Atticus9292012 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 So I reconnected with an old flame recently via Facebook. I sent what I thought would be a quick drop in to say hi that turned into a 2 hour conversation. A little bit of back story. We kinda had a thing when i was young. Teenage years. We broke up. He met a girl after that, they got engaged and well I ran into him a couple years after. They had broken up. I was in an on again off again relationship with someone and he pretty aggressively pursued me. He called me drunk and told me he loved me once. I always had an attraction to him and liked him, but I was pretty hung up on other guy at that time. He didn't take my non reciprocating too well. I could tell he was really embarrassed. Well, recently came up as a suggested friend on Facebook and I added him and then hence the reconnection... We basically caught up, talked about interests and various things.... I talked about this meetup I wanna try where you bring wine and you sketch. I love art and well I was telling him about it and he suggested he go with me. I was kinda taken aback by this and I said I'd look at the calendar and let him know. Then we started talking about me coming to where he lives and going hiking. I was receptive, but I didn't wanna commit to an exact time frame. We kept talking about it and he kept saying..."I'm serious." He lives about 2.5 hours away. He brought up various things we could do in his city. I was positive, but maintained a non commital posture. Eventually he said he needed to go to bed. It was about midnight at this point. He asks me to message him, and I said well heres my number and he said he'd text or call soon. Well 3 days later and nothing. I would like to talk to him more. We had a really nice chat the other night, and maybe meet up if it goes well. So should I reach out? I feel like me giving him my number was a pretty clear "putting the ball in his court," so i feel like he should reach out now :/
Ami1uwant Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 2.5 hrs apart is not an easy travel.. This is something likely on the back burner until a time he goes to your city.
mystikmind2005 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Nope,,, no, sorry, there is a past rejection here, so your going to have to do much better than just giving him your number.
Zippy2000 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Past lives reconnecting after a bit of "history". Can it work? Maybe but youve been here before. Tread carefully.
d0nnivain Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 If you want to see this guy you will have to reach out. You rejected him in the past. During your chat he made several overtures & you rejected all of them. In that posture, how on Earth do you think he thinks it's OK to call you again? When you do call have a plan or at least the date / time for this wine sketch meetup event.
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