Christos Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 I have been dating a woman recently (i am 32 she is 30), we have met 4 times and we are in constant communication for 2 weeks. She claims she only had 2 relationships in her life, the latest being for 8 years and with the only man she has ever sleeped with. She has been single for 1,5 year. The reason they broke up, was because she thought he didn't really want to commit and create a family. After she feared she might be pregnant, he reacted badly, kicked things around and told her if she was indeed she would have an abortion. So she dumbed him. Now, she has told me many times that she knows he wanted her and not other women, because he has been single all this time. When i asked her, "how can you tell for sure?", she told me that they have common friends and they tell her he is single. She tells me that she could understand not wanting her for another woman, but she hates that he wasn't looking around but he just don't want to marry and have a family. What made me have second thoughts, is what happened 2 days ago. She said to me that her mother and father yelled at her. Apparently, someone saw us on a date (we went somewhere near her home) and told her father. They yelled at her because they thought i was her ex. Now, whether that someone told them that i was the ex, or her parents assumed that, i don't know. What is strange to me though, is that 1,5 year has passed, for them to react like this. Unless she had been seeing her ex during that time... She told them about me, and they still didn't really believe her. When we discussed about this, she admitted she had still kept contact with her ex for some time after the break up. Which seems strange to me, because she was the dumber and the reasons they broke up were bad. She was mad at him for acting this way, why keep in contact with him? And if they had kept contact, how come they didn't reconcile, how come he didn't apologize or something? Her ex lives really close to her place. I don't. And things aren't progressing as fast as i would want and expect. Apart from a few kisses not much physical has happened between us, and even though i have been asking recently to meet in mine or her place (not necesserily for sex, but to have some time alone at last) she keeps postponing it. I think she wants to really take it long to get intimate, and i don't like that at all. She says she really likes me and wants to be mine, but she is not ready yet to be alone with me. And while i can respect that, and have told her many times that i don't want to pressure her but i do want to be alone with her and more relaxed, she says it will happen when she is "ready". She has been taking up a lot of my time during those 2 weeks. Constant communication. Yet she only wants to meet me when it suits her, where it suits her, and not to be alone. I don't like this and i am thinking about cancelling our next date. Forgive me for being blunt, but isn't a 30 year old woman, supposedly 1,5 year without sex, and dating a man she claims she likes very much physically, supposed to want to have sex with him after 4 dates? Or at the very least, being alone with him? Is there a possibility her ex is still in her life, just for sex, and so she doesn't feel the need to get intimate with me? Am i wrong for wanting to become more intimate this fast? I would like to read your opinions.
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