Frazzle Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 I met this girl at work. We became friendly and she really helped me with networking opportunities for my career. She would let me know if there were job opportunities available or offered to edit my resume. We would grab lunch at work. I became interested in her so I asked her to grab lunch with me. She turned me down implying that she had a boyfriend. So I got the hint and just tried to be friends with her. After I left work, we still kept in touch through text. She still offered me career advice and we would text every couple of weeks. I said I owed her a favor so she asked me to teach her Spanish. We became friends and would mostly text but she would always dodge my invitations to grab lunch. Fast forward... I got a nice job offer that required me to take a test. It was a test done online at home and she went even so far as to offer to help me over the phone or in her words to "offer me moral support." We finally grabbed lunch to celebrate my getting the new job. Basically, we only hung out once after I quit my job. So I got the job and moved out of state. We still keep in touch and recently she offered to send me some foods and snacks from back home that I can't find in my area. I appreciate her friendship and I am no longer interested in her because I know we wouldn't be compatible but I am still attracted to her. I don't know if I'm reading too much into this as a result of my attraction but she's acting too friendly when she knows I used to be or could still be interested in her. Is there something going on from her side as well? Could she be stringing me along in case her current relationship doesn't work out? Or is she just genuinely being a good friend?
Stage5Clinger Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Sounds like just a good friend. Try not to mess that up in pursuit for something more. She sounds decent.
mystikmind2005 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Its good to have friends,,,, it also good to have friends if you break up. Weather it is or is not the motive for having the friends in the first place, well, tomato tomarto
Jules Dash Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 She doesn't seem to be leading you on at all. Sounds like a friendly person.
Buddhist Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 I really dont see anything in your story that indicates she is stringing you along to be honest. Offering to send you snacks is just a nice thing to do.
xcupid Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 She's being supportive and a good friend. Nothing more. You're reading too much into it.
Author Frazzle Posted September 24, 2015 Author Posted September 24, 2015 I really dont see anything in your story that indicates she is stringing you along to be honest. Offering to send you snacks is just a nice thing to do. I guess I'm just curious because normally when people know you like them, they tend to keep their distance and avoid being overly nice so there is no misunderstanding. Also, why does she keep avoiding hanging out with me but continues to help me?
Zippy2000 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 (edited) Youve been told she has a boyfriend. She declines the chance to be with you. She isnt leading you on. YOU ARE LEADING YOURSELF ON! Your coming onto a dating forum to get more insight and validation in your thoughts be we are all saying she is STILL nice enough to be nothing more than friends. Dont over step that mark or you will lose her.......................as a friend! Edited September 24, 2015 by Zippy2000 Spelling
road Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 I guess I'm just curious because normally when people know you like them, they tend to keep their distance and avoid being overly nice so there is no misunderstanding. Also, why does she keep avoiding hanging out with me but continues to help me? Youve been told she has a boyfriend. She declines the chance to be with you. She isnt leading you on. YOU ARE LEADING YOURSELF ON! Your coming onto a dating forum to get more insight and validation in your thoughts be we are all saying she is STILL nice enough to be nothing more than friends. Dont over step that mark or you will lose her.......................as a friend! Another reason not to have same sex friends.
d0nnivain Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 She's trying to be a supportive friend but avoiding hanging out with you is her line in the sand . . . it's where she puts her boundary so there is no misunderstanding. EA's aside, you can't really cheat if you don't touch so e-mails, texts, career advice etc. none of which constitute emotional oversharing on her part don't violate her relationship with her BF Because you want there to be something more, you see hope in many gestures when it just isn't there.
kendahke Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Also, why does she keep avoiding hanging out with me but continues to help me? Because helping you doesn't require that she physically be in close proximity to you. Hanging with you does. She's not available. There is nothing more to read into this.
kendahke Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 YOU ARE LEADING YOURSELF ON! exactly. all of this exists only in your head, OP. 1
Strahatmak Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 You over think LOL Just keep in touch as friends. She's friendly and decent.
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