media every 3 minutes I'd not mind her having no internet. In fact I'd probably prefer it! Just so long as she wouldn't stop me from having it. The A/C thing isn't a huge deal because I have A/C Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 (edited) I mean, in this day and age, you need the internet for so much that I can't even fathom it esp if you're not very old. Internet does not equal social media (I'm not sure why people are making it out to be the SOLE purpose of the internet when that's only one thing you can use the internet for). I have dated guys with no social media or limited use of it, which was great lol! I don't care if you don't use social media but they had the internet. No smartphone is also a little inconvenient, I've also dated someone with no smart phone and it was annoying after a while because where I could send him a picture of something, a link to something, other things that would be efficient or when I traveled and wanted to talk to him through free apps, he didn't have it and I couldn't and it made communicating much more difficult, he eventually got it because it did become inconvenient. But, even no smartphone but you have working internet on your laptop (or do they only have a desktop lol?) is more understandable than just no internet whatsoever. For what I do I need to be able to check my email on the go and not only during a set 9-5 period, I need to constantly research things, I need to be able to access online journals, just the ability to quickly Google something whether it's directions to get to a place or something else, to looking up my bank balance, transferring money, booking flights for travel, getting an Uber, ordering items...I mean it's a great convenience and even necessity. If we have similar lifestyles it would be near impossible to lead it without having the internet, so I can imagine that a man who doesn't have it and whose life doesn't feel inconvenienced without it probably also has a VERY different lifestyle than my own and that is what would make us incompatible.It's not about the internet itself but as with many other things that seem "small" they can actually point to some larger fundamental ways that your life and this person's may be so different that it causes strain. Edited September 25, 2015 by MissBee Link to post Share on other sites
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