mguevara209 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 My boyfriend is moving 3 hours away to start his MA program. We both graduate next year and start grad school, but I'm staying at the same university to get my MA. We've only been dating for 9 months now. I know it's too soon for it to be a serious relationship, but considering the fact that he's going to move away, should I break up with him? I love him very much; we have so much in common, and we even have similar life goals, except the fact that he's moving for a few years to go to grad school. I love him, but if we are going to do a LDR, I'd rather break up with him now then later when it's harder. What do you guys think?
K2z Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 I think it depends on your age and priorities. If you truly love each other, I would consider marrying and deferring your MA plans until he's done. Then start your degree, and he makes the same compromise, coming to be near you. [Edit: or vice versa. He defers, and stays near you.] Compared to the pain of breakup that so many are experiencing on this forum, this plan is only mildly inconvenient.
Author mguevara209 Posted September 24, 2015 Author Posted September 24, 2015 By the way, I'm turning 24 soon, and he's turning 26 in a couple of months.
Liono84 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 I think just the fact that you're on this site, and thinking about it, means that you are; If you loved him you wouldn't ask this question nor put distance as an underlying factor.
sparkles_and_me Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Distance shouldn't be a reason to break up with someone. I wouldn't. If you really love each other you wouldn't even think about breaking up. You can definitely work things out if both parties are willing.
thejabberwocky Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 If it were me, I would wait to see how it is before just breaking up over no reason. You can always breakup if it gets too difficult later on. But it doesn't seem like you're that into him anyway if you're asking, so maybe that's a sign...
mightycpa Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Yes. You are both going to experience a lot of personal growth, and you're going to become very close with at least a large handful of accomplished and exceptional people. As you both grow apart from each other, it is only natural that you will also grow apart, because your experiences will differ. If you breakup now for all the right reasons, you may find that it is easier to reconcile for all the right reasons later on. Of course there are no guarantees, but the closest thing to a guarantee that I can give you is that two people dating long distance in their mid-twenties going to grad school in different places are bound to breakup sooner or later. One of them is going to get pretty torn up over it too.
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