opalant Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 Was with my ex for 3 years and 3 months, he was emotionally and physically abusive and broke up with me 4 months ago. Because I've had my ex blocked I haven't found out any information about him and he hasn't been able to contact me so I haven't thought about him all that much, I'm swamped at college so I've been super busy and I was talking to another guy for a few weeks too but I decided I didn't like him enough to pursue it further and broke it off. Anyway I saw my ex today after weeks apart because of my ride to work. He claims he hates me and never wants to see me again (I don't know why, I haven't done or said anything to him) but that riding in the car is easier so we're just going to have to put up with seeing each other. When I see him I don't really feel love towards him I do a bit but it's more or less just a neutral feeling with a hint of nostalgia about our memories together. He does and says the same things that used to annoy me during the relationship and it doesn't make me want him back, in fact it pushes me to move on more. But he kept bragging about how he's texting this girl, he sent her a voice note calling her beautiful, was texting her the entire car journey and was talking to his friend on the phone saying how he's going on a date all day Friday and he's really excited, all while I was in the back of the car. I know he's going to move on, so am I, and I know I shouldn't let it bother me and I'm trying but it's just making me feel so rubbish, he's near enough with someone else already and I just feel like seen as he abused me he doesn't deserve to be happy. But the thing that hurts the most is that he's treating her so much better than me, he's doing all the things I asked him to do. He always used to moan about texting me, never wanted to go out on dates, he was selfish and now he's being so nice to her. I'm worried that he's learnt from his mistakes from me and now she's reaping the benefits. Even if he changed for me I wouldn't take him back because of what he's done to me, but why should she get what I wanted? Why should he be happy after he hit me and I be left to feel upset? One thing that's been sticking in my mind as well is that he said 'you should feel privileged, I'm only a d**k to you, no one else ' it makes me feel like there's something wrong with me. I don't know what to do, I just want to keep moving on but I just feel like I keep falling back into being upset again.
Protec Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 That ex of yours reminds of my Ex-girlfriend. She is also bragging about having dates, having fun etc. and her life is SOOOO much better without me. And she is also a d**k towards me, only me. There is nothing wrong with you. Did your BF have a rough past? Maybe trouble in family? Divorced parents etc? But be sure, he will treat the new girl exactly the same way he treated you. Remember when you met? Whas he nice towards you at first and then little by little started changing? He will do the same thing to new girl too. These kind of people will never find true happiness. I am sure of it. 1
Author opalant Posted September 23, 2015 Author Posted September 23, 2015 I really feel for you, it sucks doesn't it? Everyone thinks I'm the bad guy too because he hides it from everyone else. His parents are still together, he has a history of ADD but he swears he never had it his Mum just over reacted and he was depressed and suicidal when I met him but became better after a few months. He was so charming when I first met him, I trusted him with my life so quickly because he treated me so well and then slowly he changed but when I noticed it was too late. I don't want what happened to me to happen to anyone else, but I'm kind of hoping he does go back to his old ways, I don't want to think that he's changing the things that I wanted him to change for another girl. -.- 1
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