Viola25 Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 (edited) Hi everyone! I have some doubts. We hit off really good druing the summer where we met. He is my friend's friend. I've thought it was going to be just one hook up for a weekend, nothing more then that since he lives in another country. My friend invited me over to his place in that other country for a month. So I've started to see this guy at the parties and we hooked up a lot of times there. He is a nice guy and he likes me. I am not doubting that. 2 weeks ago I came back home. The thing is that I was never into someone this much. I am acting like a teenager and I am 30! I am pushing things a bit. I texted him a lot. He didn't get cold and the issue is not that he got turned off by me texting him or anything like that. We have iternal jokes about everyday life, sports, our friends, things that happen and stuff. He laughs at my texts and I do make him laugh a lot. I am brutally honest with him, I told him that I like him and stuff. Anway after some of my neurotic texting novel stuff, he is still into me. My friend was recently at my hometown visiting some chick that dumped him. He is good friends with my crush. I actually fancy my friend and I think my crush knows that Last weekend I got drunk and had a party with my friend..So I texted him at 3 am, that we are having fun and that he is staying at my place since that chick dumped him. I also said that our friend is hooking me up with some guys and that I don't like anyone. OMG! Sometimes my crush reply and sometimes he doesn't. My friend told me my crush is a closed off person and that he barely replies and textes anyway to anyone. He is a private person also and doesn't shows his emotions much. My friend told me that he definately likes me, but that he doesn't know how much. My problem is that I am visiting my crush in a month and a half. I didn't plan that, neither did he invited me. He said that he would like to see me again when I was leaving his country and that he thinks that we will see each other again. All I said to that was OK and kissed him and left his apartment. Since things wierdly happened in "our" favor and I am coming to the country he lives in now because he got some intership there for a few months. I've told him that it's a fate and that I will make his wish come true somehow, because I will be there for 10 days in his new town anyway because I am having some business meeting. He seemed excited about it. Last week thought my business education course will fail, so I didn't say that I will not come..Just that there are chances that it will be in another city. A guy freaked out a bit.. My point is that I didn't plan these thing to happen to me at all, I even didn't plan to fall for somebody so hard. Bloody hell! The more times passes by and the more I think about it. Somehow I think it's the best way to just let it go. If he texts to me in this month and a half, I should reply but not too much. If he doesn't texts at all, I don't know if I should text him a week or two before my trip? My friend said that I should text him 'Hey, just to let you know I am coming in two weeks for sure, so I hope you are still interested to see me' I even told my friend that this long distance hookups don't even make any sense. What next? He could also come back to my friend's house this spring and so on and so on. And we will just be people who would hook up and have fun every 3 months. Things happened as they did for now. I don't know how to behave when I see him there. Should I talk to him about it? Or....? I should just go, have fun and forget him afterwards and completly write him off because he lives too far? No contact after, no nothing, no plans, no trips. If he visit my friend this summer again. I should just let it go? I was never in this situation. I am getting lost. I don't even know what he thinks of me and my friend. He was always jelaous of him. He didn't complain or anything, but I've seen he is always next to me whenever I would hang out with my friend. And now he slept at my house. Is it a good thing? To make someone jelaous a bit if he is already jelaous? To push things up from his side if he cares? Edited September 23, 2015 by Viola25
mystikmind2005 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Your post is a little confusing.... Anyway, seems to be what you have is a FWB, probably best not to get your hopes up for more than that.
Buddhist Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 What was the question again? Sorry but I got lost reading about a 30yr old who still acts like a 21yr old and can't quite fathom the idea of having a real relationship with someone who likes her. Oh yes. You're confused because you've never done anything other than masturbate with another person's body and this whole, learning to relate thing is rather confusing. My advice, it's better late than never. 1
casey.lives Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 sure see him if you have nothing else to do. nothing to lose
Zippy2000 Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Sorry I have no idea what your asking and I read it 3 times!
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