theseaofred1982 Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I've been seeing this woman for 3 weeks now, she and her roommate happen to be my neighbor. We'll call her CC and her roommate JJ. JJ happens to be a good acquaintance of mine so I know way to much about CC from the get to. CC who's 22 had been divorced for about 3 months now and since her divorce she's been rather promiscuous. I'm a 30 yr old man with 3 kids; she's about a 9 and I'm a 5 lol. CC has had many partners (which doesnt bother me) which usually last from 2 weeks to 1 month. She's very open about having sex right away, and all her relationship ends up being purely about sex, then she gets bored and moves on rather quickly. One time I volunteered to be their designated drunk driver and took them back to their apartment where she slept with a guy she recently me. JJ tells me she doesn't want to be in a relationship. We started talking and she seemed so interested in me and my hobbies, but I've noticed that the only time CC ever does anything, is with a man. Meaning she doesn't have a hobby or passion about anything unless she's doing it with another guy. When her and I started talking, we slept together the next day. But her past relationship, if you want to call it that gave me a good insight of what I think I needed to do. So, rather than making this purely sexual, I planned a daily activities for us to do. We go to the gym together, go bowling, yoga class, etc. I try to do everything for her to make her feel wanted and needed. Bring her lunch at work, flowers all that romantic stuff lol..Recently she said she wants to be with me. I've very happy, but I'm also aware of how quickly she moves on from one guy to the next. I want her to be me, not just my hunger for life. It's hard to fathom that a gorgeous 22 year old want a 30 year old man who has 3 kids. What would you do in my situation?
menyou Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I've been seeing this woman for 3 weeks now, she and her roommate happen to be my neighbor. We'll call her CC and her roommate JJ. JJ happens to be a good acquaintance of mine so I know way to much about CC from the get to. CC who's 22 had been divorced for about 3 months now and since her divorce she's been rather promiscuous. I'm a 30 yr old man with 3 kids; she's about a 9 and I'm a 5 lol. CC has had many partners (which doesnt bother me) which usually last from 2 weeks to 1 month. She's very open about having sex right away, and all her relationship ends up being purely about sex, then she gets bored and moves on rather quickly. One time I volunteered to be their designated drunk driver and took them back to their apartment where she slept with a guy she recently me. JJ tells me she doesn't want to be in a relationship. We started talking and she seemed so interested in me and my hobbies, but I've noticed that the only time CC ever does anything, is with a man. Meaning she doesn't have a hobby or passion about anything unless she's doing it with another guy. When her and I started talking, we slept together the next day. But her past relationship, if you want to call it that gave me a good insight of what I think I needed to do. So, rather than making this purely sexual, I planned a daily activities for us to do. We go to the gym together, go bowling, yoga class, etc. I try to do everything for her to make her feel wanted and needed. Bring her lunch at work, flowers all that romantic stuff lol..Recently she said she wants to be with me. I've very happy, but I'm also aware of how quickly she moves on from one guy to the next. I want her to be me, not just my hunger for life. It's hard to fathom that a gorgeous 22 year old want a 30 year old man who has 3 kids. What would you do in my situation? Enjoy it while it lasts, and zero expectations. 1
kendahke Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 I've been seeing this woman for 3 weeks now, she and her roommate happen to be my neighbor. We'll call her CC and her roommate JJ. JJ happens to be a good acquaintance of mine so I know way to much about CC from the get to. CC who's 22 had been divorced for about 3 months now and since her divorce she's been rather promiscuous. I'm a 30 yr old man with 3 kids; she's about a 9 and I'm a 5 lol. CC has had many partners (which doesnt bother me) which usually last from 2 weeks to 1 month. She's very open about having sex right away, and all her relationship ends up being purely about sex, then she gets bored and moves on rather quickly. One time I volunteered to be their designated drunk driver and took them back to their apartment where she slept with a guy she recently me. JJ tells me she doesn't want to be in a relationship. We started talking and she seemed so interested in me and my hobbies, but I've noticed that the only time CC ever does anything, is with a man. Meaning she doesn't have a hobby or passion about anything unless she's doing it with another guy. When her and I started talking, we slept together the next day. But her past relationship, if you want to call it that gave me a good insight of what I think I needed to do. So, rather than making this purely sexual, I planned a daily activities for us to do. We go to the gym together, go bowling, yoga class, etc. I try to do everything for her to make her feel wanted and needed. Bring her lunch at work, flowers all that romantic stuff lol..Recently she said she wants to be with me. I've very happy, but I'm also aware of how quickly she moves on from one guy to the next. I want her to be me, not just my hunger for life. It's hard to fathom that a gorgeous 22 year old want a 30 year old man who has 3 kids. What would you do in my situation? SHE IS IN REBOUND STAGE RIGHT NOW!!! 3 month post divorce is someone who is not at all interested in being locked down in a committed relationship when she just got out of one. Doesn't matter who instigated the divorce. She's in no head or heart space to be of any good to any man at this point in her life. She is where she is. She's entitled to be there as long as she's open with you about what her intentions are. You need to ask her that question directly once you're done reading this. You need to know that answer because she's not going to change who she is: she doesn't want a relationship right now. And you know this. Going in. You can't then act "brand new" when she does the only thing she knows how to do: be CC where CC is at this point in CC's post-divorce life. Tread carefully and keep your heart out of the matter. Have fun; let it be just what it is and nothing more.
Maggie4 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 You have to be the one to make the right choice, despite what she might promise you, because she may be confused, swept off her feet, she might change her mind, etc. I don't think she can handle the 3 children, but she says she wants to be with you. Well, the children are not going away any time soon. So she has not thought this through. You have to.
menyou Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Sounds like classic CC to me. What's the joke here? Lol And we must remember that this chick is 22. Oh if I could go back to 22........
h0000 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 SHE IS IN REBOUND STAGE RIGHT NOW!!! 3 month post divorce is someone who is not at all interested in being locked down in a committed relationship when she just got out of one. Doesn't matter who instigated the divorce. She's in no head or heart space to be of any good to any man at this point in her life. we. Given that she's rather promiscuous and all her relationships were just sex (OP's words) I would say she is never out of rebound stage. Her whole life is about rebounds. I don't understand how any sane guy could possibly want anything serious from a woman like her.
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