AnnoyedEx Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 About two months ago I broke up with my ex. Two weeks ago I had a friend come up to me and show me this forum. She showed me that my ex was posting here. Being the curious cat I am, I read the post. Until now, I have been laying low. I know that break up are hard and that sometimes people just need to vent to strangers. Get an option outside of the circle that know you. With that being said.. My ex has been completely lying on here. Its almost humorous how much lies he has been telling about the relationship. He fails to mention what lead up to me checking out of the relationship. What baffles me is how many people on here feed into what he is saying and without knowing the full situation let alone the truth, they judge me and im the one in the wrong. Please remember people just because someone gets broken up with, doesn't instantly make them the victim. He did a lot of questionable things in the years that we were together. I kept trying to forgive and forget what we went though but at the end, I couldn't. I never cheated and from the first day I met him, I was dedicated to him and our relationship. There just came a point where I could not hurt anymore. Im now very very very happy. My life has been doing nothing but moving up since the break up. Yes, I dont like that it had to emd, but its the best thing I did for ME. Thank you for reading. Like him, I just needed to vent. I dont plan on coming back here. He can vent as he pleases with lies and manipulation, as long as he gets better and is able to move on like I have. Have a wonderful week! -The Ex
stillafool Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 We have no idea who you are referring to. Who is your Ex?
d0nnivain Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 It's an internet forum. We can only give advice based on what we are told. We don't verify. You certainly didn't say that based on what we were told, the advice being given was improper. You are -- vaguely -- offering the idea that what certainly people post isn't entirely true. OK, fine. But I'm not going to start assuming every OP is lying. Perhaps from the poster's perspective that is how they view the situation. Granted if the facts were different, the advice would be different but if vanilla ice cream was make from chocolate it wouldn't be vanilla. Since your EX is your EX, let him heal as he sees fit. Nobody here knows either of you & we're not really judging. But here's the thing: somebody comes on here & says their EX hit them, we're all gonna say the EX is a bad person. Clearly if that is a lie & the EX never laid a hand on the poster, then IRL they are not a bad person but we can't know that & our opinions all lose validity of the underlying facts are different then as otherwise stated.
Christos Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 We all use nicknames here, how can she know who her ex is? There are billions of people in the world... And break ups happen every day... In any case, this thread serves no purpose, other than to state the obvious, that we simply can only judge a situation from one point of view. We never get the opportunity to see what the other side has to tell in defence of their actions. STILL, that doesn't invalidate the advice we are giving. Based on those facts, we are giving accurate advice. If for some reason, the poster wants to hide or lie about things, it's his problem, he is going to reach wrong conclusions, not us.
pidgeon1010 Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 With that reasoning, people who need help after relationships have ended (or any other situation where other people are involved) would never see a therapist because the other party is not available to give their side of the story. In any event, we all know that usually the truth is somehow in the middle. I am not implying posters on here are therapists but I don't think anyone ever offers their opinion as gospel. It is just opinion based on the facts presented. You are now very very very happy but yet took the time to visit a website that a friend told you about, to see what your ex was posting in a forum that encourages such discussions and then actually went out of your way to create an account and lambast online strangers who offered him their opinion. "Like him, you needed to vent" with your side of the story. He had the freedom to do so too. BYE FELICIA.
DrReplyInRhymes Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 About two months ago I broke up with my ex. Two weeks ago I had a friend come up to me and show me this forum. She showed me that my ex was posting here. Being the curious cat I am, I read the post. Until now, I have been laying low. I know that break up are hard and that sometimes people just need to vent to strangers. Get an option outside of the circle that know you. With that being said.. My ex has been completely lying on here. Its almost humorous how much lies he has been telling about the relationship. He fails to mention what lead up to me checking out of the relationship. What baffles me is how many people on here feed into what he is saying and without knowing the full situation let alone the truth, they judge me and im the one in the wrong. Please remember people just because someone gets broken up with, doesn't instantly make them the victim. He did a lot of questionable things in the years that we were together. I kept trying to forgive and forget what we went though but at the end, I couldn't. I never cheated and from the first day I met him, I was dedicated to him and our relationship. There just came a point where I could not hurt anymore. Im now very very very happy. My life has been doing nothing but moving up since the break up. Yes, I dont like that it had to emd, but its the best thing I did for ME. Thank you for reading. Like him, I just needed to vent. I dont plan on coming back here. He can vent as he pleases with lies and manipulation, as long as he gets better and is able to move on like I have. Have a wonderful week! -The Ex I never cheated and from the first day I met him, I was dedicated to him and our relationship. Well, you aren't my ex... 1
Meli22 Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 We give opinions and speak of one side of the story because that's all we're told. This thread is pointless without names. Spill or more maturely, have it out with your ex.
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