Author scooby-philly Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 And turns out while #4 wasn't too impacted by her father's lose - seems she's a workaholic with a lot going on. Never initiates texts/conversations. Called her last night - asked if she could call me later. I said okay. She texts later and says she's busy through the weekend we can "touch base" after that. Done.
Miss Peach Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 (edited) You could really make a push on girl 3. "That's so sad about your father! Can I take you out to dinner and help get your mind off things?" Give her a big hug right when you meet if she appears accepting of it. Could just be some bad luck. In general OLD should go like this: 1. a few brief messages, just 2 or 3 to show interest. 2. on the 3rd message say "I'd like to meet you for a drink. Can I call you to set it up? My number is xxx. What's yours?" I always offer my number first, even though I'm still always the one who will be calling her. Just seems to work that way. Sometimes the woman texts me direct and that's how I end up with the number. 3. When she sends her number, text her to acknowledge "Hey it's John. When is a good time to call? ...or I have softball tonight, can I call you at 8:30 when it's done?" (you better have exchanged names in those 3 emails. Get a SPECIFIC time and follow through. 4. Call, have 2 or 3 places in mind. I always ask a woman what side of town she lives and try to pick something convenient for her. Make this process quick and efficient. Call within 24 hours if at all possible. Don't wait several days to call her the 1st time. Don't bother with a girl who won't give her number. I agree with this in general. I would be fine moving things offline with something like this. There are a lot of guys who message me/text me forever and after awhile I assume they are looking for pen pals and cut it off. The only difference if I like a brief phone chat first before meeting. I nearly always insist on that before meeting in person. There are a lot of guys who will only text so I don't meet those guys. But I am happy to give my number, talk, and meet after a few messages as long as they aren't 1-2 sentence type messages. I also don't lead beyond a potential first message saying I'm here on OLD. So don't get discouraged if a woman doesn't initiate. Having said that I always reply within a few hours usually. Edited October 15, 2015 by Miss Peach
Author scooby-philly Posted October 22, 2015 Author Posted October 22, 2015 I agree with this in general. I would be fine moving things offline with something like this. There are a lot of guys who message me/text me forever and after awhile I assume they are looking for pen pals and cut it off. Yeah - it's got to respect ebb and flow and people's schedules. But there is a cut off for email & text. The only difference if I like a brief phone chat first before meeting. I nearly always insist on that before meeting in person. There are a lot of guys who will only text so I don't meet those guys. But I am happy to give my number, talk, and meet after a few messages as long as they aren't 1-2 sentence type messages.Oh - I agree. You need to see if there's even that spark in conversation before trying to meet up. No offense to women, but I don't mind paying for the first two-three dates. But every once in a while when you know 5-10 into a conversation on the first date it isn't the right fit, then I hate having not tried to pay more attention on the phone. though, sometimes you just don't no I also don't lead beyond a potential first message saying I'm here on OLD. So don't get discouraged if a woman doesn't initiate. Having said that I always reply within a few hours usually.Yeah - it's pretty tough for guys. Particularly when a woman thinks and says she wants somebody mature, stable, good career, etc but still wants to party or be a rebel. That's fine - just be honest with yourself.
Author scooby-philly Posted October 22, 2015 Author Posted October 22, 2015 Seriously.....#4 just texted "did i enjoy the presidential debate" last week? Seriously? I called her last tuesday or Wednesday. She said she'd call me back later that night and then she texted "oh - I'm super busy this coming weekend, let's "touch base" next week. Seriously? (sorry for the over use of that word but that's how I feel) You went two weeks without talking to me before, now you want to go another 7-8 days of no communication and then just pick up things? Any thoughts? I mean, I'm happy that she reached out - but I can't really get to know someone if we string things along. I've learned from experience that people prove what they want through actions so this has me a bit confused. She's not stopped communicating, but it's on the pace of a turtle. With my bigger lenses on I know that I shouldn't rush to send a message. Should I say something like "I had fun on our dates, but I'm not the type of person to go a week or two without communicating"? I want to find someone who would talk to me every night if we're together.
PegNosePete Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 "I had fun on our dates, but I'm not the type of person to go a week or two without communicating"? What do you think that will achieve? If you're not interested, then don't bother to reply. If you are interested, scolding her like a naughty child is probably not a good idea.
Author scooby-philly Posted October 22, 2015 Author Posted October 22, 2015 Yes, you are right. I responded - but I think more out of politeness. I did say "would like to hang out soon". We'll see what happens. At this point, she has to initiate things or I'm done. Moving on!
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